I recently purchased the emi jay ‘iconic velvet bow barrette in noir’ and was very underwhelmed with what I received. I got it because the website stated it was 4” x 1” x 8”. But when I received it, it was so tiny I thought I ordered the mini.

I measured it only for it to have a whole two inches missing (depending on where I measure from). See pics. They tell me that because they’re hand crafted they might vary but no where on the website does it mention they’re hand crafted so these slight variations may occur. But 2” being “slight variations” is kinda crazy.

Emi jay bow barrette scam


This is my mini reivew for anyone who has been looking into purchasing an Emi Jay hairbrush. The brush retails for $48 plus shipping. Please keep that in mind.

Long story short, I'm underwhelmed.

I purchased from Emi Jay during their black friday and got it for around $40. I've seen several influencer videos and decided to take a plunge.

The brush I received had bent nylon bristles that couldn't be bent back and uneven lengths of the boar bristles. Now, I've never had a $50 hairbrush but I was expecting some even unbent bristles.

I spoke to customer service and they refused to offer a replacement and stated that the bent bristles and uneven bristles are intentional. Please be advised their hair brushes are final sale.

If you are OK with that for a $50 (and more cause of shipping) hairbrush then go ahead and purchase. If not, please utilize my review as a precaution.

Brushing hair wise, I haven't used it since I was waiting for a customer service response. However I will have to use it.

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how did you clip up the back of your hair? our hair is similar & yours is gorgeous!!


Use tiny claw clips, flip your head upside down and clip up the back of your hair. I use about 3 clips towards the back of my head cuz I'm a side sleeper. Then cover with a bonnet.


Can you share where/ how you are clipping your hair? Truly, your results here are stunning ✨


Not a pic of me but this is the tutorial I followed. I placed the clips higher up because my hair is longer than the pic. Thank you!!

https://preview.redd.it/xqny0w0m48bh1.jpeg?width=2408&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc77747a499349b322f26e29e55247a3fb945666


Can you share the link to the tutorial?


Ive tried this but then my hair the next morning just stays up 😭 granted i have curlier hair but nothing seems to work


This made me giggle. My hair will do this if I've used just a touch more curl cream than usual. Maybe try evaluating your routine to see if you're using too much product now?

Curly hair has a "memory" since it's hollow so if it's been curling nice for a while now, you may need less product for it to behave than you used to (yes that is a thing)!


So i experimented a bit with my hair, even with no product just shampoo conditioner and water, my hair will still tend to fix itself in the position i put it in. Its less stiff but still there


So just the back not the front?


Yea just the back so all my hair is at the front then I put a bonnet on


And tysmmm


drop the routine omg your hair is gorgeous


Thank you sm!! I've just added my routine


I find pineapple method works the best!!


I’ve tried clipping and I just can’t sleep. My hair is shorter and a lot less dense than hers - I will say the pineapple changed my routine completely- I used to alternate between washing one day and putting my hair in a regular ponytail the next because I couldn’t wear it down after sleeping on it. Any protective night style I think is huge. And her hair is AMAZING so glad that’s working for her!


So true, I switched from a silk scrunchie to a jaw clip and never looked back. Love your hair cut btw, super cute!!


Thank you! I cut it myself :))


Your hair is literally amazing!!!


Products?


Shampoo - head and shoulders or Method moisturising shampoo
Conditioner- Method moisturising conditioner
Leave in conditioner- Cantu leave in repair cream
Mousse- got2b twisted curling mousse (strongly recommend it's so good)
Gel- Eco olive oil styling gel
Garnier method shape refresh spray (on the ends)
Got2b powder full volume powder


Do you have a photo of the Cantu cream? I see several online :-) thanks!


THIS IS GLORIOUS! So jealous


Love your hair!  My daughter is 8, you look like an older version of her!


Ur hair is what dreams are made of, color and cut is chefs kiss!


Thank youu!! I cut it myself :)


SHOW US PLZ 🙏🏼


It's a grown out wolf cut 😭 I've kept trimming the short layers. I used the brad Mondo wolf cut tutorial just to trim the ends now


You MASTERED it! Wow!


By closing your eyes? Coulda asked us about that sooner!!


I was gonna say something similar 😂

The title combined with the pictures of her eyes closed, I was like "Okay, so I need to sleep sitting up"


vampire-style


Can you post a pic of how you’re clipping up your hair?


Not a pic of me this is the tutorial I followed. Although I placed the clips higher up because my hair is longer than hers in the pic.

https://preview.redd.it/nryu7rpu28bh1.jpeg?width=2408&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e858c99bae9f5db6e580e8da7528df7e5eed8f1d


Can you share the tutorial video?


Posted a pic in the comments


How do you get your curls so well set on top of your head as well.mine just go flat on top and curls from mid length which feels so unkept


Also, omg you have a very rigorous hair routine. Good for you that you follow through.


No middle part, use a large clawclip on your roots and leave it for as long as you can, and then texturising powder.


Oo that's a good advice. Will order one right now thanks


What position do you put the claw clip in? What texturing powder?
Your curls are amazing. Thanks for sharing!


We need a pic of how you clip. That’s amazing!


Agree, please!


I’m gonna try this!! My hair is much longer than yours so it may get flattened down a bit still, but this method seems promising.

Also I love your freckles


you look like a children's book character in the best way possible


Like a princess


That is the best compliment omg


Your hair looks beautiful but do the clips dig in to your scalp while you sleep?


Noo because I clipped them right at the back of my head and I'm a side sleeper it was fine after a bit of adjusting


Ah I didn't think of that, I will give it a try. Thank you for responding.


Genuinely, protect yourself before Pixar or Disney try to use your likeness


She reminds me of that girl from Brave!


YES and she's my favorite!! 🥹 OP, youre gorgeous 🫶


Hair looks so good I thought it was fake


GENUINELY had to take a minute to ask myself if this is AI. Her hair is lovely!


Ramona Quimby


Age 8


I was about to say she'd look right at home on a kids TV show! Seriously perfect curls, it's insane


Can you share which products you’re using?


Edited the post and added the products :)


Thanks girl!!


Your haircut is goals.


Can I ask what kind of texturizing powder you use? I’m not familiar with that.


Got2b volume powder!


Thank you!


Incredible


Ethereal ✨


I never figured out how to sleep with my hair, even though it's short... it always ends up flat in the morning. but your hair is gorgeous! I'm glad things worked out for you.


Respectfully you are sosososo pretty:)


Omg thank youuu <3


Curly girl myself .. but damn those curls are perfect !!!!


I absolutely love your hair, It is gorgeous!


Amazing! Your hair is fantastic


Lovely!

![gif](giphy|tJTqC2BxKPUMHL89f9)


Your hair is stunning


Beautiful!!


Please show us how you clip it up. That’s the info we need.


I posted a pic in the comments:)


Omg. Your curls are majestic


Oh my god that singular curl on the forehead is SO CUTE


Respectfully, how much time do you spend on your hair when you shower? And How much time per day?

Your hair is gorgeous. Like wow. But I have 4 steps that already feel like a chore to complete. Your 10 steps are unfathomable to me.


Method Moisturising Shampoo – ~£7.00
Method Moisturising Conditioner – ~£7.00
Cantu Leave-In Conditioner – ~£6.50
got2b Twisted Curling Mousse – ~£4.50
Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel – ~£4.00
got2b Powder'ful Volume Powder – ~£5.50
Garnier Method Shape Refresh Spray – ~£7.00

Estimated total: £41.50 or $55

I spend probably 15 minutes styling and 30 min drying with a diffuser. But I do let it airdry some in-between.
I find the routine very therapeutic. I definitely cut down time by no longer brush styling my hair, and by protecting my hair properly when I sleep I don't have to refresh the next day


Method shampoo $13

Method conditioner $13

Cantu conditioner $14

Got2b curl mousse $10

Eco styler styling gel olive oil $12

Got2b powderful volume powder $12

Garnier method shape refresh spray $11

Total in Canada $95

I understand the meditative/therapeutic aspect of the routine being appealing. 30 minutes just to diffuse your hair still seems wild to me. What time do you wake up?


Damn canada is expensive. I do my hair before bed usually to save time in the mornings. I spend maybe 5-10 minutes on my hair in the shower, just quick shampoo then leave conditioner in for a few minutes. It's much quicker to diffuse my hair if i let it airdry, but that takes even longer really and I'm impatient lol.


I love your cut! Can I ask if your hair color is natural?


Noo it's not sadly but i want to go back to my natural hair which is a cool toned brown


Oh OK, this color suits you very well though.. what dye do you use?


Clairol nice and easy permanent dye 5a medium ash brown


Reminds me of St. Trina from Elden Ring


Can you show what your hair looks like when you clip it up for the night?


I posted a pic in the comments I can try take a pic myself tonight


very surprised to see how much the got2b mousse works for you, my hair hates it with the force of a thousand burning suns


Beautiful hair!

Found the video. Clipping method is ~16:00
https://youtu.be/oGRBshWcXtI?is=4uWx2XC3HitSLlVb


Yess this is the video! I did mine slightly differently, i clip the back only and then wear a bonnet


Interesting. I hate wearing bonnets 😆 so I just clip it up, kind of like she does but near the top of my head so I can sleep. Your method obviously works though. Looks great!


As I suspected there's no way this would work for a back sleeper like me


Yeah, I'm surprised she clipped it so low. I'm a side sleeper and still have to clip it up near the top to be comfortable


Is Got2Be the brand at Sally’s?


I can’t believe your hair looks so beautiful and you just discovered your curls MONTHS ago! Girl I’ve been at this for 6 years and mine don’t look as shiny and happy as yours. Also, you are so adorable and beautiful!


Tysmm <3 I'm surprised too because I have damage from years of heat plus a keratin treatment last year :( but I've made so much progress.


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Sorry for the formatting. Did it on my phone, and it looked good before posting, but now it's a bit wonky!


Do you know your hairs porosity?


I don't know for sure, but I think it's medium leaning to high, I can handle quite a bit of product before it feels weighed down and I find I need to use things with emolient ingredients like shea butter for it to feel truly moisturized.


What about your dry time? Trying to figure out if I should give the routine a try and if you take forever to dry, it’s definitely worth a shot.


If I have no products on it's definitely faster, with product it could be all day. I diffuse dry now to maybe 80% dry if I'm in a hurry and let if finish drying over the next few hours.


https://preview.redd.it/speywfzjvt3f1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=05436cc0b2a96050ec709c107122b5ef63b17363

Just kidding. Beautiful hair!!


Lmao. Me too though. 😐🥰


Looking good.  Congratulations


You have my dream hair. Just gorgeous! 💜


Awe, thank you! 💜


Ugh. Gorgeous. I think we have similar curls, and seeing what mine could look like if I took the time bums me out! The number of steps seems overwhelming! Which is why I mostly wear my hair up in a bun. But your curls are absolutely gorgeous, thank you for taking the time to type this all out, I will definitely refer to it in the future!


I know if feels like a lot. When you're doing it and get more practice it goes by pretty fast! Also, I highly, highly recommend the bounce curl brush, specially if you have similar curls! It saves me soooo much time! The curls clump so much easier.
I think the brush styling part takes me 15 minutes most days!


Which Bounce brush? I see a Define and a Volume model.


The original, which is the "Define" model


Thanks!


Beautiful hair! And that green dress REALLY compliments your eyes 💕


Thank you! I love tropical prints!


Lovely


Looks so pretty!


Stunning!!!


Are you sure you're not AI, because your hair looks almost too gorgeous to be real! Congratulations on finding products and a routine that work so well. Doesn't it feel wonderful having to do only minimal refreshing for several days?


🤣 That's too funny! Thank you! It feels so good. Refreshing can be as simple as just running my fingers through a curl and twirling it back into shape. I also have so many pictures of my hair now 😅


BRO?!!?!??? Your hair is to die for


Thank you! 🥰


Wow we have the exact same curl type and this is goals!! My hair does look like this occasionally but I’m too lazy to diffuse and air drying doesn’t give the same effect 😅

Thanks for sharing all the tips!


I feel you on the air drying, not looking the same! Mine always got frizzy because I'd lose patience waiting for it to dry or it'd get wonky curls from me sleeping on it a bit damp since I tend to wash my hair at night, or in the morning before work. It's also freezing where I live now for about 6 months of the year, so I converted to diffusing. That way, I can go about my day without worrying about it. Sensorially, it's also so much less stressful, I hate the feeling of wet hair on my back!

Hope the tips help! Using a good gel and that brush were my biggest "discoveries"


omg thank you for linking that butterfly DIY cut!! I'm so excited to try it myself :)
and you look gorgeous!!


Happy to share, I love it! Good luck, I'm sure it's going to turn out amazing! And thank you! 🥰


I tried it, and am very pleased!! I think my hair's not thick enough/ I didn't layer it enough so the butterflying isn't so butterfly. but really doesn't look too shabby at all. thank you so much again :)


Gorgeous! I also really liked the Cantu curl activator if I think about it! But I still have two full tubs of the shea moisture hibiscus curl smoothie sitting around😂 I think we’ve got pretty similar hair but mine is currently just not holding a curl mid-length and turns into literal ringlets in the ends… Would you mind posting a picture of the back of your head? I’d be so curious to see how the cut looks like!! I have a hair appointment coming up soon (first time in a year lol)!


The shea moisture is great too, leaves my hair super shiny but the results are a bit "softer" so it doesn't last me as long!

Haircuts are exciting! I definitely have several curl and wave patterns on my head. It'll be super tight twists in some areas, and then turn into ringlets at the bottom. Having layers and the brush styling helps bring out their own shape. Pic from this morning, it's a bit wilder that it'd normally, be at day 3, but I'm testing out a wash with pretty much just gel on my hair.

https://preview.redd.it/o4u6bvk8pw3f1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a75b8e26f2e72dd2ca5bd049f983a1abd316c6b1

I use the Dove Bond Strength shampoo and conditioner, and use the bounce curl define brush!


Thank you so much! You've got gorgeous hair!! I got a haircut today, we’ll see what it looks like once I’ve styled it. But you’ve inspired me to buy hair scissors today so I might go DIY!!


Thank you! That's awesome, I hope you love how it turned out! It feels really empowering to be able to cut your own hair.


We all jealous gurl 😭


So beautiful!!!!!


Wow, you deserve it, because that routine seems pretty exhausting. It is definitely worth it though. How long does it take you?


It takes me about 1 hour to detangle, wash, and style my hair once a week. So I wouldn't say it's that time-consuming. I'm front loading the effort so I can be lazy the rest of the week!

For comparison, washing my hair and blow drying it or barrel curling it, etc, takes me at least 1 and a half hours to do, closer to 2, and I'd have to do retouches throughout the week, like on my roots or the bangs.


Okay, that doesnt seem too bad :)


The curls are so beautiful, and your eyes also


So this is my sign i should try bangs 👀

And literally everything else you explained in your beautiful description.

I was kinda scared you were using some expensive fancy something or other in your routine but this is all super down to earth stuff just done really well. Thank you for this 🙏🏾


Try it! I didn't think they'd suit me, and some days, I still feel like it looks weird, but I've gotten soooo many compliments on my hair since 😅

Also, I feel you on the expensive products, just trying to find something that works we already spend so much money!


How do you cut/make your bangs? I've watched the waterfall wolf cut enough times to be brave enough to try it for myself, but searching for tutorials on bangs is getting daunting.


I watched a lot of tutorials like Manes by Mel and also Wayne Tuggle to prepare. I connect the bangs and the other layers by using the bangs as the end point for the front section of the Waterfall Wolf Cut.

For bangs, I just recommend you go slow and start longer than you think you want and go shorter as you see where they land. Also play around with bang heaviness, the farther back you go for the little triangle bang section, the thicker the bangs will be, but that will also make the rest of your hair not be as heavy or full. I tend to make adjustments after a day or so or as needed.

Here's some videos that are useful:
https://youtu.be/s880NcBu6Tk?si=GWh62WZfvgbgSkXY

https://youtu.be/X9TuKD6YQJk?si=o4wyH7zf_8DoqVrN

https://youtu.be/a0neCvtugqA?si=2so2uF-VCVqeOVuF


Thank you! 💖 I finally took the leap and did the Waterfall Wolf cut yesterday.  I'm still figuring out how it's all going to settle out from that 😂 so far i like it! I'll check out those videos and share progress when i do eventually try adding bangs 😁


I gotta try what you're doing because my hair looks almost exactly like your second photo nearly every day


Woooow !!! Your hair is PERFECT !!! You’re beautiful !


Where did you get ur glasses? They’re so cute!


Thank you! Those are from a few years back, but I got them from Zeelool


Omg you have incredible hair!!! Well done!


Thank you for taking the time to share. So many tips to try!


Any favorite conditioner?


I like the Dove Bond Strength line. I works well and helps the ends of my hair that are still bleached and dyed not break as much and also less tangly, within reason.


I GASPED!!! Well done well done omg 😆


Thank you! 🥰


I need a visual tutorial because WOW!


I promise I'm not doing anything revolutionary! I might be able to get a video sometime, but here's a couple of videos that are pretty close, I just use different products:

Hanzcurls: https://youtu.be/22-AFXmXv4s?si=OwOADFrfzz7lKJt4

Similar sectioning and brush styling. I don't scrunch the curls until I turn my head upside down if I do it at all. I don't really touch my hair until it's cast, and it doesn't move much lol

This is similar to what I do for the bangs: https://youtube.com/shorts/J89_tpN1RHM?si=vUqShtyiKf1XCcGG


You are a gem!


Gorgeous hair! My curl pattern is very similar to yours. I desperately want to try cutting my own hair but I am actually terrified. But also, the thought of a $150 curly cut in this economy makes my tummy turn, too! I'm going to revisit the video you shared, find some scissors (and courage) and try this in a few weeks!


You got this! I've been cutting my own hair for over a decade. Curly hair is great for it because uneveness is easy to hide!

Heads up that for layered haircuts like this, that do the ponytail technique, you need to cut about 2" off for you to be able to tell the difference in layers. Start small and slow and check after every step how it's looking. You can always cut more. If the bottom layer is too thin or too long for your liking, you can section hair in the middle and trim just the ends a bit so they blend better.


Thank you for the tip! 💕 Appreciate you sharing all of this


Happy to! 😊


You are I believe what many would call an artist's muse.


Fairy tale ringlets!! Beautiful!


Why is this kinda convincing me to get a bounce brush


Do it, so worth it!


im in LOVEEE!!! definitely a win


You are incredibly beautiful and do a fantastic job with your curls


Look at you putting Julia Roberts to shame. Well done.


GIRL YOUR HAIR IS SO BEAUTIFUL 💓 You should definitely get highlights or ombré as it would make your eyes pop out so much and contrast beautifully with your skin!!! I’m begging you lol


Haha, thank you! I've had my hair colored quite literally the whole rainbow and all lengths short of shaving.

I'm honestly tired of all the maintenance and the tangles from having bleached hair. Besides, I'm starting to get more grays, and I'm excited to see my hair in its full glory as I get older! Hoping for a at least 1 full white streak 😍


If i may ask, why do you use conditioner both before and after? I detangle my hair with conditioner directly after shampooing but I'm starting to think that this makes it too greasy, is that why?


I like to detangle my hair before shampoo because my hair can get really tangled and matted, and shampooing before detangling makes it worse. So I do it before to be able to detangle with minimal damage and then after for actual hydration.


Makes a lot of sense and it also seems helpful for less buildup. I'm gonna try it, also because you got really beautiful hair!


Thanks! Give it a try. If you don't already shampoo twice, I'd give that a go, too!


You don't use any leave in conditioner?? Would you say the curl activator is nourishing enough for coarse hair? 🤔
My hair get super dry after day 3 and get tangled so much 💀  I would be scared to skip leave in, but my hair seems similar to yours..


I'd give it a try! I find it pretty good at nourishing my hair. Maybe add it to the routine instead of skipping it?


Mh I'm scared it would weight down my hair too much. Leave in + curl activator + gel, would be too much and I really need the hold from gel haha so I can't skip gel, unless this curl activator gives lots of hold somehow?


No, I agree, gel is definitely a must! I do find the Cantu or the shea moisture to be plenty, no need to leave in for me.


Where did you get your glasses from?


Zeelool a few years back, I don't know if they still make them!


Your curls are to die for!!!


A


Thank you for the clear steps and description! Question: do you live in a humid or dry environment?


We get a bit of everything here! Summers are pretty humid, which is when I started looking for a gel that would do well in humidity and found the Ouidad gel.

I also tested a slightly different routine while visiting Brisbane AU last year, and it worked well, too! I had a travel size shea moisture smoothie and used that instead of the Cantu curl cream and also air dried.


Wowowow you are beautiful, i can't believe how different your hair is between pics!! You've absolutely smashed your routine 👏🏾
When you put your bangs in, did you find you had a cow lick from wearing your hair like in the 2nd pic? I am guilty of swooshing my hair like in the 2nd pic, and I have a massive cow lick 😂 but I also want bangs!!


Thank you! That other pic is a good hair day before, it felt unfair to share a bad hair day for the before lol.

I think I do have a tiny little widows peak, so I play with my bangs to keep the "curtain closed" 😆. I get a curl that always goes left from the middle. I noticed they get more determined to open closer to wash days.

I'd say give it a try, but maybe start with longer ones or whatever length you're comfortable styling as "not bangs" if you don't like it!

If you do try it and notice them being stuborn, try put your fingers in from the bottom, like a comb, close to my face and kind of smoosch/move the hair roots to the direction you want it to go more, and blast the bangs with the diffuser in that position when drying. Also, it can be done when dry, but not as easily.

I haven't really done bang only refreshes in a while, but that is another option to subdue unruly bangs, and a great way to keep a style going longer without washing and styling your whole head!


Mesmerizing curls….😳


HOLY CRAP! Amazing curls and you are absolutely stunning!


So pretty! I need to know the blue dye info! 🥰


I used Adore in Indigo Blue!


Thank you!


So beautiful I wish I could get my curls to come back and look like that!!! Gorgeous hair and face 🩷🫶💜💕


Your hair and eyes are absolutely stunning!


Thanks for sharing! I’m not one to condition before shampooing (and then conditioning again). I do comb my hair with a wide-toothed comb and it could lead to some breakage. Would you be willing to share why you condition both before and after?
Thank you again for sharing!


I think this method used to be more popular some years ago, might still be popular with the coily/kinky portion of our crowd, but IDK.

I personally still do it because I find it easier to detangle my hair before shampooing, as that step can make my tangles worse. Even with care, there's a lot of friction happening. I've always been tender headed, and my hair can get pretty tangled or even matted. I've had to deal with pretty bad mats before when battling depression. Some of those were all the way to my scalp in the back...the kind that you consider just shaving your hair off. Conditioning makes it easier/faster to detangle, with less breakage, pain or overstimulation involved. The second conditioning step is to actually condition my hair.

Might be overkill, but it works for me, I also shampoo twice before conditioner. 😅 It's also a good thing I use affordable products! If I used something higher end I'd be using a cheap conditioner to detangle.


Good for you! It makes sense given what you have experienced and I get that! I have been good with just the wide toothed comb but will keep this idea in mind in case my hair is ever more tangly than normal.
Thank you!


It’s so gorgeous to look at also

I hate to spend $54 on a hair brush but Emi jay is actually worth it guys


Let me preface - I love deals, sales, and genuinely think the prices of some stuff is robbery

Now I also do believe some quality is truly worth its price than dupes

Have any of you used emi jay and have found it worth the price? Is the quality worth the value long term?

I have curly hair and the amount of clips I’ve broken is exhausting. At that point I’ve bought cheaper clips so many times I could buy one expensive one.

I have ONE hair clip I bought overseas for $1 and I’ve had for SEVEN years. It’s a miracle but has no brand

EMI JAY


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Is the emi jay claw clip worth the hype?


ordered the new Emi Jay hair towel. it’s very thic which is amazing! i’m going to try it out tomorrow! i also got from the rewards bazaar the new lip dish! it came in a nice Sephora box! it’s a decent size for it too. i’ll be using for my jewelry. Also got a sample bag filled with different perfumes including an interesting ways of using Kayali perfumes. it was very minimal fills but it’s ok!

Small online Haul


This is what Sephora just sent me. It looks nothing like the one that I ordered (soft pink color with stars) . I own a couple of this clips and this one seems off.

Emi Jay counterfeit?


I know $36 for a mini hair clip sounds ridiculous, but hear me out. I have way too many clips already and somehow none of them actually hold my hair properly. It’s that awkward in between hair where small clips don’t work and bigger ones are too much.

An hour into wear, my hair clip is pretty much down my back

I’m considering trying Emi Jay because I’ve heard they actually hold well, even though the price feels… questionable. Someone please talk me out of or into this!

Not trying to go too crazy this sale but I need someone to bully me out of the Emi Jay hair clip


I had this waiting in my cart , I wanted to try the Emi Jay sample with $30 purchase but they can’t be combined. I don’t think this is a better offer at all. I buy online exclusively for the samples and GWP so this is annoying.

Well that’s annoying…


I’ve been wanting the icy nude palette for a while now and I can’t decide between the two perfumes! I like the miu miu one but my friend bought it for someone as a gift so I feel like I shouldn’t get it lol!

Products:

Emi Jay Big Effing Clip

Miu Miu Miutine Travel Spray

Summer Fridays Toasted Marshmallow

Danessa Myricks Yummy Skin 10/10 Barrier Boost

Huda Beauty Icy Nude Palette

The Ordinary Alpha Arbutin Serum

Dolce&Gabanna Mini Devotion Set

Deinfluence me please


I need a new setting spray, I love CT but it does not hold my makeup in place. I also haven’t used contour in forever but feel like it’s time to try a new one. I’m neutral undertone and looking for easy products!

Products:
1) Armani Beauty Liquid Eye in 10s Chestnut
2) Haus Labs Contour in Chisel
3)Makeup Forever Matte Highlighter in Cheerful Beige
4)Emi Jay Hair Perfume in Angel Wings
5)Shiseido Eyelash Curler
6)Haus Labs blush stick in Glassy Ginger
7) Makeup by Mario Setting Spray

De-influence me so I don’t get something I hate during the sale!


I have the Alo clip and I love it!! Specifically for half up half downs and wanna know if anybody knows which Emi Jay size is similar?? I wanna try their clips but don’t know which size I should get. I have long thick hair and don’t care to use it for my whole head of hair. Just want the size that will hold up half of it

Emi Jay big effing vs sweetheart clip


I usually need to get big clips to hold up my hair completely, but could these clips work well for half up-half down styles too?

Are Emi Jay claw clips compatible with curly hair? I have thick hair and a looser curl pattern, but they don’t seem offer larger versions of their clips.


Wanted to place one last order before my last day since I have no idea when my discount will cut off. Debating placing an order for the value size of the kerastase gloss absolu shampoo.
1.Oribe cleansing cream
2.dr jart vital hydra lip mask in bubble gum
3. Emi jay hair milk
4. Dieux deliverance serum
5. Too Faced kissing jelly gift set
6. Dolce and Gabbana Q edp

My last haul as an employee


First, Danessa Myricks Yummy Skin Liquid Blurring Balm Mattifying Setting Spray: omg incredible. I’m wearing it now for the first time on a FULL face of makeup and it’s been five hours and my makeup has not moved and my face is still matte. I have the oiliest skin of anyone I know, this is an incredible feat no setting powder or spray has ever come close to. I bought the mini but I think I’m going to order the full size before the sale is over!!!

Second, Emi Jay Heavenly Hair Milk Vanilla Leave In Conditioner Hair Serum: I wash my hair daily and I’ve been using this since I got it last Monday. My hair is so shiny and smooth and soft that I notice a dramatic difference. I put my hair up in silk scrunchie for pilates class and it’s my hair is so soft that it keeps falling out of my bun. Like ohhhhh nooooo my hair is TOO soft and shiny!!! Who could’ve dreamed this would ever be a problem!

Two haul wins: DM and Emi Jay


I recently purchased the Emi Jay hair mist and I realized it’s the SAME EXACT scent as the By Rosie Jane perfume scent

Emi Jay and By Rosie Jane


Emi Jay brand is an Emi Nay for me after seeing this… “If you are able to go to the doctor, you are able to come to work”


Emi Jay fired whole warehouse.


Hello, I’d love to hear your thoughts about this hair oil if you’ve used it. Is it good/ better than other ones on the market?

Emi jay hair oil


This was the easiest beauty challenge for me to complete. Everything shown is a repurchase, aside from the freebie minis.

The Pattern claw clips are an absolute hidden gem. They work so well with my curly, thick hair. I picked up a few on Tik Tok shop and fell in love with them.

The Freck Face Hack is such a random find from last year or the year before, but I love it. For it to be so small, the first one I got lasted me quite some time.

The Rhode Glazing Mist- I’m a huge fan. Love it.

So shocked with how good the Emi Jay oil smells. Love this GWP & excited to see how it performs.

The Josie Maran, I’m excited to try it. A decent rewards bazaar size :)

Recent Order + Minis 💗


Recent order + minis 💗


Hi brilliant group mind!

What exactly are the differences in these brushes? Would I use them for different tasks?

I have hip length wavy hair that is medium think and tangles if you look at it. Dry and prone to breakage. I’m looking for something that’s good for tangles, shine, hair health, taming frizz etc

Are the emi jay brushes worth it? Which one fits the ticket?

TIA 🖤🥺🙌🏻

What is the difference between these 3 brushes?


I couldn’t pass up these minis. These are going to be perfect for my Hawaii trip coming up in October 💗 This is the first Sephora favorites kit that has caught my eye in quite some time. I’ve been wanting to try Emi Jay, but the price point is sickening. I also love Gisou, so I’m excited for the mini mask. First Sephora purchase in over 4 months- and I’m proud of myself for keeping it light. ☝🏾

Sephora Minis 💆🏾♀🛀🏾🫧


Had the EMI JAY flat brush for two weeks now, and has these idk what dust balls? None of my other brushes get these beside the wet brush but after months of use…. On dry and wet hair .. been using this brush on dry hair only. Is this normal?

Jump scare lol


Every once in a while my colleague and I like to take a lunch break where we grab lunch and go shopping and today we chose Sephora! I ended up picking up-

Emi Jay mini boar bristle brush- I have another Emi Jay brush and boar bristles work well with my type of hair.

O/S Powder Melt Glass Setting Spray- I am always down to try a new setting spray, especially in this southern heat!

Amika Power Hour curl refreshing spray- I have super curly hair, so helping this keeps my curls intact and not frizz out.

Color Wow high gloss finish- again, hoping to combat the frizzies!

SDJ Danca Mistica mist- summery and almost has a hint of melon? Despite no mention of melon in the notes.

Phlur Vanilla Smoke mist- I instantly fell in love with this in the store! The smokey note is a tad mysterious and intoxicating with a sweet tinge. Could be one of my new favorite scents.

MUFE HD skin perfecting loose powder- if I’ve tried this, it’s been a long time. Reminds me of a loose version of the NARS LR powder, which I adore.

Work Lunch Haul


Anyone pick up the Emi Jay leave in milk and have issues with the pump? I dont know if its me, or a defective bottle, but I pump pump pump, nothing. Shake and pump, a tiny bit comes out, then nothing again. Im fighting with the bottle for not enough product to come out. I see great reviews, and for the price, it should come out easier. Just seeing if anyone else has had issues before I reach out. Thanks!

Emi Jay Leave in Milk-


I recently purchased the Emi Jay Heavenly Hair Milk. Post shower I apply it, and I’m letting my hair air dry a bit before I blow dry so I decide to go read reviews. It was an impulse purchase, and I quickly read reviews when I bought it, but didn’t think too much. They were all glowing and none of them had the “received free product for review” disclaimer. I’m reading them now, and some are just coming off as ridiculous. One review from a day ago mentions Valentine’s Day and a rooftop meal which seems suspicious to me as that was months ago. I click on their profiles and the only products they have reviewed are Emi Jay - 5 stars. Anyways, does this peeve anyone else off? I’m assuming these are either bots or people who work for the company. I always filter reviews to take out the ones who received free product as I feel like it skews the reviews sometimes. This feels devious to me.

Emi Jay bots


the people buying these temu products, yall stop too. i saw the same brand selling a literal 1-for-1 cheap amazon hair clip on tiktok shop for $30 something dollars. you know the little hawaiian flower hair clips? the same exact thing but with a tacky emi jay text printed on a petal.

can miss emi please stop


It's AAPI month! Let's support these APPI brands at Sephora. Do you have any favorites from the list?

Mine are Tower28, Tatcha, Soft Services, Kulfi Beauty, Eadem

* Wander Beauty
* Viori
* Velour Lashes
* Shu Uemura
* Tula
* Tower28
* THE ROOTIST
* Tatcha
* Summer Fridays
* Sulwhasoo
* Sol De Janeiro
* Soft Services
* Skylar
* SimiHaze Beauty
* SHISEIDO
* Shaz & Kiks
* SALT & STONE
* Sahajan
* Ranavat
* Phyla
* Phlur
* Patrick Ta
* One/Size
* Nette
* Mount Lai
* Morphe
* Milk Make up
* Matter Of Fact
* Mango People
* Live Tinted
* Lion Pose
* Lilly Lashes
* LIGHTSAVER
* Laneige
* Kulfi Beauty
* Kosas
* Kayali
* Kaja
* K18
* INNISFREE
* HUDA Beauty
* Glow Recipe
* Glamnetic
* Gisou
* Fara Homidi Beauty
* Fable and Mane
* Ever Eden
* Emi Jay
* Ellis Brooklyn
* Eadem
* Dr.JART+
* Dieux
* Dam Dam
* Chunks
* Cheekbone
* Blume
* Biodance
* Basma
* Aestura
* Aavrani
* 5 Sens

Let's support AAPI brands at Sephora!


Went a little crazy during the sale so as I’ve been using items I’ve been making sure to return/exchange whatever I don’t like. These also were done at different times which is why there’s separate photos.

Here’s what I’ve exchanged so far:

New things:
1. Gisou mini hair perfume (loved this in the kit)
2. Summer Fridays Birthday Cake
3. LAWLESS Forget The Filler Lipgloss in Strawberry Milkshake
4. MAKEUP FOREVER Artist Color Pencil in Wherever Walnut
5. Josie Maran Body Butter in Topless Tangerine
6. Emi Jay Paddle Brush (I finally caved after seeing good reviews on this sub lol.)

What I returned (and why):
1. Gisou Hydration Trio: I reallyyyy wanted to love this kit but the hair oil did absolutely nothing for my hair and the lip oil was very pretty but kinda drying. The only thing I liked was the hair perfume which is why I got the mini.

2. Emi Jay hair perfume: it smelled ok but it honestly didn’t really smell like much to me lol. Like it was decent but I preferred the Gisou for sure.

3. Josie Maran Pink Algae Body Butter: I really only wanted this bc it’s pink 😂 I didn’t mind it being unscented. However for an “unscented” product it definitely had a scent to it. It smelled .. like cardboard. Idk how else to explain. I did love the formula though so I just exchanged it for an actually scented version.

4. Glow Recipe SPF stick: another product I truly wanted to love. Gave it a try for a week but I just couldn’t get into it. It would kinda just sit on top of my face and make my face look oily instead of hydrated if that made sense? No matter how much I tried to rub it in. It smelled divine though and was a unique take on SPF that I appreciated. I just didn’t think it worked for me.

5. Gleamy Dreamy Makeup kit: I didn’t even open this lol. I snagged it before it sold out again but I’ve been seeing so many people say that they received dried/damaged products in the set that I didn’t even want to bother taking the chance tbh.

Exchanges: What I got vs. what I returned. (and why)


Does anyone know if this brand plans to come to Sephora Canada? 😭

Emi Jay


My haul got removed last time because I didn’t add the Caturday flair, so here’s a repost with my precious kitten Theodore! 📦🐾🩷

**Haul Highlights:**

*Ellis Brooklyn Guava Granita* is a fruity, tropical dream and I already want to buy the full bottle. I'm not great at describing fragrances, but it smells like a smoothie in perfume form and the banana note is perfectly blended in. Sadly the scent doesn’t last very long, maybe 1-2 hours. But that doesn't bother me too much because the scent is delicious, intoxicating, and perfect for summer 🤤🍌

*Ouai St. Barts Leave In Conditioner* is probably what I was most excited about, and it lives up to my expectations! It does an incredible job of smoothing/defrizzing my curls, smells delicious, and the scent lingers throughout the day.

*The Emi Jay Bamboo Paddle Brush & Mini Boar Brush* immediately caught my eye because I love rose quartz. I’ve always just used drugstore hair brushes that get the job done, but these are even more beautiful in person and I’m so glad I splurged on them!

**Full product list in the comments!**

My Rouge haul, plus kitten tax!


I live near a Sephora that has a lot of great stock so I was able to try each product in store!

I am a diehard Tatcha girly, but my goal was to try a bunch of brands I have never tried before during this sale. I wanted to do my shopping without any "influencer marketing" and just let the store format, the individual brand marketing, and first impressions of trying the product, influence my purchases.

It's been a week so I feel like I have been able to give most of these products a fair go. I also had no patience to take better pics of the products and the cat would not give me a break. But he's so cute. Anyway, here are my reviews, feel free to ask for more details! For reference, I am in my 20s, I have VERY sensitive, dry/combo skin + eczema, and have thick 2A wavy hair.

**MY WINNERS**

* Makeup by Mario Skin Enhancer - I don't own a bronzer. I always thought it would make me darker/dull and I don't want that in a look. But this is super sheer, and very minimal. Very balmy and dewy too. Love it.
* Makeup by Mario Transforming Skin Perfector - perfect layer on top of the enhancer. I love how it mixes 3 effects - makes it really easy to use (esp for someone like me who doesn't wear makeup often) and is a really subtle improvement to your natural features.
* Westman Atelier face trace stick - I don't own a contour stick. This is so easy to use and I see a great difference when using it. Long lasting. A win
* Westman Atelier sun tone hydrating Bronzing Drops - So good. Better than drunk elephant's  bronzing drops. Very natural. I'm converted.
* Danessa Myricks Chrome flakes (fireball and sweet tooth) - I don't wear eyeshadow ever but uhhhhhhhhh these were too pretty to pass up. I wear them around the house now for no reason other than to feel sexy af. Can just apply w my finger and it's longer wearing than say, glitter.
* Danessa Myricks Twin Flames liquid eyeshadow (love spell) - same reaction as the chrome flakes. Too cute and such good quality. Really pops with literally a fraction of a swipe.
* Eadem exfoliating lippies (butter mochi and fig sauce) - I have enough lippies but I do like these. Nice and thick. Nice pigment in the fig sauce.
* Aestura set - Super great trial set. All 3 products are super gentle and don't sting me. My dry skin really likes it - I will be repurchasing the Atobarrier cream in the larger size.
* Paula's Choice Peptide plumping gel cream - Love this because it doesn't just sit on your skin like water (which I feel is true of the Lineage Bouncy line) and it doesn't sting me (like the Drunk Elephant polypeptide moisturizer does for me).
* Sofie Pavitt Mandelic Acid serum - I like that it is a pump so it is a little more user friendly than the Paula's choice mandolin acid, and I feel like it gave me instant results in skin texture.
* Sofie Pavitt Nice Ice Cryo - these were a fun try - they're literally ice cubes of toner! Pretty nice and soothing to use, and it melts fast so it's a quick treatment. I am allergic to cats so whenever the pictured idiot chooses to give me some love I get eczema flare ups on my face. I then cleanse and use these a Nice Ice cube and it seems to help make me less irritated.
* Hourglass Concealer brush
* K18 astrolift - haven't tried anything in this brand but now I will. This shit is magic. I have a LOT of hair that weighs down over the day and this prevents my natural waves and natural volume from depleting. Incredible.
* The rest are restocks (not new brands) for me: Saie set (love all 3 products in those shades), Josie Maran tangerine lotion (smells really good for summer, don't like her other scents), Lineage lippie blueberry (yum)

**Jury is still out** (meaning, I haven't tried or haven't given it enough time to see an effect yet)

* Freck Face Hack Setting Spray (I bought it bc I thought FACE HACK along the side was funny)
* Danessa Myricks Yummy Skin Blurring balm in Universal Radiant (excited to try)
* Danessa Myricks blushes in prima donna and it girl (i have too many blushes but...they're so pretty...)
* Dr Idriss Vitamin C gel Major Fade - Vit C serums usually irritate my skin and expire/get discolored fast (i'm looking at you Murad), but this one is so far so good. Haven't seen a change yet to my acne dark spots but def need to keep trying.
* Dr Dennis Gross Blur + Repair - haven't tried, I wanted to compare his with Dr Idriss' and see which one is better / more effective on my blemishes.
* Skinfix barrier restoring gel - the other Skinfix moisturizer started hurting my skin so want to try this one.
* Sephora Brush cleaner
* Sephora lash curler

**MY LOSERS**

* Freck Rich Bitch set - bought it bc I liked the RICH BITCH packaging. But the lippie tastes p bad and the primer is a lil slimy and I think it irritated my skin.
* Emi Jay hairclips - it's called a Big Effing Hair clip but it is not big at all. Cannot hold up all my hair unless I spend 8 minutes stuffing my hair into a straight line to claw clip it. Not for me.
* Soft Services Theraplush refillable - mmmmm nothing special. The packaging is nice looking, scent is subtle, the pump is cool, nice statement piece on the nightstand. The hand cream itself is meh. But I also have very wintery dry hands inflicted with eczema.
* ColorWow Money Hair mask - made my hair sleek for sure, but flattened my waves pretty badly. I'll keep trying it though - it does make my hair pretty glossy
* Crown Affair Renewal mask - did nothing for me and also made my hair flat. I love the Crown Affair leave in conditioner and the towel so I had high hopes for this mask. :(
* Ilia base face milk - I'll still keep this bc it's a nice light layer moisturizer for under makeup (which the tatcha dewy isn't good for), but for someone like me with dry skin, this doesn't last very long.
* Innbeauty Elastic Skin serum - god, what misleading packaging. There's only 1 fl oz in this bottle but the bottle is 2x the size of the Paula's choice peptide collagen moisturizer. Rubs me the wrong way. Feels nice though. I think the Paula's choice one is more effective for my skin.
* Ranavat moonseed treatment - I got it because the cream is purple and I fell for the marketing. I thought it could rival the Tatcha overnight serum - it cannot. It makes my face feel so tight and firm in the morning and I do not need that right now.
* Violette Boum Boum milk spray - ummm this feels nice, def a good add for the summer. But...I barely sprayed it over the last week and already like 1/15th of the bottle is gone. How does it use that much so fast! not worth in my opinion.

Hope these short blurbs are helpful for you and your purchases!!

My Spring Savings 2025 Haul + Reviews


**Full product list in the comments, and here are my thoughts on some favorites!**

I have 3b curls that need *a lot* of moisture, and leave in conditioners are my most used product so l stocked up on 4 total. The Adwoa and Ceremonia are holy grails, and I was so excited about the new Ouai St. Barts leave in that I bought two. And it lives up to my expectations! It does an incredible job of smoothing/defrizzing my curls, it smells delicious, and the scent lingers throughout the day.

I've needed new hair brushes for a while, and l've always bought cheap drugstore ones that get the job done. But as soon as I saw the Emi Jay brushes in this stunning Pink Sugar color, I knew I wanted to splurge on them (I love rose quartz). They're even more beautiful in person!

Ellis Brooklyn Guava Granita is a fruity tropical dream. I'm not great at describing fragrances, but it smells like a smoothie in perfume form and the banana note is perfectly blended in. I tried one spray on my wrist, and unfortunately the scent didn't last very long, maybe 1-2 hours. That doesn't bother me too much because the scent is delicious, intoxicating, and perfect for summer 🤤🍌

The Kerastase Gloss Absolu line is new to me and I haven't had a chance to use it yet, but l've tried everything else so let me know if you have questions about any products!

Kitten tax in the last picture! 📦🐾🩷

So happy with my Rouge haul! 🥰🌺


**Full product list in the comments, and here are my thoughts on some favorites!**

I have 3b curls that need *a lot* of moisture, and leave in conditioners are my most used product so I stocked up on 4 total. The Adwoa and Ceremonia are holy grails, and I was so excited about the new Ouai St. Barts leave in that I bought two. And it lives up to my expectations! It does an incredible job of smoothing/defrizzing my curls, it smells delicious, and the scent lingers throughout the day.

I’ve needed new hair brushes for a while, and I’ve always bought cheap drugstore ones that get the job done. But as soon as I saw the Emi Jay brushes in this stunning Pink Sugar color, I knew I wanted to splurge on them. They’re even more beautiful in person!

Ellis Brooklyn Guava Granita is a fruity tropical dream. I’m not great at describing fragrances, but it smells like a smoothie in perfume form and the banana note is perfectly blended in. I tried one spray on my wrist, and unfortunately the scent didn’t last very long, maybe 1-2 hours. That doesn’t bother me too much because the scent is delicious, intoxicating, and perfect for summer 🤤🍌

The Kerastase Gloss Absolu line is new to me and I haven’t had a chance to use it yet, but I’ve tried everything else so let me know if you have questions about any products!

Kitten tax in the last picture! 📦🐾🩷

So happy with my Rouge haul! 🥰🌺


I have one in my cart for the sale— the price seems so steep for a claw clip but I feel like it has to be life changing then?!! Pls influence or deinfluence me

Emi Jay Claw clips- worth it??


Anyone have experience with Emi Jay? (New brand coming soon to Sephora)


Did anyone else see that Emi Jay is coming to Sephora? I am curious if they will be expanding their hair care product line such as shampoo/conditioners since they also will be in store. Curious to see what others think.

Emi Jay coming to Sephora


I mean - not much else to do other than what you are already doing. It’ll be like that until it grows out.


You are probably right, just seeing if anyone has any other suggestions on how to style it back into my hair while it grows.


You could plait it while small and then could get braiding with fabric to lengthen it, could have it in your husbands favourite colours and also maybe have a nice cream ribbon to tie it with when it’s a plait?

I am so sorry for your loss, what you did is beautiful and sentimental x


When your hair is down it doesn’t show, when up,a little claw clip might work for that? As it grows out a bit in the next months, you could consider whether kind of thinning it at the ends (like little upright scissor snips) to make it less blunt and more a tapered shape might blend it in differently?

I love what you did, and your “tuft” touches me.


I’m sorry for your loss. You could try pining it back when you braid or do styles where it’s exposed.


A bobby pin would totally hold it in with the rest of your hair


Man, it's too early to cry. That's a beautiful sentiment. If I were you, I would try to braid it into another strand of hair. Just a tiny tight braid at the base and then tie it off with an elastic.


Easy, protective, and stylish.


You're sweet, thank you. I like that plan. Gotta buy little elastics for the first time in a loonnnng time.


If you braid it in an upward direction, it will blend better when your hair is up. Once it grows maybe another inch or so, you'll have enough to braid it in any direction and hide it.

Im so sorry for your loss and I absolutely think your story is beautiful


The braided bit can also be as short as like 3 or four inches and then just a small elastic and then the rest of the hair freely hanging.


This is so sweet 🥲 I don’t think it will be overly noticeable (or weird even if it is?) so I wouldn’t stress over trying to fuss with it.


This is so lovely. watching it grow out will be a wonderful representation of your grief growing and changing as time goes on too. I love the suggestion to braid it into another strand but there are some undercut grow out tip videos out there too, this would definitely be a similar thing except honestly even less noticeable.


Just leave it out. When people ask, if you feel like it, you can tell them. It’s a sweet reminder that we are here for a good time (hopefully), not a long time


I love that saying. Here for a good time not a long time ❣


I love this. Im so sorry you lost him.


I think I've reached the maximum limit of appropriate responses to, "Sorry for your loss," so I've started saying, "Me too."

It was a great time. But cancer remains the biggest bitch I've ever known.


me too is a good one, when i’m feeling good i tend to cheerily say “yep, it’s real bad!” 💖 because i am sorry for my loss and it IS real bad!


This. I think it's sweet. And if I ever saw it on someone I'd probably think they burned it with an iron or something. But I'm used to looking at terrible hair. My daughter had long blonde hair (until I cut it into a bob)... And recently she cut a bald spot on the top of her head. She decided she didn't want to brush her hair and instead cut out all the knots. So she looks like she was attacked by Edward scissor hands. 🤦♀


And that is exactly how my niece ended up with a pixie cut for several years!


She looks like Dora the Explorer now. 😂


Hugs to you.
I’m also a recent widow. Take care of yourself.
Idk if you’re  Star Wars fan, but that could become a Padawan braid. 😊


Huge nerd here, one of my besties has been telling me it's my "reverse Padawan." I used to actually braid myself one when I was younger, might need to get back into it!


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You could get an extension added to it to match the length of the rest of those hair


Im sorry for your loss and what a beautiful relationship you guys had to where you were able to do that one last act of love. But to me it looks like you have your hair (bang) tucked behind ur ears 🩷


I have no advice, but I think what you did was so beautiful. I wish you so much healing during this time of your life, a big transition. May your husband rest in peace, and may you live in Joy.


Some of those extra small hair clips, like tiny claw clips or the ones that look like little flowers. Lift that piece up and clip it on top.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.


I would treat the hair growing out as a memorial as well. A little tactile reminder of what you’ve lost and what you’re going through.


Honestly, I didn’t even really notice it! You could probably bobby pin in or use a small, dark alligator clip to push towards your scalp and hold it down.

Based on your story, I personally perceive it as a way for your husband to metaphorically touch your neck and be close to you 💕 My sincerest condolences for your loss.


Such a beautiful sentiment, that hair will always be your reminder how much he loved you, and when it grows back it shows your strength and resilience through it all.


Thank you.


Someone’s chopping onions around here! This is a beautiful sentiment OP. You can’t do much but wait for it to grow back


How lovely . Braid it it or secure using a bobby pin


Might not be your style- but I personally would put in a clip in or tie in beaded hair extension to further that honor ❤


Eventually it’ll get long enough to put into a style with the rest I’d leave it alone


Recent widow too. Just wanted to say that what you did is so beautiful and makes my heart hurt. Rock your tuft and know somewhere somehow he’s playing with you lock and loving you.  :: hug ::


Big hugs, my condolences for your loss.


Yeah we were both hair people. I asked for a lock of his and thought why shouldn't he get a piece of me as well. It was the only thing I put in aside from one of his pocket combs which I styled our kids hair with that day. Our little boys are also blessed with great hair but double cowlicks, and he always did their hair. Doing my best.
Solidarity, sister.


I am so sorry for your loss <3


I am so sorry for your loss. That was a beautiful gift for your husband to have for eternity.

A small anecdote that I hope brings a smile. Years ago I had to cut a decent chunk of hair at about that length. Not for a sweet gesture like yours, nope mine was because my fat arse had fallen asleep while eating Milk Duds and it fell out of my mouth and got stuck in my hair. This was around the time Tangled was released so I started getting referred to as Rapunzel.


Girl, I expected an entirely different story. I’m sos sorry for your loss. I hope you know how special that is, what a sweet reminder.


Bobby pin. Otherwise just spray it with strong hold hair spray and hold it together lightly till it dries.


Can you do a little braid? Maybe a decorative tie or ribbon?


You can always dye it and you’ll see how it grows and at one point it’ll be at the end of your hair and that’s a beautiful thought!


Just get one of those snap metal barrettes and pin it in there!


I see you Rapunzel.

No advice, I apologize. I just know he’s happy to get to play with your hair forever while he waits for you 🥰

I also love the Padawan hair idea - you could even apply beads like silka bead braids!


Your sweet, thank you.


I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe treat yourself to a cute barrette that’s meaningful in some way in either design or color as a way to honor his memory on that spot even after it has grown back?


Oh honey 🥺 you love him so much. You could try just wearing your hair down or in low ponies/buns, if you wanna do a high pony, slick up the tuft with some gel?


OMG OP this is absolutely tear jerking amd oh so beautiful.  I'm so so sorry for your loss. It sounds like y'all had something so special for you to do.something lile this for him. Sending you love and light.


I’m sorry for your loss. Personally I have longer hair than yours but my bottom layer is short because of it being bleached and fried off. I braid it into a rat tail and the rest of my hair does its own thing. People absolutely love my rat tail braid for some reason


I would clip it with a butterfly clip because I really like butterfly clips.


Just like how you treat grief. You DONT try to make it blend in. Just accept it and love it as best you can. I’m so sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking. What you did and the symbolism it holds is beautiful. I vote you dye it his favorite color.


Don't worry about it. You did a beautiful thing, be proud of the little awkward lock. Let her have her moment.


I have Alopecia Arearta and my hair is mostly down to my tail one with short spots of regrowth. I use curlsmith featherlight protein cream when i braid and most of the short spots stay in place. When it's down ots a lottle crazy but oh well.


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This is beautiful. And you have gorgeous hair. Can you somehow use it to wrap around a pony? Otherwise pin/clip or gel and cross fingers. Sorry for your loss!


You can leave it out, i like that idea. But of you want to hide it i would use a barrette ♥ quick and easy, plus you can choose to use a cute patterned one or a matching hair color one.


Honestly, I would dye it a different color and recut it every year on the anniversary of his death or his bday and leave it at his gravesite. That is such a beautiful sentiment it honestly makes me want to cry.


Don't blend it. See if someone will do a hair wrap for you over it in colors that make you happy.


That is the most beautiful, unhinged, dedicated example of love and I’m crying in my car on my break now 😭 My condolences to you and your family. As for your tuft, I vote for using a bobby pin for incognito days and a cute hair pin for if you don't want to hide it. Once it's long enough, you could keep that lock in a braid or something too, that would be a really cool style! Wishing you all the best dear.


I love this so much. Honestly I would do nothing with it except try to use it as a visual reminder that grief is non-linear - it goes and comes in waves like hair growth cycles, but it does slowly get better with time. Eventually this piece of your heart will heal (although it won’t be the same) and your hair will match your length again.

I’m so sorry for your loss and so proud of your strength. ❤🩹


This made me so sad, but also happy. You are very loved and love very deeply and also, your hair is so beautiful. Like genuinely.


Not to undermine your sad story but I'm growing out and undershave so the whole back of my head looks like this. Solidarity.


This is beautiful and I’m sorry for your loss.


My first thought was get extensions in that spot!


Just let it grow out and Bobby pin it up when you wear it up


First, my condolences. 🥺

I had a bald spot with exactly the same placement due to work stress.   I just let it grow out.    I wasn’t too fussy about how awkward it looked because I was just grateful to have hair there again.  It was an especially long process because I have very curly hair.


As someone who had to grow out an undercut, get that one chunk thinned every month or two. That way, instead of a thick blunt chunk of hair, you’ll have wispier ends that will blend in with the lengths as it grows.


I had one piece of hair that was still blonde after my father passed, and instead of cutting it off once it grew I dyed the whole thing blonde to remember where it was. I think once it’s grown out, dying your tuft a cool shade of lighter brown would look awesome 💕


I would get a piece of tinsel/thread in a color that represented him and braid it into that hair.


You’re beautiful and what a lovely gesture to honor him. Agree with the person who said to use a tiny elastic but it will grow back before you know it


When you put it up you can use Bobby pins. When it’s down it will naturally blend in. I cut a chunk out of my hair when I couldn’t get a knot out and I just did the above. Your reason is profound- it’s ok if people notice. Honestly you could just keep that lock shorter as a lovely reminder of your husband.


as a licensed stylist, no one will notice except MAYBE those who are licensed based on where you cut. and we wouldn’t notice until its shown but why say anything (unless defending you) bc of it? and anyone who does say anything just tell them the story. I promise you that one act of love will defy anything else that could ever be. love it, protect it. It’s amazing and cherish it. no judgment at all, and anyone not getting it is not worthy of knowing ❤❤❤  if anyone giving u a hard time, direct them to me. sending you all the love, light, prayers, thoughts, vibes, anything to help easy your pain. my dms are open if you need someone to talk to. wishing you the best 💖


I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏🏼


I'm so sorry for your loss. In many cultures people cut their hair short after a loss like yours, so you're not alone in this sentiment at all. I would just massage the area and let her grow.


I’m so sorry for your loss


I am so sorry for your loss.


I am sorry for your loss, that’s a really beautiful gesture to do.

You could buy some hairgel and just do a small swoop on your neck for a while, and then go with the braids the others suggested. Wishing you all the best ❤


I’m so, so, so sorry. You really do have gorgeous hair and this was such a sweet and sentimental thing to do. I looked through your post history and my heart just aches for you. You sound like a lovely human. I really hope you and your boys have as much support and love around you as possible. They’re lucky to have a mom like you. Sending lots of love.


I’m so sorry for your loss. I think it looks really cute!


Reminds me of Rapunzel from Tangled. ❤


Maybe clip in some sparkle tassles and transition them with a braid from the tuft. 😊


Hey, I just lost my fiance three months ago. This is gorgeous, I know exactly how you feel! Mine bit me on the way out and I plan to get a tattoo of a tooth in the spot soon lol.

I know this isn't helpful advice, but if it were me, I'd let the tuft hang free to honor him, but I also don't get out much. Pinning it seems like the move otherwise.

Wish you all the best! I'm sorry you had to join the world's worst club. Come hang out over at r/widowers if you need people to talk to. :)


Like Rapunzel with a short bit of hair. 🥹


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Absolutely adorable! I like the new glasses too. Great job. Curls are curlin


I didn’t realize how high my old pair sat!


Looks good!


Thank you!


You are welcome! Today mine looks like the before picture 😂


Beautiful!


Killing it girlie!!!


I wish I looked this adorable when I was your age! Congrats to falling in love with your hair. It's such a good journey!


Awe thanks! It took 30 years to figure out how to do it but better late than never!


Those pics are year apart?


First one is 2023, second is 2024 and last is 2025


Definitely 2025 is your year 🫶🏻


Just went through the worst break up of my life this year so maybe 2026! But definitely a good year for hair!!


VERY CUTEEE, LOVE


Beautiful curls AND colour!


Thanks! I’ve been trying to get used to my hair naturally getting darker as I age. ❤


Adorable!

Btw I don’t see anything wrong with your eye; it’s normal to not have a perfectly symmetrical face and you don’t need to ask people to excuse it. I’m guessing most people wouldn’t have even noticed if you hadn’t mentioned it. You look lovely :)


I appreciate that! I hyper focus on all my school photos because since year 1 that left eye has been squinty and we joke and say it’s a stress twitch lol


You’re so pretty giiiirl! And you’re curls omg, I love them 😍


So beautiful 😍


So pretty!


you look beautiful! and those curlssss i love it


Omg this is so cute! 😭💕💐


I love this and I love your curls!


Slay


Was told by one of my students I was a slay queen and I’ve been riding that high forever


Girl I fucking wish I looked like this, you’re killing it! Oh and your curls are too😂


Curls look amazing and you are a cutie patootie


Thank youuuuuu


A) LOVE seeing the curl progression, you’ve done a great job! I need to get more consistent so i can see more progress 🥲

B) Even just in a pic, you radiate the sweetest energy 💜 and you’re just SO cute ☺ I hope life treats you well!!!


So cute!


Looking great


I love how you look slightly panicked in all of them 😂 great curl journey, love the look


lol it’s my sisters favorite thing about my school photos. They make me take it before all my kids and they’re all just peeping around the tarp saying my name and most of the time I’m momming from the seat lol


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Me and my thin hair crying in a corner 🥲🥲


My whole hair is a third part of one of her ponytail


Mine is about half of one 🫠


Genetics is a bitch


Exactly 🥲


I know right, this golden shade is so dreamy too (for me even if wanted to dye my hair to get that colour it wouldn't suit my complexion as it would be too warm xd)


I’d recommend braiding. Time consuming but it could help section it out to ease pulling from pony tails etc


true, I sometimes do that ☺ I like doing low ponytails then braiding them in like 3-4 braids! adds a lot of texture and it's pretty fun, but I do have to wake up early for it lol


The pretty shepherd has some fantastic styles for longer/thicker hair.

Personally I love hair taping, as it anchors the hair and distributes the weight more evenly, but your mileage may vary.


you just may have changed my life with this comment! I'd seen a video of this gal a while back but had totally forgotten about her, now I'm about to do a deep dive - plus, hair taping is pretty much my medieval fantasy come to life, I can't wait to try it! this is gonna be so much fun, thank you!!


Heatherkarra on tiktok has a lot of hair and posts some updos! I see her use two claw clips on a bun to keep it up :) maybe check her out?


tell me why I had never thought of using 2 claw clips lmao! I don't have social media but I found her on youtube and already subscribed (will go on a deep dive later). thank you so much for the recommendation!


Youre welcome!! 😊


Crown braids are a bit of a pain to learn but look wonderful and spread the weight of the hair really well.


This is the way!

A coronet braid is super simple but less sturdy than a crown braid. Both distribute the weight well.

You can also look into hair taping as a method of securing the crown braid, it’s very comfortable when done well. All you need is a long length of satin ribbon and a bodkin or big blunt tapestry needle.


the coronet braid is such a look omg 🥹 I'm definitely looking into it! I need to make it work lol thank you!


What’s the different between a coronet vs a crown braid? Goggle is trying to tell me they’re the same thing


A crown braid begins with a French or Dutch braid going around the hairline, and a coronet braid is just a simple English braid wrapped around one’s head and pinned in place.


My lazy crown braid method is two low braided pig tails swirled in opposite directions around my head and held in place by a handful of small claw clips.

My character flaw is I can’t braid anything more complicated than a single 3 strand.


this sounds verrrrry promising, having the weight piled up on top + pinning it on several places might distribute the tension really well! thank you!


I only have down to my waist, but I also do this with my super thick/heavy hair!

Another thing you can do is get a long piece of ribbon/scarf whatever, drape the middle over your head and braid the lengths in with your hair until you've got like a tail of ribbon a few inches long after the end of your hair (like heatless curls)

You can wrap around your braids really securely and use the ribbon ends to tie them in place, either on top or under (I'd bet you could go under with your length), supplement with clippies, pins, or recently my fav: barrettes, to keep everything in place.

I will also literally tie my braids behind my head when I wrap them, so pig tails > single tied at the base of my skull > wrap the ends up and over > another single tie on top, and then tuck and pin the ends in place somewhere by my temples/ears (again with your length you could probably go all the way to the base of your skull again and be able to hide them super well).

This is hands down the least strained hairstyle I've been able to do. I'll even do it for yard work and wrap a bandana over the top to secure them even better and protect from dust/dirt/sweat (plus you get the cute whimsical cottage bandana thing going)


I do 4 braids instead of 2 to spread out the weight a bit and give me a bit more length to wrap with. Bonus points for using two long ribbons (one per pair of braids) in the braids to help secure the wraps.


Hair is to my mid butt and this is also my go to for a comfortable up do.

I use U-pins instead of claw clips.

If im feeling cute or if my hair is extra dirty and i need something to absorb the oils, I'll braid a ribbon into my braids before I crown them.

 I wear dresses a lot and people constantly ask me if I'm a Mennonite.


I wear mine to the gym and 100% look like a Soviet era power lifter 💀


This! I used to do crown braids this way when my hair was about elbow length. So comfortable! I used to use bobby pins around the front half (uh, the damage) but I bet small claw clips would hold heavy hair a lot better.


ohhh I need to learn that! I really like having all the weight piled up on top of my head but buns don't work as well anymore. this could be it! thanks!


braiding and/or a gigantic bun on top of my head held in place with a hair fork


I do the same! I’m too lazy for a fork, so it’s usually a pen, but I don’t problem with pulling as long as it’s piled on top of my head (directly between bangs and crown).


Just braids : partial up, fully down, crown braids using ribbon to sew them in place instead of pins etc.
I can’t wear mine up without getting horrible head and neck aches so it stays mostly down.
Mine is about the same length and thickness as yours.
It breaks claw clips, it takes two+ hair sticks (or two + an elastic), I keep it braided at night and coiled under my pillow like a snake lol.

At its longest (knee length) even dividing it into two loose braids was too heavy.


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Hair sticks! Look up nautilus bun tutorials, you can throw your hair up in seconds. Absolute life saver for heat. Sometimes I don’t even need a stick for it (but it falls out eventually haha) There’s a tutorial on youtube of a girl doing it in literally 10 seconds. They can get pretty heavy for me too though, the placement of the stick can pull at your scalp. There are tons of different buns you can do with sticks, I love them so much more than hair ties because it feels like the weight is distributed through the stick and not a lot of tension between a hair tie and your head. I’m curious though how you keep your hair from frizzing using a hair dryer? When my hair was waist length I blow dried it every single time and the frizz was negligible, but ever since I got past that length it is crazy how I can’t avoid the frizz. Would love advice from you and your beautiful hair!


I need to practice using sticks. It always takes me a few tries for it to stay.


Try having the ends stick out a bit, I know it’s the opposite of what you should do to protect them, and it doesn’t look as neat haha, buuuut sometimes you need to prioritize a stable bun and it helps kind of make a knot and keep everything secure!


My hair is similar to OPs. The problem with our extremely thick hair is that there is no room to fold it up into a neat bun. My French twist is massive and takes up the space from nape to crown. My hair is currently hip length.


Mine is too, I’m not sure what you mean. My buns are massive too but sometimes you gotta put your hair up 🤷♀ I don’t wear buns in the car though. Scared of what could happen in an accident with a big ball attached to your head


When I twist my hair into a knot or try the Nautilus style, it's so thick I can't actually secure the bun. I use low profile claws to secure a French twist but my hair is folded up 3 times into the wrap. Im thinking of trying the French pins.


Yeah definitely try french pins! I’ve switched from a stick to one, absolutely way more secure and because of the shape you can have the bun rest a bit on the curve if you get it in the right position. Hard to explain but try messing around with it. The one thing I haven’t tried yet is a bunch of U pins, I just don’t know if they could be secure enough


I'll try it for sure! I've never tried a hair stick before but by the looks of it (I already watched a couple tutorials after reading your comment) it's super easy to do and super comfortable to wear. great tip, I'll go shopping for one this week!

about the frizz: it definitely poofs up! I blowdry in sections, so before moving onto the next one I turn off the dryer and smooth the still warm hair with my hands or my wooden brush until it cools off. that I think removes the static from it and keeps it nice and smooth! it's worth mentioning that I have straight-barely-wavy fine hair (1c/2a + 2b at the nape). it also helps to oil my ends while the hair is still a bit warm. weighing it down with a bit of product helps to keep them aligned and in place ☺ thank you so much for the compliment! 🤍


By the way, a pencil works just the same as a hair stick and is infinitely easier to have laying around, just saying so you don’t have to go out and buy a hair stick


I use children’s chopsticks, colorful and cheap.


Only thing that works for me is a French pin; specifically, the half updo she does here at 1:50. You can definitely try the other styles, but I think this type of pins are the only ones that can keep heavey hair up (works better than a claw clip imo). There's a bunch of fancy ones but I got cheap metalic ones from TK maxx and they work perfectly.


I've seen this contraption floating around but had no idea it was called a French pin! I just found a video of 5 French pin hairstyles and some of them could definitely work for me. add that to my shopping list lol I will definitely try it! thanks for the suggestion ☺


Oh no I thought I linke the video, and now I see that I haven't! That's the one: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAugIUBQI54](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAugIUBQI54) my go-to is the one she does at 1:50.


I also have long heavy hair. Hurts my scalp when I put it up in a pony or bun. I discovered that I can wear it up for a few hours if I make a pony and pull it through (tunnel under the hair tie and pull the pony through creating a flip.) It distributes the weight better. I can wear as a pony or up in a bun with pins or sticks.


I'm definitely gonna try that!! I love the look of a pony but my scalp begs for mercy when I do it, so I'm trying this trick next time for sure. thank you so much!


Gorgeous hair! I would try sectioning hair (maybe try six sections to start?) and braiding + pinning up each section separately. I’m thinking that might help distribute the weight more evenly?

I love the look of a big mass of braids in an updo, but if you don’t, a headband or kerchief could help pull the look together.


you just gave me an idea of doing more braids, then braiding them together, then pinning them up! a headband/ribbon/kerchief could really pull it together! I'm seeing a trend of people suggesting hair accessories; I'm kind of embarrassed to admit I hadn't even considered it. but I'm 100% on board! I was very frustrated, but now I'm excited about my hair again. thank you very much for the suggestions!


That’s okay no updos needed just do half up half down and do some old money hair styles ☺


Maybe it's a weight distribution issue? Have you tried hair taping or milkmaid braids with spin pins? Or switching to hair forks/sticks? I find claw clips are often painful. The type of bun also might be contributing, especially if it's a typical twisted cinna bun. A disc bun or lazy wrap held with a hair stick or fork is more evenly distributed. And if all updos fail, two braids down the back helps get it off your neck.


I used to have these super long/tall/deep XXL clawclips (that got sat on and broke - RIP) that could hold my length in a figure 8 and would grab onto a significant portion of my head, I've been trying to find one ever since but she was one of a kind it seems 🥲 these are all great suggestions! I was told by a few people to try hair sticks so I'll be shopping for one this week for sure. hair taping also got suggested and it looks absolutely dreamy so I will definitely do that as well! it's 100% a weight distribution thing. if the weight is too concentrated it really hurts. I have yet to measure my hair weight but it's safe to assume that when I cut it I'll grow 5 inches in height lol thank you for the great tips!!


You hair looks like that of a freaking forest nymph omg. But yeah I do volleyball myself so I get the issue. Lately I've been french/dutch braiding it. It pulls on the scalp way less that way, and keeps it out of my face too.
For everyday I use things like hair sticks to put my hair in a bun, in place of elastics. Again, way less pulling and if you do it right, more secure than you think!


omg thank you so much! add that to the list of favorite compliments I've ever gotten 🥹 you're the second person i think to suggest hair sticks, I'm super on board and I'll try and find one this week! hopefully I'll learn how to use it fast because it's reaching radioactive levels of heat in my town ☢ also, braids are just top-tier sports hairdo. nothing compares!


my tip for using hairsticks: think of it as weaving the stick trough your hair, picking up hair at your scalp as well as 'bun' hair. This usually fixes it really well for me


good to know! a few tutorials I've seen neglected to mention where exactly to anchor the stick. "weaving" it makes a lot of sense! thank you!


I have the EXACT SAME HAIR as you (its uncanny!) and I have a hair stick and do a Nautilus bun! Super secure and comfortable, and I can barely braid to save my life. Just watch a slow tutorial a few times and give it a go! :)


I do a silk scrunchie in a low pony tail then braid it loosely and use another silk scrunchie to secure the end. Then I twist it up in a bun and use a claw clip to secure it in place. I don't run or anything, but I have a pretty active job and it keeps it from getting tangled and keeps it off my neck pretty easily.


now that you mention it, the scrunchie-braid-scrunchie is definitely a look, I don’t know why I haven't worn it outside the house yet! I've been really uninspired and frustrated since the heat wave began because I thought there was no way out of this besides cutting it off. but I've gotten so many wonderful suggestions it's fueled me to do my best to enjoy this summer - and my hair! I will definitely add this to my hairdo rotation from now on. thanks for the great tip!


Honestly, this is why I personally stopped wearing my super thick hair long.


My hair is very thick and almost to my knees. I keep mine in a braid most of the time. When I do put it up in a bun I use a hair stick and try and get the bun as high up as I can without being on top of my head directly, and also in a way where it's weight is spread out more. Most of the time I will do a tight bun so that it coils on top of itself and then pull the top loop down to make a 8 shape.


Absolutely stunning this is my dream length


How long have you been growing it out? It's so beautiful 😍😍😍


Your hair is so beautiful. May I, ask what hair oil you use?

Have you considered 2 braids or using 2 claw clips - one for each side to distribute the weight?


hi! I use whatever is cheapest when my current oil ends, mostly drugstore brands (I'm a bit of a cheapskate, not gonna lie), though I'm sure there's higher end stuff that works really well too. I just avoid anything coconut because I can't stand the smell 😆 I do 2 braids often, maybe once a week or more, but hadn't considered the 2 claw clip hairdo! it could look really cute, like space buns, or if I tug on the ends to make them wispy could be cute too! those are both great ideas. thanks and thank you for the compliment 🤍


Thank you for getting back to me 💚 good luck with the hair style 😊!


holy beautiful. maybe braid them? also hair routine please 🥹


Seems to hide your face, maybe Carrie fisher side of the head rings, big ones


Colorist/Hairdresser here. Have you ever had it done in a French twist? It takes a bit of practice but is great for super long hair. ALSO... look up a "Halo Braid". It keeps the hair on top of the head... therefore less pulling on the scalp!!!


I wear Crown braids a lot and they are very comfortable. I like to Dutch lace braid them and add hair to the front section only, resulting in a smoother look. Sometimes I get fancy and decorate with pearl hair pins, it looks pretty.


[picture of finished product [linked here](https://www.tumblr.com/komekoro/788524748177113088/my-new-go-to-summer-updo) if instructions are unclear] My go to updo is to French braid my hair, continuing in a regular braid once I have no more hair to add. Once I’ve tied that off at the end when I can’t braid any further, I fold the braid in half so the end is back up by the nape of my neck, then fold the whole thing up with the nape point at the pivot point so the double layer braid rests nicely at the back of my head. I then secure with a u shaped hair pin, through the three layers (including the French braid on my scalp). Going through the French braid on my scalp significantly distributes the weight and doesn’t have the awful pulling sensation.


wow that looks beautiful!!!! quite a few people have suggested that I try hair sticks and I am totally gonna try it, but at the same time I was concerned all I could do with it were boring old buns lol this really sold it to me! what a cute hairdo. thank you so much 🤍


Absolutely! I’m glad you like it! And thank you for the compliment!


Suffering from success🥹


This is some NXT level flex


I don't know why this sub is being recommended to me, as a bald man. But hey, I'm happy to admire all the gorgeous locks on display here 😂


what kind of oil do you use?


Life goals right here. Beautiful


Can I ask why you use ketonazole shampoo?


sure! I used to get random periods of itchiness and flakiness on my scalp, that I would remedy with head and shoulders, but it would inevitably come back if I took it out of shampoo rotation. it got much worse when I started running a few years ago - and I figured out it wasn't dandruff, but seborrheic dermatitis. when my scalp gets too hot and too dirty (be it from sweat or product) it starts acting up again. if I don't sweat I can go like 4 days between washes! this is a lot for someone who had to wash it every other day 🤣


Thanks for the thorough explanation. I was so curious because my friend's sister uses ketonazole for other issues but the ketonazole shampoo made her hair extra shiny HAHA. Does your hair gets shinier after usage?


Hi you! I have the same problem! I found this way to do a braid-crown style using just a ribbon to be supeeer easy so it's not to mich work for a everyday style and it stays perfect the whole day! I hope the link works:
[Haircrown](https://pin.it/5tUm169BW)


that's super cute! I'll have to find a pretty ribbon to do it, and I also might have to tie it on the back instead of on top lol, but this looks very promising! I really wanted to find options that aren't boring because I'm not tired of my hair, I love it and want to put it on display, not put it away like it's a burden. this is very lovely and is exactly what I wanted to try! thank you so much 🤍


My go-tos with thick hair are the figure-8 bun with a Ficcare clip and the Gibraltar bun with a hair fork or sticks (I'm wearing a Gibraltar bun right now.) I wouldn't enjoy running in them, but for everything else, they're great!

If I'm being active and my hair is longer than it is now (just past waist length now, but I've had it halfway down my thighs in the past), I do two Dutch braids.


wowza the figure 8 bun looks incredible!!! I think my hair is long enough to do it, I'm gonna try it for sure! the Gibraltar bun is also very cute, both will go into my hairdo rotation once I get the hang of it 😆 I tried with a pen but it was kind of a fail. though I'm sure with a proper hair stick I'm gonna have a chance of getting it right! and how do you do Dutch braids? I can only do French, whenever I try Dutch I get super confused lol! it's like, you learn to sit cross-legged on the floor a certain way, and when you try to invert it it feels weird and like your legs don't obey you. I feel like a newborn fawn when I try Dutch braiding lmao. thank you for the tips!


It's weird... if I do one braid, French is how I do it, but when I'm doing two, Dutch is way easier. I'm trying to figure out how to describe the difference. In the French, the new working hair goes over the braid, while in Dutch, it goes under. I always think of it like flipping the wrist. If I try to do one Dutch braid, I have to slow down and really concentrate.

And with the Gibraltar, it works better for me if I use a thin fork or two sticks. One single stick doesn't feel like it holds very well.

I hope these help! The Figure-8 especially is a lifesaver and timesaver!


I don't know if this is what you're asking for but sharing just in case it helps: really big hair clips help me a lot with getting my long hair out of my sweating neck and back on the go. I wouldn't say they look very fancy but it's definitely what has kept me away from cutting it due to suffocating under the hair blanket in summer haha


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lmao thank you so much! it's definitely been a journey. 10 years ago I had a buzz cut, and growing that out involved a lot of mental health work and self care in every level of the word. I gladly accept the compliment, because I truly think my hair today reflects a lot of positive attitude changes I've had over the last decade. when I get compliments on it I feel that it goes past beauty, I take it very personally as a compliment to the work I've done on my general well-being. so thank you so very much! your kind words mean a lot to me 🤍


I am so glad it landed with the kindness that I intended! And I do think you should be proud, of both your hair care routine and your self care routine! We are all worthy of self love and it is indeed hard work for many, myself included! Thank you for sharing this deeply personal journey and that my comment made a difference <3


Just wanted to say that your hair looks magnificent! Wow!


Maybe 3 separate buns? Like one higher up on your head, one in the middle and one lower down.


half- up hairstyles are great for taking the weight off my neck. sometimes i’ll put in 2 little braided buns or ponytails on top of my head. i also like to braid my 2 little front strands when they get greasy, but that looks a little weird if you just leave the rest of your hair down.


Same haha, my head hurts when I tie it an up-do or high pigtails.


🫂 the struggle is real!


I do double Dutch braids often for similar reasons. Hair is heavy right now so I get a headache from ponytails. When I braid, sometimes I fluff the braids as I go to give the braids more volume to make it look more styled.


Dutch braids are so cute! I can only do French, but I'm gonna try to floof them up so they look like you said, more styled! I was frustrated my usual hairdos were boring and looked like I was just getting the hair out of the way. I want to have more fun and put it in display properly, but without all the pain and most of all without caving and cutting! thank you for the tip!


If you can French braid, you can totally Dutch braid! It’s basically just the opposite of French. Instead of braiding “over” you braid “under”. My hands actually prefer the feeling of Dutch braiding over French 😂


Check out the YouTuber haartraum. She has a ton of tutorials (mostly in German, but some in English), and she also has very thick hair similar to yours. I bet you'll find a comfortable hairstyle idea on her channel.


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Did your stylist bring that drying contraption or you just have it?? Gorgeous curls on a gorgeous bride!


Thank you! She brought it, I just came along for the ride


Hawt 😍🥰 oh your lucky spouse! Congratulations !


Those hair accessories are very pretty.

You look gorgeous, congrats on your wedding.


Thank you so much! 🥰


Literally my thoughts word for word.

I love when good hair days happen for events 👌🏽


Proof that curls do show up for big days when treated with love. Your hair looks amazing and you look radiant. This is such a joyful post 💖


Thank you for your kind words ❤ They showed up big time, it was a wonderful day!


Gorgeous in every way! Congratulations!


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Beautiful! I wish you a long and happy marriage ❤


Gorgeous!
Also...thank you for the hair inspo!


SO pretty! And congratulations to both of you!


You look so happy and your curls look wonderful!


You look beautiful


Beautiful ❤


First of all, those curls are amazing!

Second, and totally not the point, where is your shawl from? It is almost as beautiful as you on your wedding day!


Thank you so much!

And maybe not the point, but I am so glad you asked cause I love it so much 🙈 I got the shawl from Burel Factory, a Portuguese brand that works with local shepherds (https://burelfactory.com/en/pages/transformation-of-wool).


Your curls with your hair jewelry—STUNNING. Congrats! 💕


Yes they were! 😍

Congrats, sis!


No suggestions, just want to say that your hair is beautiful!


Agreed! I love the claw clip. You could try clips with interesting designs. But this style is gorgeous with your hair!


Right?! 10/10, no notes. What a bombshell!


Thank you so much! It took me so long to get to where I am with my hair texture (and I always feel like it can be improved) so this means a lot!


I like the lilla rose hair clips


No advice bc I am also having my claw clip pried from my cold dead curls. But your post did make my giggle


Same!! 🙋🏻♀


How else does one keep it out of the eyes


When my hair was longer I did something similar but with barrettes! Like these https://franceluxe.com/collections/barrettes?srsltid=AfmBOorftkrUMVWLbBmrlg_TV-dlBitf-IgDJJ7xP15UTXzKNIK5zUpP


I gotta get myself some large barrettes. 🤔


Those are cute; great idea!


Why mess with perfection!!


https://preview.redd.it/ypwaq13gifwg1.png?width=1169&format=png&auto=webp&s=9e2c49fb2575d86b25aaa7e008d66f7257d05985

I think this would look great if you’re ever loooong for something different it’s from a Pinterest tutorial I have saved [https://pin.it/2iXW6IXOK](https://pin.it/2iXW6IXOK)


Ooh that is so cute! I'm totally going to try that.


No judgment, I love a claw clip.