Reupload the picture wasn’t included idk why!

Hi! Need desperate help 😅. I have naturally curly hair probably doesn’t look like that in the picture but that’s a reference my hair always looks rough and just looks bad although it feels smooth. It doesn’t look good in pictures eh sometimes not always. Doesn’t reflect light that well. Js feels dull.

My routine is bad but here goes!! :
I use a dove hydrating shampoo and oat milk conditioner garnier. I won’t wet my hair unless it oily or rough probably 2 days after ill wash it. I do also use a nizoral shampoo 1x a week and k18 bond repair hair mask 1x week but - its finished now haven’t used it in 2 weeks. I also use a leave-in but i believe my leave-in isn’t working properly for my hair so I won’t mention it — i also use TRESemmé Keratin Smooth anti-frizz oil sometimes.

I prefer air dried hair but i do have a diffuser — i don’t use it unless I am in a rush. My hair is nice and curly afterwards also i dont have small strands it’s always big chunks of hair never been bothered to separate them. Don’t wear a bonnet to bed but have a silk pillow case.

this is what i do and remember. I am not an expert. Any curly hair connoisseur that can help me save my hair 😅!

Curly hair help reupload


Hi! Need desperate help 😅. I have naturally curly hair probably doesn’t look like that in the picture but that’s a reference my hair always looks rough and just looks bad although it feels smooth. It doesn’t look good in pictures eh sometimes not always. Doesn’t reflect light that well. Js feels dull.

My routine is bad but here goes!! :
I use a dove hydrating shampoo and oat milk conditioner garnier. I won’t wet my hair unless it oily or rough probably 2 days after ill wash it. I do also use a nizoral shampoo 1x a week and k18 bond repair hair mask 1x week but - its finished now haven’t used it in 2 weeks. I also use a leave-in but i believe my leave-in isn’t working properly for my hair so I won’t mention it — i also use TRESemmé Keratin Smooth anti-frizz oil sometimes.

I prefer air dried hair but i do have a diffuser — i don’t use it unless I am in a rush. My hair is nice and curly afterwards also i dont have small strands it’s always big chunks of hair never been bothered to separate them. Don’t wear a bonnet to bed but have a silk pillow case.

this is what i do and remember. I am not an expert. Any curly hair connoisseur that can help me save my hair 😅!

Curly hair help


Ive never really known how to take care of my hair. Didn't know if it was straight or curly But Google lens says i have type 2B wavy hair and I think its pretty accurate. Now what can I do to start taking care of my hair? I want it to be a little bit more defined than just being puffed up 25/7. I alwaysss have it tightly braided or else I just look like a mess. Im a little sad I cant try anything new. Or at least I dont know how. What you see in pic is half my hair. Other half is in back!

I only use loreal everpure moisture shampoo and their conditioner!

1. Is the there a simple routine I can create (no heat or expensive tools) that I can try that will keep my hair wavy/curly without the immediate puffiness? Im ok with buying product i just dont think ill be able to get stuff like a diffusion thing.

2. Ive never actually gotten a haircut that targets a style. Only trimming and cutting chunks off. I really like the butterfly cut but has anyone with really dense/coarse hair gotten that cut? All the pics I've seen show girls with finer hair (less hair). What cute haircut would you guys recommend that can make something good out of my hair? Maybe something that makes having thick hair  be not so bad

Thank you!🩷

Don't even know where to start...


I have very little curl in my hair (more of a wave / texture) but my boyfriend has very curly hair. Like 4a-4b. Our daughter is 2 and I’ve been struggling with her hair texture changing since it started to curl, it’s now about 3b-3c and the products and routines that worked before do not work now, she gets tangles and knot resembling dreads only by her neck. I was told they are a product of dryness and her constantly rubbing her head around on pillows and blankets, so I have been using this routine:

\-washing with heritage shampoo and conditioner rinsing fully out and trying to brush/comb in bath with conditioner in

\-air drying, no heat

\-the brush we use is Frida baby brush for thick hair and curls

\-we use Cantù detangling spray and raw sugar oat milk detangling spray with a Cantù curl butter and if she hasn’t had her hair washed a coconut oil spray

She doesn’t tolerate her hair being brushed for long periods of time, crying and yanking from me the whole time. I brush from the ends out, small chunks at a time, holding the base of the hair and brushing against my hand to ensure no pulling. She tolerates me running conditioner through her hair and finger pulling the curls but that does nothing for the dry feeling “dreads” by her neck. Is there something I’m not doing or doing wrong to fix these? I know they are a lot of dead hair, fabric fuzzies and knots all stuck together and brushing and keeping them hydrated helps but is there more I can do? They aren’t tangled to the base and the ends are also not tangled but she won’t let me touch them. Any advice would be appreciated! I don’t want to be the ignorant white mom 😂😅 attaching pictures of her hair to maybe get some insight.

Looking for suggestions


My hair is curly/wavy. Some days it's extra curly, most days it's like this. The ends of my hair will curl into ringlets, while the top looks like a mess. It doesn't matter if I put something in my hair or not. Creams and gel are too heavy for my hair, in any amount. It'll completely destroy the natural shape of my hair. I've had some luck with mousse, but while it keeps the frizz away and kinda locks the shape in, it doesn't actually help any in forming the curl. I had considered that maybe my hair just has multiple patterns, but I've seen the same chunks of hair form curls before, and it does it in the shower too, or while I'm in a high humidity area like the beach (I rarely go, so it's not damage from the water). At the moment the air in my town is quite dry, so my hair is lacking in moisture, but it \*always\* looks like this, just less frizzy. My hair naturally forms clumps of curls or waves, but I can't just twist them because most of those clumps switch patterns halfway down the length of the hair, and it's nearly impossible to figure out when wet.

I wouldn't say I have a "routine" but I don't use heat but will sometimes use a diffuser, I use a light leave in, i use a clarifying shampoo about once a month, and I wash my hair every 3 days (any more and it dries out, any less and it's too oily) at the moment I just use v & co wave babe AND maui moisture and switch between the two because I've had the best results in that. I've tried a number of different highly recommended brands that are either too heavy for my hair, or increase the amount of oiliness. I use the v & co mousse as it's not too heavy and isn't overwhelming in the scent. I use argon oil on the underside of my hair because it tangles really easily there and use the leftover on the rest of the hair. I also use olaplex n6 once a week which really helps with frizz and smoothness. I don't usually overlap products though. One leave in or oil and the mousse, or leave in and nothing at all. I don't get particularly good results with the diffuser; hover, pixie, or, which I get the nicest results from, when I take the comb part out of the diffuser and just use the little bowl. I sleep on a silk pillow case, never wet, and usually just let hair air dry. I don't brush after washing, I have a wide tooth comb. I just don't know what to do, and I don't think I understand my hair well enough.

Please help.


i need some advice for my hair there are huge frizzy chunks that can never ever be tamed. I did all kinds of treatments, trims, different styling, diet changes.. If it were some strands on the top of my head id figure its because of friction, but its huge and deep chunks of my hair around random places as well..

Does anyone else have this issue? Is there a solution or product I can try? I’m this close to cutting off all my hair because it’s bumming me out pretty bad. I don’t know if its a scalp issue / my actual hair genetics or a lifestyle thing. I don’t even know if it will grow back non frizzy if i cut it ..

this is it after washing it with shampoo + conditioner (using kevin murphy smoothing treatment) + no products.
My current routine: wash with kevin murphy smoothing treatment shampoo and conditioner and brush only in the shower, pat dry with microfiber towel and air dry, sometimes i use coconut oil before sleeping, when styling I use aunt jackie leave in conditioner + dont shrink gel. Sometimes i use curl smith mousse if i want it to last longer. I use hair mask every now and then. I tie my hair up and sleep on a normal pillow case, and for refresh i just use some water and the same styling products.

Planning to see a trichologist but figured i’d go here first..

Thanks!

help pls


help pls


Is wetting hair everyday truly as bad as people make it out to be? I have a solid routine and use mousse, gel, and leave in, but some pieces of my hair just don’t stay defined over night. For context I have a wave pattern from 2B-3B and lots of chunks go frizzy even with a bonnet and silk pillow case, the only thing that seems to help is wetting those pieces again.

Wetting hair everyday


I’m feeling very lost with my hair! It’s always clumpy, frizzy, totally flat at the roots, and not very voluminous (minus chunks of frizz). At best, it only looks good for a couple hours (first two pictures).

I’ve tried everything I can think of: a lot of product, one product, no product. Brush styling with different brushes in different sections and directions. Diffusing, air drying, plopping. Also gotten layers, didn’t help. If I don’t at least brush it in a few sections while wet it is always completely undefined and huge with frizz everywhere. Hard/soft water doesn’t seem to change it. I’ve used Marc Anthony curl lotion, Shea Moisture gel and curl smoothie, and Not your mother’s mousse and cream. For shampoo and conditioner I’m using Maui nourish and moisture shampoo and lightweight curls conditioner. I’ve used Briogeo, curlsmith, and Odele.

Does anyone have any styling or product recommendations? It looked really good several years (last slide) ago but I have no idea why and can’t remember what I used. At this point I’m really self conscious wearing curly hair out and about because it gets so frizzy and oddly shaped after a few hours.

Current routine: Section top and bottom, add nickel size amount of Marc Anthony defining lotion gel to both sections. Brush out bottom section in large sections. Brush back half of top section straight up and let fall. Brush front section in diagonals to get rid of middle part. Scrunch water out with microfiber towel and air dry. Loose ponytail at night on satin pillowcase.

flat frizzy hair no matter what


hi!! so this is gonna be a LOT because my hair journey has been a lot lol, bear with me PLS i’m desperate! (23F)

i have fine, low density, inconsistently curly, frizzy, dry high porosity hair. im now going to just list out all my complaints  lol:

a) it curls differently every time i style it… no matter if i follow the same routine. sometimes i get cute fluffy curls, other times i get flat tight curls, or half straight/half curl, etc etc.

b) it dries so fast. like i put it loosely in a soft tshirt after i shower for more than 2 minutes and it’s completely dry on the ends. or if i don’t put a towel on it and wait two minutes with my hair hanging wet, the roots are completely dry.

c) it’s so prone to breakage. i have so many split ends and my hair is a different length everywhere. i did a big chop in 2023 for healthiness and it wasn’t as rewarding now that it’s grown back lol. but i cut my split ends like every week at work in small sections to keep it healthy. i also get trims every 2-3 months. should i go sooner??? its $60 + tip yall im broke

d) my hair falls out easily it feels like (you’ll see why im not sure if u keep reading to the next section). i feel like ive been trying to grow it back from the scalp for years and its just getting worse or staying the same idek anymore. i do see a lot of baby hairs growing at the scalp but not nearly as many as i feel i should be after all this time :/

e) even when i do put heat in my hair it just looks frizzy or doesn’t hold well. i know some of the frizz is because my hair is diff lengths all over because of all the breakage and regrowth.

f) a lot of my ends feel blunt idk if that means anything. there’s also a lot of ends that are flimsy soft. also a lot of random coarse \~\~\~\~\~ type hairs u know???

g) the top layer of hair (from the crown and top of my scalp), is super thin and short and mostly straight but the middle is very curly and less fine. the underneath at the back just only curls at the end.

h) hair gets greasy easily if i use too much product

i) scalp can be very dry and flakey but the flakes but stick to my scalp unless i hit my head upside down. i use nizoral shampoo in replacement of ouai when this happens!

OKAY IM SORRY IM LONG WINDED BUT PLS I NEED ADVICE 😭

here’s also things that are barriers and have affected my hair health (i struggle a lot with mental health but pls im still funny and cool and awesome i just have a LOT of sparkle yk)

a) i struggled with trichotillomania for yeaaars like pulling probably hundreds of pieces of hair out individually (not in chunks) every day. and i still engage in the behavior slightly… but only like a couple hairs here and there. im working really hard to overcome it so pls dont advise me to stop because i know and im doing so!! trying my hardest!

b) i am in recovery for anorexia but i struggled with it for just as long as i did the trich. getting in protein is really hard for me because i also have arfid (im telling u guys god rly nerfed me lol). so i assume that effects my hair health as well at least in some regard.

c) i definitely have a good amount of heat damage because i used to rely on heat to feel good about my hair. i would always use heat protectant and serum.. but still not great. i have made it a point to stop using heat and embrace the curl. i’m doing okay, i have only used heat 3 times so far this year which i know is lowkey a lot but im interviewing for grad school so i can’t have my hair be frizzy LOL

d) i have POTS so blood tends to pool in my feet and not go to my extremities or my head?? not too sure how brain flow to POTS patients compares to that of regular people lol. but im sure there is correlation.

e) one thing i know ISNT wrong is my thyroid because i get my blood work tested all the time cause i have chronic illnesses. lmk if anyone wants to know my results idk if its helpful. is that weird to offer 😭

f) i have this compulsive need to play with my hair like twirl it/run strands between my fingers. i’ve done it my entire life like there are pictures of me at 2 years old doing it. i just take strands of here and run them between my pointer and middle finger lol. not sure if that affects my hair health but prob

OKAY LAST PART. pls if ur still reading im almost done JUST GIVE ME A CHANCE IM DESPERATE LOL

here is my current routine / things ive tried:

i wash my hair every 4ish days, almost always double cleanse, and i cycle these 3 routines:

WASH A:

\- ouai detox shampoo & davines energizing shampoo

\- k18 (after shower)

WASH B:

\- redken extreme length & loreal elvive hyaluronic plump shampoo

\- davines nounou conditioner (leave in for 5ish min)

WASH C:

\- davines energizing shampoo & loreal elvive hylauronic plump shampoo

\- davines nounou conditioner

POST SHOWER:

\- not your mothers curl talk leave in conditioner

\- devacurl wavytalk curl cream

\- goldwell just smooth serum

\*\* sometimes i also use itsa10 gloss leave in spray

DAILY:

\- i typically spray my hair wet every morning with water w/ a couple drops of peppermint essential oil in the spray bottle, use my bounce curl brush, and use devacurl wavy talk to restore my curl.

\- i use goldwell just smooth everyday

\- on wash day, i will wear my hair in a loose slick back using softee castor oil conditioner

\- once a week i use amika dream routine overnight hydration mask & ouai scalp serum

\- i tie my hair back or wear it in braids at night

THINGS IVE TRIED:

\- minoxidil serum & foam: is this fr my only/best option??? i have pets who sleep at the top of my pillow. i also find it makes my hair greasy faster and sticky/separated at the roots. i am difficult ab minoxidil bc i also wont take the pill for personal reasons lol.

\- hair oiling: did it for years and feel like it didnt rly do anything and it lowkey made it worse (i used a rosemary blend on the scalp and jojoba through the shaft/ends)

\- big chop: cut my hair to a bob already and it took forever to grow back and it didnt really fix the problem. (i could’ve done more for my hair health but i dont want to go thru that process of regrowth again)

\- ouai scalp serum: idk if i used it long enough to notice a true difference but the consistency was tough after awhile lol

OK I THINK THATS EVERYTHING IM SORRY it was so long u guys but im 23 and have been struggling with my hair since i was a teenager. i just want to get it to where i want it so i can feel more confident and feminine!

any tips are appreciated :,) pls ik the internet can be so brutal so be kind to me lol but also dont lie to me plsss i can handle it haha ik my hair isn’t great. only thing i wont do is shave my head!!

i just want to:

\- revive my curl and reduce frizz

\- stimulate new growth and retain length

\- strengthen & hydrate ends

\- improve overall hair health and appearance

\- i need silk pillow case and bonnet recs!!

i posted this in a couple hair communities sorry if ur seeing this twice!

hopefully at least one person reads this mf novel 😭

23f struggling with frizzy, high porosity, weak, fine, low density, inconsistent curls. BEWARE THIS IS A LOT LOL


I have curly hair, more loose/thick curls than tight (definitely not wavy tho), but in texture very fine, which I think is causing me most of my issues. Its about shoulder length, and my haircut has a lot of layers. I used the season 5 nancy wheeler haircut as a reference for my most recent salon visit if that helps lol.

On days that I wash my hair, it usually comes out fine, no major complaints. But the next day, my hair is a mess. It is frizzy, the curls are a mix of totally straight and pitiful waves, my bangs look awful and flat, and it looks and feels greasy. My bangs and the length of my hair are usually clearly two separated chunks as well. It looks just awful. One day later! In the past couple weeks, I’ve tried shampooing my hair on that second day, and that's kind of hit or miss. In the past it hasn't worked, but lately I've been getting more success from it. I have no idea why as I haven't changed anything lol but that's just the way it goes with my hair.

My concern now is that I am really close to getting a new job that would require a long commute three days of the week, meaning I won't have much time in the morning to wash my hair. I would like to switch to washing my hair in the evening, but I have yet to find a successful way to arrange my hair while I sleep without it coming out like I described earlier.

I've tried a silk bonnet, which keeps it smooth but flattens the curls, I've tried the pineapple method, which doesn't do well with my layers, and I think it contributes toward straightening out the length of my curls by pulling them, and I've tried the bonnet and the pineapple combined. Nothing works.

Here’s my wash routine:

Every other day, I shampoo and condition my hair with Cantù brand shampoo and conditioner, and comb my hair in the shower after I condition. After getting out of the shower, I comb my hair again, then use Cantù brand mousse, and scrunch it into my hair w head upside down. I plop dry w a t shirt for usually thirty minutes or longer, as I’ve found the longer I plop the better it comes out. After unplopping, I have to let it sit and air dry for a little bit before I use a diffuser, scrunching it up with my head upside down. Usually this process is fine.

I don't have any styling products that I can use outside of the shower. I had a gel that I used but I found it to just weigh my hair down more.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated! I am new to learning how to handle my curly hair and I am sick of looking like a rat that got dragged through the gutter every other day of the week. Thank you !!

Sleeping with Layered+Fine Curly Hair?


My hair is pretty long, like till my butt long with medium to high density. I was thinking of getting a haircut because my roots look a bit stretched out because of the weight and a lot of volume has been lost.

 I haven't gotten my hair cut for 11 years now and I want to keep my length mostly the same, but I also like wearing my hair in a braid because it's really convenient to move around in and doesn't get in my face. However,  I've seen that whenever people with layers braid their hair, it looks really bad because of the large chunks of hair getting out of the braid. Also after the hair grows out, it has this thin tail at the end which looks very weird.

So any ideas on what haircut to get or will I have to make a compromise somewhere? 😭

Routine:

1) Joy conditioning shampoo (red or green), 2 washes

2) loreal paris 72H moisture sealing conditioner, detangle hair, wash it way and put it in a tshirt

after wash:

3) parachute coconut oil and parachute rosemary+coconut hair cream. Make curls using XO Curls detangling comb and scrunch while wet.

4) flaxseed gel and let it air dry, scrunch it with some more coconut oil.

Hair type- 3A, dense, low to medium porosity.

Curly haircuts that will allow me to wear my hair in different ways?


I wish I could just have this every day 😭

Routine: Anyways I washed with store brand head and shoulders medical grade or something like that. Over the past two years my skin and hair have changed and it’s what works for me now! I used hask argan oil deep conditioner mixed with manuka honey (seriously just honey) and then I use argan oil, whatever brand was just argan oil and cheap, and I just switched back to Cantù products in December after trying mielle for a few months. I apply Cantù leave in coconut deep conditioner while my hair is still super wet, I section my hair but not too seriously. Then I plop on a tee shirt for at least 30 minutes, on shampoo days it’s at least an hour. Then I let it out, move hair in chunks to where it’s supposed to lay, and gently scrunch mielle avocado gel on. Air dry.

This is everything! Idk why I can’t post.

Wash day. Look at this guy


Or does anybody have a secret tip that gets them to listen without just being a rude and scary customer? I've tried so many hairdressers in my city, price points anywhere between 20 and 120€ per cut, and none of them seem to listen to a single word I say.

"Would it be possible to cut my hair while it's dry? It really is a lot easier to get an even cut this way." "That's not how it's done, cutting wet hair is always easier!" Okay then. I stopped trying to convince them because not a single one ever listened, not even the ones who have cut my hair before and know how long it takes to fix the unevenness they create with a wet cut.

"I want a slightly longer pixie like in this photo, so my hair should cover my ears. My curls pull up a lot when drying, so since you're cutting them wet, they need to go slightly past my chin - right where I am pointing now." "Got it! \^\_\^" and the very next second I feel how they cut my hair directly at earlobe level. I will clasp my wet hair between two fingers to pull it as straight as they do with the comb, and then use my other hand to point at the exact place where the scissors or the blade would need to go, but they still always manage to miss it by at least 3 cm. Do they forget? Or do they just ignore me because they think they know better? Even though simple geometry says that to connect points A and B, a curved line needs to be longer than a straight line? Telling them that I want a bob when I actually want a pixie doesn't work because while it fixes the length problem, the general shapes of these cuts are too different.

"Do you see those two spots where my hair is a lot more curly than anywhere else? These need to be left a bit longer. If everything is cut to the same length when wet, I will basically have two large missing chunks in my lengths when dry." "Okay, if you say so!" And a few minutes afterwards, when I notice that they get close to one of the spots, I repeat "that's one of the really curly strands I pointed out earlier, so that one should be left longer." And they say "yup I remember \^\_\^" and still cut it to the exact same wet-length as everything else.

I already gave up on "could you hold the hair dryer in one place when diffusing? It breaks up the strands and gives me frizz when you kind of comb my hair with the diffuser nozzles like you're doing right now" ("okay!" \*keeps combing\*), or "can we use a spray bottle to get the hair a bit wet again after cutting? It helps with getting the combed hair back into structured strands" ("no, they will tangle if they get wet after combing!"). I just ask them if I could diffuse them myself and I carry my own spray bottle. So that's an easy communication issue to avoid. But the other stuff is a lot harder.

How do I get them to listen? Does anyone have tips? Do I just need to be, like, really really assertive? Or interrupt them at every single strand to ask "can you show me where you're planning to cut? No, a bit deeper, please"? I hate being a Stressful Customer :( so if anybody has tips that don't involve me becoming rude and annoying as fuck, please let me know?

(The sub wants my routine to let me post, I just cowash and style with the Balea Oil Repair line from a drugstore chain in my country, really happy with how that turns out, the hairdressers are the only challenge I have left in my hair journey lmao)

Is anyone else beyond fed up with hairdressers never ever listening?


(first 2 photos, my curly hair/ last 2,Now)
A little background: i never had curly/wavy hair growing up. At most was a little wave when its wet. in 2022 i shave my hair off and then did touch it- letting it grow out with no heat or anything. when my hair was about similar length to the photos i noticed it curling by itself with no product and decided i want to see if i have curly hair. i did. i rarely used product if i did it was Aunt Jackie's curling gelée, and that's it. my hair always able to bounce back after a few days/a week if i bleached or dyed it...until 2024.
i bleached it using a higher developer then normal and completely fried my hair- to the point it was falling out in chunks. I dyed it my brown the next day and didn't touch it for a year. With no luck i turned to any curly routine i could find. curl cream/gels/mouse/sprays/curlers/etc. i've started to dye my hair again cause i don't think it's going to curl any time soon.
i don't use any routine anymore besides my usual drug store whole blends shampoo/conditioner. that i've used almost my whole life.
if you have any advice, i would really appreciate it.

Is my curly hair gone forever?


Hey all I want to get some of the frizz out of my hair, define my curls and grow it out I am planning on cutting it first. I want to get the bleach chunks out. I used L'Oréal Paris Elvive Hydra Hyaluronic Shampoo and L'Oréal Paris Elvive Hydra Hyaluronic Hydra-Sealing Conditioner for my last wash. I then sprayed and scrunched it with Umberto Giannini Boho Beach Waves Coconut Oil Texture. I put it in a lose bun when it was dry and went to bed with it on my everyday pillow case. I live in a very humid climate if that helps and I don't really have a routine I just wash and conditioner and scrunch in some form of gel or spray that I have.

Need some help.


My curls have in the last couple of months gone really thin and straggly, then I woke up this morning and some of my front pieces have gone dead straight up to about an inch away from the root.

I have gotten this before with singular strands, but never a noticeable chunk.

Can I get them back to normal? they used to be healthy and beautiful at 4a, but now they look a mess with straggly 3b that refuses to be defined or clump, and its even worse with random chunks going straight.

If context is needed, I'm a 18yo F, never moved house, as stressed as everyone else. recently did cut my ends that helped some of my hair go from weirdly wavy 3b to more defined 3c. My usually routine which used to have my curls looking amazing was to wash with Aussie conditioner only then coconut oil.

Curly hair gone straight


achieved using a round brush
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✨ ***MY ROUTINE*** ✨

- (only once a month) use suave clarifying shampoo
- (1-2 times a week) use palmer’s coconut oil shampoo. comb through hair while shampoo is in to distribute product evenly. wash out and repeat once more
- (after shampooing) use palmer's coconut oil conditioner, comb through hair to distribute product evenly
- rinse with neutral/lukewarm water and finger rake out remaining shed hairs
- when not washing hair, just wet it and rinse out previous day’s product, brush through to get rid of shed hairs. (I'll sometimes co-wash but not all the time.)
- squeeze dry with a cotton t shirt so it isn't dripping, but leave hair pretty moist
- section hair into 3 chunks (1 on each side and 1 in the back)
- apply rizos curls multivitamin leave in conditioner through midsection and ends using praying hands method and raking fingers through
- apply rizos curls defining curl custard the same way, squeeze upwards, slowly, using a pulsing motion
- use cotton t shirt to lightly squeeze excess product out
- I have 2 drying methods: let air dry OR air dry for 10-20 mins and then blow dry with diffuser on low/ medium heat until it's dry and crunchy
- scrunch out any crunch using a couple drops of jojoba oil on fingers while scrunching

✨***PRODUCT LIST***✨

- palmer's coconut oil shampoo
- palmer's coconut oil conditioner
- suave clarifying shampoo
- rizos curls multivitamin leave in conditioner
- rizos curls defining curl custard
- jojoba oil

just had to brag about this perfect spiral


I have a section of hair at the crown of my head that’s frizzier and coarser than the rest of my hair, and a lot of the strands are really rough, squeaky, and kinky.

I’ve only noticed this since I cut layers into my hair, so Im not sure if its texture id emphasized due to the shorter length or if the damage was sustained after I cut it. I thought it could be weird shaped cuticles because I have a cowlick in that area, or it could be damage from getting the most direct contact with the sun/hot shower water/my pillow when i sleep (because i fell out of the habit of using my bonnet)

I’ve been trying to rehabilitate the chunks by focusing on them when moisturizing and using olaplex bond repair, and while I think it has gotten slightly softer and less kinky, it doesnt seem to hold its curl as well as before, and less than my other hair.

The first photo is the damaged hair and the second is the curl pattern in my healthy hair elsewhere on my head.

What do you think is happening here and how do I get the hair to be healthy and curly again?

Routine fyi: this is day 2 refreshed hair with my normal routine, not super neat bc i was going to nap anyway

Trying to repair this section of coarse, damaged hair, but now it doesn’t curl after using olaplex?


hi friends!

i don’t really know what my “curl type” is (and i know it’s probably just waves), but i do know my hair doesn’t want to be fully straight.

i’ve started using wavy products and i really like how it looks and feels at first, but it almost immediately gets frizzy and puffy, with random straight chunks throughout.

this is my current routine:

cerave moisturizing shampoo and conditioner

nym curl talk leave-in (mids and ends only)

fob wavy foam

scrunching throughout + diffusing on low heat and low airflow

i shower at night and wash daily, mostly because my lifestyle leaves me feeling sweaty and gross by the end of the day.

i wear a satin, wide-edged bonnet and try to put it on properly (scooping my hair in, not pressing it down), but my waves always look flat and uneven by morning.

i’m hoping that as my hair grows out it’ll be easier to manage, but i’d love any advice in the meantime … especially for frizz, straight pieces, or keeping waves overnight.

pic 1: hair without any product in it- NOT brushed

pic 2, 3: hair with my wavy products as mentioned above

pic 4: hair without product, intentionally brushed out and “straight styled” (low effort- brush hair and flip head back and forth)

care for waves during awkward hair regrowth phase?


So, i previously posted about my hair being extremely frizzy. It still is, though the frizz has gone down a tad. I also got advice to get a specific hair brush to try and clump my hair into bigger chunks so as not to leave it stringy, but it still turned out like this.

I use not your mother’s curl tall shampoo, conditioner, and curling cream, and Garnier Fructis gel just to build up a cast. I partially diffused it on a cool setting then let it air dry. I then scrunched it again with a light hair oil to brake out the cast.

Any advice on how to get those bigger clumps? I tried the curl defining hairbrush but to no avail. Am I perhaps just forcing curls and don’t really have them naturally?

My hair still isn’t clumping??


Aye yall.

 I been in a mad depression for a while. No showers. No doin anything. My hair has become a ratty mop and chunks of my hair have made these rat nests that I’ve just been ripping out and a whole back  of my hair has now become massively entangled on one side. I’m afraid I might’ve permanently effed it and I don’t even wanna think about my hairline.

Trying to get it apart in the shower is destroying my back. Well my back is already destroyed.

 Do I have options?

 My routine:

1. I don’t have one currently cus I’m starting to get back to caring about how I look, but V02 and Aussie instant freeze mousse has always made it happen.

I’m back!


I have two types of hair, some wavy nearly flat pieces of hair (which is strange I did a huge chop from waist length to chin length. And all of the sudden I had straight chunks of hair I went hair previously) and then some what 3a-3b curls?

I use the Not your mothers shampoo and conditioner (the purple and white bottle) I use Carol’s daughter leave in conditioner, and I use the Pattern cleansing shampoo once a month. I wash my hair once a week (any more and my hair might suffer) I have fine thin hair, although apparently I had a ton of hair when I was younger (puberty ig) I use the Not your mothers defining curl talk cream and curl talk sculpting gel. I use hair growth and thickening oils. Such as cliganic jojoba oil, Moroccan oil treatment in light, Bur Bur and go lab beauty oils. I oil my air everyday and since it’s pretty light it never wears my hair down. I typically air dry but I thought a diffuser (which I’m returning it sucked half of my hair into the back of the fan and I had to yank my hair out…all that progress to keep my hair healthy out the window)

Now the issue is, my whole life…my hair has always been curly, thin and stringy. Bad combo. Unless I used 0 product and my hair was frizzy, which in then my hair looked awful but it at least looked huge with volume. I’ve tried routine after routine. I’m just exhausted I can’t wear my hair any way and I don’t apply heat. I think I have high porosity hair, mousse weights my hair down, so does most leave in conditioners, I spent so much money buying products I just leave those two out of my routine. Idk what to do. My hair dries fast. Maybe less than an hour to an hour? When I was younger it used to take FOREVER for my hair to dry. But my hair was also severely damaged back then. Even if I do finger curls it just separates into stringy bits. Any advice?

TLDR: my hair is thin and super stringy, finger coiling doesn’t work. Any advice?

Anyone’s else hair does this?


I want them thicker but I'm trying to grow out my hair another 6-10 inches. My hair is already thin to me. It was way thicker and fell out from stress and only grew back to maybe 40-50% of its original thickness. I was hoping for 80% (100% was waaaaaay too much I was breaking combs and brushes in my hair). I do have tons of little short hairs and periodically get new chunks of growth but I don't think it will ever be how I want again. I don't want to see my forehead through my hair. I feel like other people's bangs I've seen are thicker than mine (like goes further back) but then that will thin my hair more from the sides.
They're not cut straight for 2 reasons: salon botched the living shit out of it and I had to fix it, followed a curly cut video for the type of bangs I wanted (can't remember the name but middle is the shortest and then further out gets longer on both sides). They were actually very straight/even at one point but washing and all that I guess changed it? I always search for all the short hairs while it's wet after showering and never find missed hairs. I comb up the shaft while tensioning the hair straight to find the hairs and then separate. Should i pull more hair down from the sides to cut or? If you could draw a line on my hair or some random pic for reference I'd appreciate it lol. I can adjust it on wash day this weekend. The third pic is from the side so you can kind of see how thick and far back the bangs go. My right side hair line naturally goes back a little further than my left. Making both sides similar was really annoying because of that.

I don't really find my routine relevant. I like how  my hair turns out since finding a gel I like 🤷♀ just asking about how to fix my bangs.

How are my bangs supposed to be lol


Hi! It had been a year since I heat styled my hair, but yesterday I wanted to blow it out, so I did and I used a straightener to curl my ends a bit.
Before bed I grabbed the wrong hair oil (a soybean diluted tea tree oil vs my usual lightweight blend) and put it on my mids to ends. Today I woke up and some parts are a little greasy/ stringy.
Disappointed bc I avoid heat on hair as much as possible and was looking forward to wearing the style for the rest of the week.

My question is whether it’d be too harmful to go ahead and do a quick cowash and then re-dry and straightener-curl ends.
Would it be better to dona fun hairstyle today and then re dry? or should I just not at all, maybe wait even more time til after my next full wash?

I’ll include my pre heat styling routine bc I guess it’s more relevant:
Hair is fine, low porosity.
1. redken acidic bonding treatment for at least 4 hours
2. oil scalp and hair (different oils depending on needs), min 2 hrs
3. in shower: mielle rosemary mint scalp scrub in sections
4. shampoo in sections (i alternate between a few, ex. raw sugar grow pro)
5. hair masque (pre heat styling i’ll usually do mielle 2 min deep conditioner kalahari melon and aloe and on my very very ends and bleached chunks, i’ll do manuka honey intensive hydration masque from shea moisture).
6. Rinse, brush wet hair, then lay a bit of watered down leave in
7. use tresemme hest protectant
8. let it dry 80%
9. revlon hair brush it in small sections, slow in medium heat just to get it dry and semi shaped
10. 1-2 passes on small sections to get the flat iron curls
11. finish off w a lightweight oil (ex gisou)

(I use cold water in the shower, usually wash 1x a week)

(photo was original results, I just wanted to make sure someone saw!)
also idk if it’s relevant but it’s raining cats and dogs today, so maybe waiting it out is still fruitful?

Hair oil fiasco pls help!


Hi! It had been a year since I heat styled my hair, but yesterday I wanted to blow it out, so I did and I used a straightener to curl my ends a bit.
Before bed I grabbed the wrong hair oil (a soybean diluted tea tree oil vs my usual lightweight blend) and put it on my mids to ends. Today I woke up and some parts are a little greasy/ stringy.
Disappointed bc I avoid heat on hair as much as possible and was looking forward to wearing the style for the rest of the week.

My question is whether it’d be too harmful to go ahead and do a quick cowash and then re-dry and straightener-curl ends.
Would it be better to dona fun hairstyle today and then re dry? or should I just not at all, maybe wait even more time til after my next full wash?

I’ll include my pre heat styling routine bc I guess it’s more relevant:
Hair is fine, low porosity.
1. redken acidic bonding treatment for at least 4 hours
2. oil scalp and hair (different oils depending on needs), min 2 hrs
3. in shower: mielle rosemary mint scalp scrub in sections
4. shampoo in sections (i alternate between a few, ex. raw sugar grow pro)
5. hair masque (pre heat styling i’ll usually do mielle 2 min deep conditioner kalahari melon and aloe and on my very very ends and bleached chunks, i’ll do manuka honey intensive hydration masque from shea moisture).
6. Rinse, brush wet hair, then lay a bit of watered down leave in
7. use tresemme hest protectant
8. let it dry 80%
9. revlon hair brush it in small sections, slow in medium heat just to get it dry and semi shaped
10. 1-2 passes on small sections to get the flat iron curls
11. finish off w a lightweight oil (ex gisou)
(I use cold water in the shower)

Heat styling inquiry


Recently for a curly cut and have been finally wearing it curly and down for the first time (I am over 50!). It’s been looking nice but I need more volume on top especially dealing with some thinning on the crown.

It occurred to me to maybe try hairspray after diffusing while picking around on top - I could pick and spray and maybe create some more volume that lasts. Has anyone tried this or used hairspray to accentuate volume?

I already do all I can while diffusing - diffuse upside down, flip hair over to the side, pick up chunks and diffuse while holding hair up etc.

Routine:

Shampoo with Amika hydro rush shampoo and hydro rush mask.

Amika hydro intense moisture leave in conditioner

Mielle pomegranate and honey coil sculpting custard

Diffuse

Hairspray?


Pardon my squinty left eye

Current Routine: wash with Shea moisture coconut hibiscus
Condition with Shea moisture coconut hibiscus
Leave in- Garnier fructis air dry curl cream
Gel - love ur curls sea moss gel
Praying hands both of those in
Denman brush it through
Finger curl face framing and larger chunks towards the back.
Plop 20 minutes
Diffuse medium heat medium speed until dry
Pineapple with satin scrunchie bonnet on top
Let it out and fluff up a bit
Profit

The evolution of my curls via school photos


Postpartum regrowth has left me with curly flyaways and even some sections that can look like weird horns at my temples. My normal routine uses a combo of leave-in, curl cream, and gel after washing. My hair is long (about waist-length when dry). I air dry. My hair is fine, high density with looser curls (typically 2c some 3a).

Due to postpartum fallout I have been using a braid more frequently to prevent too many knots from forming. I am looking for product recommendations for the fly aways and especially these larger chunks of regrowth near my temples. I have the curls edge control paste but it feels more oily without enough hold for these sections.

What products to deal with postpartum hair


Postpartum has left me with curly flyaways and even some sections that can look like weird horns near my temples. My normal routine uses a combo of leave-in, curl cream, and gel after washing my long (butt-length) hair and air dry. My hair is fine, high density with looser curls (typically 2c some 3a).

Due to postpartum I have been using a braid more frequently to prevent too many knots from forming. I am looking for product recommendations for the fly aways and especially these larger chunks of shorter hairs near my temples. I have the curls edge control paste but it feels more oily without enough hold for these sections.

Products for postpartum flyaways


hi everyone, I am a long time lurker but I’m finally at my wits end so am posting here hoping to get some help!

I’m going to book a haircut tomorrow but I don’t know what to ask for. These pics are what I’m currently working with and it’s been 6+ months since my last cut. My hair is quite thick and doesn’t look good just hanging down around my face so I wear it half-up pretty much every day just to keep it somewhat controlled, but I don’t like it that much.

I want to go get a haircut that will give it a nice shape when down and complement the waves! Does anyone have any advice for what kind of cut would suit me? I have quite a square face so a style that softens that would be better.

Last time I got my hair cut I asked for long layers and face framing but it turned out horribly - the guy cut these big chunks around my face that didn’t blend into my hair at all, imagine a set of stairs, that’s what it looked like. My fault for getting enticed by a £25 cut. You can still see it a bit in pic 2. The hairdresser I’m going to this time comes recommended by my friend who has an absolutely stunning head of red ringlets so fingers crossed.

My current routine is Tesco citrus shampoo and coconut conditioner (don’t judge, I’m poor) but I just ordered the Aveeno rose water shampoo and conditioner as I want to see if sulfate free anti-frizz products work for me. I use Umberto giannini curl foam and then a small bit of Umberto giannini curl jelly to hold down the frizz, then let it air dry. Hairdryers / diffusing makes the puffiness/frizz a million times worse. I’ve tried scrunching in my products vs smoothing them over my hair but I haven’t noticed a difference in the end result, the waves still appear in their usual pattern. I’ve tried so many different methods and products over the last 2 years and this is the best I have found so far.

Sorry for the long post, I really really want to sort my hair out! My main question would be what kind of cut should I go for but if anyone has more general advice I welcome that too! Thank you in advance !

help/advice for booking haircut!!


Hello,

I recently got a new haircut with a curly stylist after seeing some natural corkscrew curls on the underside of my hair when I air dry it. I am including a before photo of what it normally looks like.

My hair isn’t super curly, but it’s also not pin straight so I went to a stylist so see if she could help. She cut some face framing layers and showed me how to do the scrunching with gel and leave in conditioner.

My problem, I feel like it looks terrible. I can’t tell if it is the haircut, not doing the curls correctly, or me just not used to it. I feel like the curls themselves look okay, but it feels like my face shape looks really weird, and the short bits are blocking my face.

Also, it seems incredibly messy when I look at the top of my head, with chunks going in multiple directions.

I will provide details of exactly what I did today as it is drying, and any help would be appreciated, trying not to freak out about if I made a mistake with this cut 😅

Routine

1. Pantene multitasker shampoo and 5 in 1 conditioner

2. In shower, brushed hair, then with soaking hair flipped it and applied as I am coconut leave in conditioner upside down, scrunching.

3. Then applied Marc Anthony strictly curls curl envy cream upside down while scrunching.

4. Plopped my hair in a long sleeved t-shirt and let sit for 20 minutes.

5. Took out the plop and re arranged curls, letting air dry.

6. No silk bonnet yet, one is in the mail.

New Haircut Trying Curly - Feel like I look insane 😭


I’ve been working on treating my hair right for about a year now. I recently got my dead ends trimmed and was thinking maybe that would help with this problem, but I’m very much still having the issue.

Basically, the front of my hair and other chunks around my head are pretty curly, even having ringlets, but some random chunks especially in the back are pretty straight. Not sure if this is because I’m doing something wrong or if it’s because this is just my hair’s texture.

Routine: I wash my hair pretty infrequently, use curl-friendly shampoo and conditioner. Then I use matrix a curl can dream scrunch n go spray and verb define & defrizz cream. Drying with a diffuser sometimes helps but the back still falls to this straightish texture in some chunks pretty  fast. This is air dried with some scrunching in the picture.

Is my hair actually just insanely mixed textures or am I doing something wrong??


Hi! First time poster here. I need some help identifying a good routine for my type 3A curls.

Up until 2-3 years ago I had an extremely simple routine that worked perfectly for me. I washed my hair every 7-10 days with Whole Foods 365 shampoo and added some curl cream and/or gel afterwards if I wanted specific definition or hold that week. My curls were very healthy, pretty defined, and had limited frizz even without the curl cream or gel - they were totally optional. This routine worked for 5+ years for me.

Then, Whole Foods changed their formula. Since then, I have not been able to find a routine that works for me for the life of me. For a long time, I thought maybe my hair texture just changed, but occasionally when the right random combinations of factors align, I see my curls come back. After washing my hair these days, my curls are limp and stringy. I first tried adding protein and saw almost no change. Then I tried adding moisture which gave me type 2B hair for 1 day, and then just became silky sheen wavy hair like that in a Pantene commercial. Then I tried cowashing, which brought me to 2C hair for exactly 1 day after washing. I have tried a few shampoos for chunks of time (including all 3 variations that came from the 365 reformulation and Shea Moisture) and none have really done it for me.

I am really at my wits end these days. I just want my curls back and normal. I would love some advice on what shampoos you guys are using, especially if you used the Whole Foods 365 shampoo before they reformulated it. I attached a picture of its ingredients.

Thank you!!!

Need Help Finding Shampoo


I’ve been trying to style my hair for the past few months (bottom layers are full coils, top layers are heat damaged) and today was the first semi win! Usually I’ve quite a few chunks that are completely straight which were the victims of daily unprotected straightening but I think tonight everything held some bit of shape. I love my bottom layers, my end goal is to have my whole head like that. If anyone has any advice let me know! My current routine is:

- Kevin Murphy Repair Me shampoo, conditioner and Restore treatment. I wash twice a week, once with x2 shampoo and conditioner and once with 1x shampoo and the treatment.
- I just used the Davines Oi hair butter for the first time, first impressions are good though!
- Cantu curl cream I’m using up, my dad bought it for me and I feel bad not using it!
- Kevin Murphy leave in restore
- Got2be heat protectant (another thing I’m using up)
- Umberto Giannini curl jelly
- A sieve and a hairdryer because I’m being too stingy to buy a diffuser…

I prayer hands then scrunch everything in before “diffusing”, I sleep with my hair in a silk bonnet. I just twist it like I’m putting it in a claw clip first. I also finger coil my front pieces.

Products and advice are encouraged!

First Mild Win!


I attempted a wash and go for the first time after watching 10,000 tutorials on YouTube. I put leave in (kc curling cream) and 3 tons of hair gel (two kinds, kc pink gel and eco style green gel). I separated my hair in teeny tiny sections and got my roots with product. After an hour I finished the left side of my hair (about 1/3 of it) including the left side of my bangs. I didn't even get to the right side or the middle of my hair and I said WTFFFFFF!!! This looks horrible. So I gave up and just braided my hair in big chunks. I will admit I didn't actually do this after I washed. I did it a few days after but I made sure my hair was soaked with water before applying product.

I think I wasn't meant to have curly hair because idk what the hell I should I do. This is too time consuming and I look miserable. Should I just stick to straightening and braids or do you guys see damage?? What am I doing wrong.

Routine
I usually wash my hair with Shea moisture shampoo
Deep condition with Shea moisture
Sometimes I sit in my steam shower for some time when I do this
Then I apply some oil when I'm done. Coconut, jojoba, apricot, black seed or whatever I have. I usually go to the salon and get some braids or straighten my hair and leave it for about a week. If I don't do either of these things, I leave my hair looking crazy and wear a headband and call it a day.

History
My hair has always been long, about waist length. I had some damage around April 2024 and I was patiently waiting for my hair to grow. About a month ago it was enough hair so I did a big chop. This is all new hair growth and it's healthy. I did some layers and bangs. It's around my shoulder.

I'm about to give up


My hair is 3Aish med porosity and thick. It LOVES to clump. It holds any shape that you put it in- if i put it into a claw clip it'll stay up on its own for 20 minutes or so. This is fun and all while its first day fresh out of the water hair, but i simply cannot wake up and have my hair look decent without fully dunking my head. The curls smash against the pillow no matter if i use satin pillowcases, i can't use wraps or bonnets because it just stays in that shape, if i try to use a spray bottle it just frizzes out the chunks unless i drench it. I'm so close to going over to the deep end, i'm a low maintenance person and having to wake up every day to a disaster is draining me. Any tips before i throw in the towel?

Routine:

Shampoo/Conditioner is garnier fructis

I use shea moisture smoothie + not ur mothers gel, scrunch them in and leave it be. I don't brush style or anything because it makes the clumping issue worse. I just let it air dry or diffuse if short on time.

Help- i just want to wake up to something salvageable


Heyyy! So my whole life I thought I had pin straight hair, but then I saw a lot of people talking about how actually straight hair will still look straight when it gets wet, and mine definitely does not, plus my ends ALWAYS curl out a little. That said, it loses the rest of the curly/wavy pattern very quickly. The first picture is what it looks like right out of the shower (around 11am) after towel drying it. Second is one hour later. The third is 7 hours out of the shower, and roughly 4 hours being completely dry. I slept for 1.5hrs (long story) on a cotton & polyester pillow that night, and the fourth picture is what it looked like after I woke up. Most of the pictures are from the side to get the best view of any patterns, but I also included a front-facing picture from that morning just in case it might help. The last picture is the day after that, with a full 5 hours of sleep on the same pillow. My "tails" (the small chunks right in front of my ears) always seem to hold a wavy pattern the longest, usually until my next wash day or the day before.

Pattern: unsure
Texture: medium-fine
Density: Not thick, but not thin. Kinda in the middle. (It looks thinner right now because I shaved everything except the top and "tails" and cut noticable layers in the top the last time I dyed it.)
Porosity: It takes about 3 minutes under running water to get fully wet, and takes roughly 2-3 hours to air dry fully, so I'm not sure what that says about my porosity.

Hair History: I have colored my hair with box dyes 4 times and professional colors twice, but I only used bleach 3 of those times. My most recent coloring was box bleach and dye about 2-3 months ago. I've only used heat to style my hair twice in my life and that was to try to curl it, but it took almost half a can of hair spray to get it to hold for more than 1-2 hours. I will admit I also tend to twirl and "tie" my hair as a stim, which I've been trying to stop doing, but a lot of the time I do it without even noticing.

Current hair routine:
I only wet and wash my hair twice a week on Monday and Friday. When I wash it more frequently it gets extremely dry and I end up with wayyy more shedding and breakage.
1. Scalp wash with Pantene Daily Moisture Renewal Shampoo
2. Pantene Daily Moisture Renewal Conditioner on the lengths of my hair and combed thru with my fingers. I let this sit while I wash my body then I rinse it out and leave just a little bit of conditioner in my hair.
3. Squeeze out most of the excess water then towel dry while scrunching. I avoid rubbing the towel because I've heard it's bad for any hair.
4. I let it air dry and try not to touch it at all, but sometimes I'll start twirling it by accident.

I don't brush or comb my hair, and haven't in probably close to 6 months. If I get some tangles I just run my fingers through to break up the knots. I also don't use any products outside of what's listed except some dry shampoo if I miss a wash day and it looks too greasy.

Any insight and advice would be greatly appreciated! If you want to suggest certain products, please keep them cheap as we only make $3000/month for our 3 person family (including a fruit obsessed toddler) so I only have ~$30/month for non-necessities. TIA!! <3

Is My Hair Actually Textured? What Should I Do?


I have fine curly hair that I think has also thinned, and the texture has also changed (duller, less soft) as I’ve aged (now early 50s)

I generally like to keep my hair medium long, and ask for layers around my face. I ask for the same cut every time and sometimes it’s better than others, but I don’t know WHY (using the same and different stylists). it’s always hit and miss.

I feel like stylists don’t really cut for my type of hair, giving me layers that are too far or too close apart (?), in the wrong place (?), or feathered or something, which makes my hair look more thin and sparse, and the ends are always so thinned out and scraggly.

6 months ago I went to a curly hair salon and got a terrible cut - uneven and some chunks missing around my face…for $200! You can see in the pics how uneven it is. I should have gone back for a fix but I didn’t.

I’ve been growing it out and am ready to a new stylist and possible new style.

But I’m not sure what to ask for- layers that are closer together? No layers at all? Are they bad for fine hair? I think I also don’t really know enough about hair cutting to even use the right terminology.

Old shorter cut:
Finally - there is a hair cut I had many years ago which I loved (pic 5 and 6)-shorter than I wear it now), but a few times I’ve tried to get it again it has failed miserably: pics 7 and 8 (too short, not enough shape?) and pic 9 (too short, and too pouffy and round overall- was a common problem trying to get this cut)Should I try that one again and if so, what do I ask for specifically?

Routine:
Wash every other day, curly hair lotion then mousse on very wet hair. Air dry then fluff/scrunch out.

Thanks!

SOS! Help needed choosing style and communicating what I want/need


so my hair texture has varied growing up from 3c as a toddler, 2a when i was around 6-10, and when i hit puberty it settled between 2c and 3b. now im 25 and in this weird spot where just the ends if my curl and the curls on the bottom in the back are 3c/4a (which is my mom's curl pattern) i would think it's from bleaching and dying chunks but those same super loose parts are tight at the ends. is there anything i can do to encourage the rest to curl tighter as well?

routine: conditioner, detangle, rinse about half the conditioner out, curl creme, ring out slightly, curl mouse raked through and prayer hands, dry with defuser medium heat medium speed using the hover method starting at the roots and then scrunching sections up in the defuser once hair is 80% dry, scrunch out ends with my bonnet lol

inconsistent hair texture


Hi , I wanna use the brush styling technique on my hair but I don't have any curling hair brush I only own a traditional house brush and  a tooth brush , usually I tend to finger coil my hair as it turns out perfect, but my hair type is completely different my front is loose curls 3A curls and the back is a bit tight 3b to 3c curls , the back of my hair looks like a catastrophe when it's wet the shapes are weird and not spiral so I used finger coiling,as much as it worked I couldn't seperate the curls Wich made my head look empty with big chunks and less voluminous, I tried styling it with a traditional house brush and it didn't help the shape still looked weird ( I don't have any issues with the front hair as it seperates and look wonderful), pls tell me how to fix it I wanna have tiny spirals instead of box shaped or inseparable finger coils , Wich brush to use if not any advice or techniques,
My routine:
I use head and shoulders shampoo.
Then a conditioner from a random brand .
Then I use light softening cream , a thick cream (like Vaseline but lighter ) , then finger coil,and air dry.

Hi how to fix my box shaped curls???(Brush styling doesn't seem to help)


Looks bigger in the photo than in person. The back of my hair is a whole another texture. Some days it's easy, days like today I wrangled with it for more than a god forsaken hour because the back kept drying before i could apply the gel and then would get frizzy. I gave up. I've used every brush out there. The one I have now works decent and I've accidentally gotten some good chunks but idk what I did. I think it has too many grooves but I don't see defining brushes with less grooves. Routine always includes moisture and gel, nothing else. 1 wash and 1 co-wash a week. Looks more frizzy in person but may be due to blonde highlights. But I've watched every video, lurked reddit for the last couple years, been to curly salons etc. I'm lucky if I get one good chunk lol. I used to finger twist and that's too time consuming. My roots are also pretty flat. My hair overall has become thin from stress. It seems to have grown the past few years but I feel like I could never feel my skull (not scalp) the way I do now. 🤷♀ Will likely never be as thick as I prefer again at this point since we're well past the 7-year-average regrowth mark. I oil and it helps with length but idk about thickness. I'm not consistent because I wait and forget in case I need to re-diffuse a section of my hair again the next day.

Is it not really possible to make bigger ringlets? 😔


im not sure if it is i just know i hate my hair i accidentally chopped it off a few months ago and i feel like its never grown since then, people say it has but to me my hair looks hideous

Routine:

co wash curl smith

oil

leave in loreal (Simple and short since I keep tearing my hair out in chunks)

are my curls damaged? or whats wrong with them because they pmo so bad like I keep messing with them because i hate my hair


I used to straighten my hair all the time and did keratin treatments too (which is why the last 13 inches were pin straight and breaking off 🤡). When I tried to stop the keratin, my hair was half pin straight so unless I cut it into a bob I had to keep straightening it (that’s how keratin treatments get you tbh). Eventually I started straightening the top to match, but it never really did and just fried my hair even more.The damage caught up and it started snapping in chunks. At this point i was just so exhausted of this dance I finally gave up on heat and focused on consistent haircare, and I’m soooo glad I did not only does it look much better now i actually have peace of mind

My routine is simple (drugstore dont judge pls). I use Dove Nutritive Solutions (the yellow cap), the L’Oréal Extraordinary Oil mask, and usually another hydrating mask (whatever’s on sale). I wash my hair three times a week and use a mask each time. I oil my hair twice a day with Extraordinary Oil and sleep in a Dutch braid or another protective style. I always air-dry, no towel drying, just gently squeeze out the water and let it dry soaking wet. And no heat sources of any kind ever <3

1 year of no heat and consistent haircare!!! Wavy hair


Been told by multiple people it has too much protein, but I've been trying my best to stay away from protein products, been using clarifying shampoo and no protein conditioners, and sleeping with a silk pillowcase for months. No change. I want to get highlights before school starts up but I don't know if the chunks of ugly hair will survive bleach. I have virgin hair, and I had this hair issue before I even started diffusing (something I haven't done in months).

routine: I use Curlsmith Hold Me Softly Style Balm, not your mother's mousse, and innersense I create hold gel/or eco olive oil gel. I use mint oil on my scalp and the olaplex bonding oil on my hair sometimes. I use L'Oréal ever pure clarifying shampoo, and a California curl conditioner

First pic is one of the ratty parts, second pic is my hair dry with only mousse in it

How do I fix my hair...


hello everyone!

i am currently trying to revive my hair (first photo is how it looked 8 years ago & after being brushed out) after being brutal to it for years (I bleached it first in 2019 and then again in 2020&2021, then it was hair dye, then straightened it for 3 years) and this is how it looks every time i try to do a curly hair routine (ive only tried the hair routine a handful of times). the 2nd and 3rd photos of recent attempts to get it curly but its failed. my hair forms into messy curls that never come out looking right, and  chunks of my hair straight and don't match the rest of my hair due to the heat damage. if anyone has any tips on how I can make it look better than this, please help me out!!!

My routine is all products from Not Your Mothers, specifically the Curl Talk line. I first used their curl cream, then their mousse, scrunch, then the gel, scrunch. I have a bounce curl & Denman brush, but every time i use either, there will be even more straight pieces of hair and it looks stupid . my hair used to be beautiful and i'm trying to revive it, but it's going to be so hard for me to wear my hair natural if it looks like this.

thank you!!

damaged curls


Hi! I’m 20 and curly-haired (something along 3A). I’m not brushing them in between washes (which are every 5-7 days), only when wet. Lately though I feel like I’m literally shedding hair, chunks of them come out in the shower. Is this normal or am I actively losing hair? It’s a lot more than it used to be but I was also been brushing like 3-4 days after a wash. I’ve already cried a river, what should I do?

My routine: shampoo in sections, hair mask, air-dry. I use not-your-mother’s curl cream and curl gel from (osis+), but not after every wash because I also like my hair natural and kinda messy.

Am I Losing Hair?


I’m Hispanic from the islands and my scalp is oily but my hair is dry obviously (if you know, you know) I didn’t use shampoo for years because I had a prescription for my scalp (chunks of dead skin cells that when removed show tender and pink skin, and sometimes bleeds)
If y’all have similar hair and know what will wash my hair without moisture stripping please let me know.
My routine starts with wet hair obvi
I wash my hair and use conditioner by shea moisture and to style I also use shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie cream and let it air dry.
I like to keep it simple and avoid doing too much to my hair. Thank you for reading :)

Shampoo recs


Hi! The way my hair turns out after drying is really inconsistent and I’ve been wondering if maybe there’s products that would be better suited for my hair.

This is my current routine:

1. For shampoo I use Olaplex no 4 “bond maintenance” shampoo. For conditioner I use Camille Rose morrocan pear conditioning custard. How often I wash my hair really depends but I usually wash it every 2 days, maybe 3.

2. In the first photo I used Not Your Mothers curl talk defining cream. I spread it in my hairs and scrunch it in. I’d say I use about two quarter-sized dollops of it in my hair each time. In the second two photos I used Miss Jessies jelly soft curls gel (along with a Lot of Tresemme hairspray as I was in a show and needed my hair to stay in place, which is partially why its so frizzy). For the gel I’d say I use about 4 quarter-sized dollops but that’s more of a rough estimate as I don’t use the gel often.

3. I almost always diffuse my hair (I’d say 97% of the time) as it takes about 3 (sometimes more) hours to airdry. I take morning showers so it’d be too inconvenient to let it air dry (also because it’d be all up in my face).

4. My hair is thick/I have a lot of it so I’ve never tried to finger-curl it. Some small strands will come out like in photos 2 and 3 (nice and curled) but usually my hair will naturally seperate into larger chunks that are wavy at best (which you can see in all 3 photos), so I don’t really know what type my hair actually is. I don’t wear a bonner or have silk pillowcases and I have low porosity hair as well if that matters.

Is this the best my hair can really get or are there better products/products more suited for my hair that I could use? Or different routines that might work? Any help is appreciated, thank you.

Need Help with my Routine


Need help on if the products I am using are best for my hair, if not then what products would help or be better


Do any of you have experience with short (1-5inch) length cuts on thick 2C/3A hair and if different haircut approaches affect curl formation? My curls are pretty minimal at this length (really just volume and the beginnings of waves/curls), and it is much curlier when it's longer, even by just a few inches (a range of S curls and ringlets). A few chunks of my hair, especially on the sides and front, seem to be wanting to go to full ringlet territory but aren't quite there.

Does it go this way just because the curls haven't had the "length" to form, or is it potentially also because of the way they are cut - razor versus not razor, for instance? The picture is razor cut. I like my hair regardless but am new to short hair, so any insight is appreciated!

Routine: SEEN shampoo, conditioner, and curl cream, sometimes with Curlsmith hydro style gel.

Curl formation & short hair


Hey everyone! This is only my second time trying a curly hair routine, so I know there’s still a lot of room for improvement — but I wanted to share my results and ask for advice.

In this picture, I followed a pretty standard routine (specific products are in one of the pics):

	•	Leave-in conditioner
	•	Curl cream
	•	Mousse
	•	Gel (in that order)

Then I diffused by sectioning my hair into four chunks while my head was mostly upside down and held the diffuser on each section for about 2–3 minutes on low heat, followed by a long blast of cold air. After each section, I turned off the dryer and slowly let my hair down.

When it first dried, it looked much curlier, but the curl pattern seems to have softened or fallen out a bit since then. I’m not sure if that’s because I used too much or not enough product, over-diffused, or just still figuring out what works for my hair.

My natural hair texture seems like a mix:
	•	2A on the bottom layers
	•	2B and 2C on top
	•     And the back is usually just… frizz (lol)

I’m also curious if the result I got this would even be possible if I didn’t have some curl or wave naturally? It’d be nice to know if I’ve actually got hidden curls, or if I’m just forcing something that isn’t there.

Any tips or product recs are super appreciated, I’m still really new to all this and trying to learn. TIA! 💛

Second attempt at a curly hair routine (advice please!)


After much time growing the hair out, experimenting, and patience, it finally worked out.

My hair is very fine and frizzes quite easily.

Here is the routine:
Wash and condition with Not your mothers curl talk shampoo and conditioner every other day. If I do extensive exercise I will wash as well even if it’s two days in a row. But try not to. For both it’s a dollop the size of 1-1.5 quarters.

On non-wash days I just rinse my hair thoroughly with water to re do the whole drying and product process.

After shower, lean head and lightly finger comb main chunks of hair forward. Just a little bit of finger combing to get the hair out. If I do a thorough combing it’ll be dry and frizz. Sometimes I only really lift the hair from the root and barely even touch the middle or end.

Then use a microfiber towel or a cotton t-shirt to just scrunch dry sections of the hair for about 10-20 seconds each section.

Scrunch in curlsmith protein hair cream (a dollop about the size of a quarter)

Then finally scrunch in curlsmith in shower style fixer gel (a dollop little less than a quarter size)

Getting the hair healthy and long enough was the biggest patience test. Consistency in washing and conditioning to eventually have healthy hair.

I think the protein cream is super useful because my hair is so fine and the strong hold gel really locks it all in to prevent frizzing out and makes it last.

Routine found — thank you all


Hi everyone!

I’m so lost with my wavy/curly hair and would love any and all advice. I’m somewhat new to understanding my curl pattern and how to properly take care of my hair, so bear with me! Lately my hair has felt soooo dry, unpredictable curl pattern, and frizzy. The last picture is when I tried the curly girl method, which was a fail. Personally, I don’t find that method realistic for my lifestyle and how much I wash my hair and it makes my back and neck killllll.

Here’s everything you need to know:

1) I’d guess I have 2B/2C waves
2) I’ve had a bob all the way to long hair. I find my hair curls better long because the top portion of my hair is fairly straight.
3) My curls underneath the top layer are typically chunky banana curl ringlets. Hard to see here and lately has felt more frizzy. The top layer of my hair is this frizzy straight/wavy pattern.
4) I air dry 100% of the time. Tbh I just got a diffuser but haven’t tried using it yet. The time required is kind of daunting since I wash my hair often.
5) I wash my hair every other day because the top of my hair gets pretty oily quickly and the oil has a smell. I also work out frequently. Dry shampoo makes my hair gross with build up. Going longer between washes has never helped, I have naturally combination skin on my face too, so I think it’s just genetic!
6) I live by the beach, sometimes it can be dry and sometimes it can be humid depending on the time of year.
7) I have a filter on my shower head
8) I have high porosity hair (strand of hair sinks in a cup of water), which is why I think the curly girl method of applying a lot of products weighed down my hair and made it greasy and gross.
9) I find a lot of curl tips break up the curls into small strand chunks but I tend to like when my hair has chunkier curls. My underneath layer naturally coils together into chunky ringlets, the top layer just wants to do its own thing, so not sure which to follow.
10) I recently tried to switch my hair care over from sulfates and strong chemicals to natural products. My hair has taken an absolute pitfall since then.
11) here’s my wash day routine:
- double cleanse with either crown affair hydrating shampoo, head and shoulders bare, or briogeo charcoal detox scrub. I cycle through each of these throughout the week. Head and shoulders is the only thing that gets rid of the smell in my hair. I’ve researched everything under the sun, had this issue since I was a kid, and it’s what works.
- condition with briogeo don’t despair repair
- wrap hair in microfiber towel for 10-15 mins
- brush hair with wet brush
- apply either kerastase oil, crown affair leave-in, crown affair mousse, or eleven curl cream. I don’t find the crown affair products do anything nice for my hair but make them a bit frizzy. Maybe I’m doing something wrong? I usually only use one or two of those products together.
- air dry (usually takes several hours) — I find it hard not to touch my hair when it’s air drying because I can see a crown of frizz forming over the entire thing and I look crazy!

Appreciate any feedback, advice, questions, etc.! Happy to provide more pics or answer any questions as well. Xx

Lost with my wavy/curly hair 😭 need advice!!


I am new to the curly girl method but I've had wavy hair for the last 20 years that got much wavy(curly?)er since I had my kid 2 years ago. I read the guide and tried the basic routine and I'm not sure where I went wrong or what to do. This is my (one time so far) routine:

I did a clarifying wash with garnier pure clean shampoo and then I used not your mother's conditioner and let it sit for maybe 5 minutes. Then I rinsed it out and put not your mother's curl cream in while my hair was still wet. I scrunched with a cotton Tshirt and let it sit dry.

My hair was SO frizzy and I wanted bigger chunks to come together and instead I got ... this. I wash my hair once a week and I think I ha e low porosity hair so I didn't want to leave a lot of product in my hair. Anyone have a better routine or suggestions?

I am new to this and I need guidance on where to go


I hate my curls. I have fine hair. It’s super curly in some spots, pin straight in others. For years and years I got keratin treatments and I loved them but I started to get the non toxic ones and they honestly don’t work well. This last one washed out uneven and I have chunks of hair that’s pin straight and some that’s the curliest I’ve ever seen it….

What can I do?! I don’t like the tiny ringlet curls. I literally hate them. I wouldn’t mind if they were big curls or wavy…. I don’t think I can get them to dry into much larger curls since my hair is thinner…… is there anything that can be done to change the curl pattern???

My routine has been washing/conditioning whenever it feels like it needs it. I’ll comb through the tangles and add a curl mousse and sometimes a curl gel cast. I just hate them so much.

I really hate my curls 🥺


What I did before this pic was taken (routine):

* shampoo using dermazole bc my scalp was flaking.. (left it on for 3 mins, massaged my scalp w my hands, then rinsed)
* co-wash with Curls by Zenutrients Avocado & Tea Tree Protein-Free conditioner (left for 3mins, then rinse while detangling with a wide-tooth comb
* finger-coiled lazily (i applied the leave-in conditioner all at once to my hair, THEN finger coiled small chunks for the front half, big chunks for the back half)
   * Cantu shea butter leave-in conditioning repair cream
* put gel afterward using Bench Fix hair gel extreme hold
* air dried, then slept in a bonnet

\[the actual night when this pic was taken\]: curls looked like ur typical finger coiled hair, but THEN i went to a foam party, so the foam got in my hair and made it wet(?) so my hair looked soaked

I WANT IT TO LOOK LIKE THAT FOREVER (with styling ofc) HOW DO I MAKE IT THAT WAY?

If u got any product recommendations, i would highly appreciate that too THANK U SO MUCH (hair is 3b?, low porosity)

How do I get my hair like this?


Not sure what the right terminology is lol, but each strand of hair on my head is separated from the rest, my hair isnt gathered into chunks or anything and it makes it look frizzy, always.
This is my hair after the following routine:
1. Redkin all-soft shampoo & conditioner
2. K18
3. Blow dryed and brushed (dyson air wrap)
23f, 3b hair (when styled properly - which I cant do)

Please help: Hair is not “gathered” or “collected”


These are maybe 10 minutes apart after diffusing out of a shower.

I am struggling with styling my hair. I think I have found the product mixture that works (see my former post, I needed protein! Badly! And less moisture)

I have incredibly thick, dense, porous, hair with chunks of different pattern. My crown is a medium loose curl (image 2) and there are chunks are are merely waves. When I am out of the shower and technically “done” styling then my hair is just this massive rats nest. I feel like a poof and would love to learn how to keep my hair from bouncing up like this after a wash day. I am in the process of growing out my hair. I believe that will help with it a bit. These pics are still with damp hair.

My current routine;

Today was a clarifying day so olaplex clarifying shampoo for 5 min,

Shea moisture coconut conditioner mixed with fermented rice water (the aforementioned protein) for 10+ min

Full rinse out

Small bit of shea moisture curl smoothie (I’m treating moisture overload rn so I’m not too worried about adding moisture back in after clarifying at this point in time)

Not your mothers curl talk mousse on sopping wet hair, separating strands first and then scrunching em up.

Plop in a cotton t shirt to get rid of the sop (5 min tops)

Catwalk curl definition gel again, separating clumps and then scrunching em up

Diffuse upside down, then right side up to get my part in the correct position, then upside down for the rest of the time.

TBH I’m not completely sure what all of these products that I’m using do. Particularly mousse. I’m in the exploring stage rn so I’m just trying out a bunch of stuff to see what sticks!

Help with the nest


It's calling for 90% chance of rain and a heck of a lot of humidity.Where I live it's still springtime, so just warming up. Straightening (which I sometimes do) is not an option In this humidity.

I usually wear short dresses. But I fell in love with a long sleeve , long dress. And I'm unsure if shoulder length curls will be TOO much. Or if I should do a fancy, curly cascading up do.

I'd love advice.

Unsure if this changes anything. I'm short, and quite curvy.

My routine:
Wash with normal pharmacy shampoo/conditioner.

Bounce curl brush and mixed chicks leave in. I section and get to work with small chunks at a time.

Air dry

Need advice for curly hairstyle at a wedding


1st pic (now) - 2nd pic (2021)

ive been bleaching and dyeing my hair since i was in middle school and it was so damaged to the point that it was falling out of my head in chunks 😭 so in 2021 i decided to shave everything off and grow it out to finally give my curls the love they deserve!

i found that simple is best for me so i use a curl & define essence, medium hold gel, and argan oil (to break the gel cast) as well as a bounce curl brush for my styling routine 🩷

im super proud of my curly hair journey 🥹 cant wait to grow my hair out even more!

four year hair journey :)


TDLR; Marc Anthony flex gel gives me LOTS of dust fallout after scrunching out its cast. Worried the chemicals causing this is making my hair feel "hay-ish"

The dust fallout (no flakes by any means) are literal, multiple white particles that fall from my hair like leafs during fall, if not worse. I make sure to clarify monthly, so it can't be product buildup. Looking for answers bc I haven't found any answers (no, I will not use [Google] AI)

My hair routine:
Shampoo scalp ONLY with Tio Nacho "Royal Jelly"
Condition with Garnier's "Honey Treasure"
Section large chunks by 4 on each head side; follow up with NYM (Not Your Mother's) Leave-In (Spray) Conditioner
Section very small parts (~8-12 for me) to use "prayer hands" method to apply NYM Curl Cream; Brush
Section same parts to use "prayer hands" method to apply gel
(1hr-80min process for me)

Drying routine:
Sit box fan on level 1 while 1 foot away, drying lengths
Hover dry roots with Diffuser to give volume
When roots are dry: Hover dry lengths with diffuser
(40 min-1hr process for me)

Give hair 10 more mins to ENSURE all water has dried out for defined curls to not disrupt gel cast you worked so hard for, THEN scrunch out curls by taking small sections (groups of 2-4 curls for me) into your hand (ends first) and scrunching them out GENTLY upwards

Gel cast turned Dust


Basically I washed my hair as per usual, just professional hairdresser shampoo (I bought like 5L of it months ago and I love it, I can’t remember the brand but I bought it on Amazon).

After shampooing I usually go with my curl cream, curl mousse and then strong gel (I don’t think writing the brands could be helpful since they’re italian brands :/).

I have thin but kinda shiny hair, can’t complain, and this routine seems to work very well.

I always get big chunks of hair (idk if I’m saying that correctly, basically the curl is big and has more hair in it) and it’s fine.

Today I applied shampoo as usual and then I went off script (I am a broke 26F student and I went out of gel so I decided to just go with it) and applied a thick and moisturizing oil (also italian brand, quite pricey).

I did a bit of scrunching as usual but my hair was in smaller clumps and a lot curlier!! (3a I think).

Could it be because when it’s more moisturized, my curls show up more? How can I achieve this while doing my curly routine?

I tried putting on conditioner when I’m in the shower but it makes my thin hair so heavy that my curls don’t curl almost at all.

I tried to put on this oil before and also after my routine but it leaves a cast in both ways…

Also, I oil my hair once a week in amla oil and I keep it in all night. I swear by it, it made my hair so much thicker and shinier in general. So it’s moisturized, just not every single wash (I wash it twice a week).

Any tips?

My 2c hair has never been curlier than this but I didn’t apply much


so basically half of my hair is literally a different curl pattern.

i have 3a hair (i think?) and it’s moderately thick i’d say. the first photo is directly after washing (no i didn’t separate the big chunks yet lol), and the second two have been slept on for two days.

i section my hair for styling then diffuse, so it’s not that i’m brushing it all down. i’ve tried finger curling to train my hair, scrunching, brush styling, heavier products, lighter products, cleansing, spending more time diffusing on that side, regoing over sections, pinning parts up and letting the bottom dry, etc. but the hair on my right just won’t hold a curl like my right side. its not just after sleeping (although that makes it worse) but even when wet it acts different! i use curlsmith for my routine largely- same amount on each side, same products, etc.- and it feels great, my hair is always soft and bouncy. but my right side still looks limp.

i used to sleep on that side, so that might contribute. but i wear a bonnet and clip the sides and back up at the top of my head for months now so im not even sleeping on the curls themselves. i would assume by now they’d bounce back but evidently not. i barely straighten my hair and use protection if i do, but even then i dont know what would cause the difference in curl patterns because id do the same damage to both sides of my hair if i did realistically.

pls help!! is it possible to just have two different curl types? can i rrly train it to be like the other side??? any bond treatment product recommendations or ideas on why my hair is literally two diff curl types would be GREATLY appreciated!! <3

hair flat on one side


I've spent the last few days sobbing. I recently moved and it's not in the budget to drive states to go see my stylist of almost ten years. I got recommendations for a fellow curly girl who happenes to also be a stylist. I mentioned how incredibly nervous I was because I don't just trust anyone with my hair.

I had cut it myself from mid back to my shoulders. My curls have been dull and lifeless from moving and stress. They just needed some oompf and layering that I didn't feel confident doing myself.

I wanted to feel more feminine since I've been feeling really icky and I just wanted to feel pretty. This is the mess she left me with and now I don't know how to proceed from here.

IDK if it matters but for my routine I use being shampoo and conditioner. Leave soaking wet, add in being leave in frizz control conditioner and NYM mousse. Scrunch and diffuse. I wear it straight maybe once every three months.

I can't stop crying. There are CHUNKS missing from the back and feel so ugly. I'm in my 30s and I'm just now learning how to do my hair and having it ruined like this is so disappointing and disheartening.

I'm venting but also wondering how I fix this? I can't even put it in buns or Dutch braid it like I used to. Do I just shave it all off and start over? I've had a pixie and it doesn't look good on me especially curly and I just don't know what to do. I feel hideous. I know it's just hair but my hair is something that helped me feel pretty. 🥲

A curly girl and stylist demolished my hair and I'm so upset about it.


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What deep conditioner is recommended for type 3a hair that is dry, breaking, and falling out in chunks?


Hi! I just wanted to show off the progress of my hair after switching shampoo, conditioner, products, and routine in general.

I posted on this sub a few months ago asking for help and after some suggestions i was able to find some different products… and it has seriously changed my hair immensely!! so thanks to whoever helped!

I wanted to show before and after pics and then also share my products & routine because i definitely know the struggle of searching for new products etc.

**1.** In the shower, I use Griffin Remedy Daily Renewal Shampoo & Griffin Remedy Daily Renewal Conditioner.
**2.** I shampoo my hair twice, and then when I have conditioner in my hair, i get a little bit of water on it to help detangle, and i brush through with my wet brush only when the conditioner is still in my hair.

*sometimes i’ll use the Griffin Remedy Revitalizing Hair Mask in the shower but only about once a week.

**3.** next, when i get out of the shower, i gently comb through my hair with a *wide* tooth comb… i do not like completely brushing through my hair to detangle after as it ruins the curls (hence why i brush with conditioner).
**4.** after detangling with the comb, i put the Griffin Remedy Leave-In Treatment in, and section my hair off into 3 sections.
**5.** I use one of the curling brushes - there is one by BounceCurl but I opted for an amazon dupe and it works great. I go by section of my hair and use the brush on chunks of my hair (not too much where the comb isn’t getting the entire chunk of hair, but not too little bc it’ll take forever with thick hair.)
**6.** after each section, i use the BounceCurl Light Hold Crème Gel to scrunch that section before moving onto the next.
**7.** I repeat these steps for all 3 sections and then at the end i use the BounceCurl Avocado Rose Oil Clump & Define Cream to scrunch all of my hair at once. You really don’t need a lot - it’s pretty thick.
**8.** I sometimes spray some argan oil in at the end just to prevent frizz

I hope this was helpful! I am not the best at explaining so feel free to ask questions 🤣

Curly hair renewwwed (Routine)


I went to a curly specialist but had a terrible experience and she left me with these frizzy over-textured pieces underneath my hair. My hair was NOT like this before. She used scissors to “take weight out” but she did it really haphazardly and I guess did way too big of chunks? I used to have textured hair on the ends and it works really well with my wave pattern but I have never had frizzy pieces like this before :( Is there anything I can do or do I just need to let it grow :(

I have thick medium-coarse hair, my routine is I use Davines hair smoother shampoo and conditioner, innersense leave in conditioner and medium hold foam while hair is still very wet and I scrunch to dry. I air dry my hair always never use heat. Third picture is of my hair a year ago when I had a haircut that worked with my hair.

Did my stylist damage my hair


pictures are 2 minutes out of the shower, and after leave-in. once my hair fully dries (very quickly) it looks mostly like the first picture again.

once upon a time my hair was long enough to sit on (i’m 5’8), was nice and thick when braided, and held healthy and defined 3A/B curls with minimal frizz. The second it touched water it would be soaking wet and conditioner gave me the “seaweed hair” texture that i remember people saying was “a sign of doing it right”?

I’ve moved cities like crazy the last 4 years and settled down in northern Arizona a year ago. the water in every city i’ve lived in has been so different that I dont even know at what point my hair started becoming so.. dry and rough-feeling? to the point i wake up with thick crunchy knots that make me feel sooo gross. even if my hair was braided or bonneted!

i’m also 6 months postpartum, owch, so I know part of my suffering is hormonal after having him and i’m still losing chunks of hair like crazy. but i’m hoping to figure out something i can do to fight it lol

Routine-ish:
- California naturals moisture shampoo (light green bottle)
- Suave essentials daily cleansing shampoo (blue)
- California naturals daily conditioner (coconut/white bottle)
I brush through while it’s got conditioner in the shower, rinse well, use it’s a 10 leave-in conditioner after, air dry (i don’t own a diffuser 😪), and typically lightly brush through again and stick it all in a bonnet once it’s almost-fully dry.

My hair feels matted overnight :(


I've been bleaching my curly hair for the past year and a half and it looks SO DAMAGED, In the last photo I actually had to cut chunks of it because it was straight towards the ends, and I’m so sad that i had to cut it because i want to let my hair grow very long :(

I don't know why i started to bleach it, I thought i looked better with blonde hair and actually i still see it, but it is so damaged that im actually depressed, so i will stop and bring my natural hair back

Wish me luck

I want to bring back my healthy hair :(


So I notice that no matter how much I scrunch, my hair always looks limp and super frizzy regardless of gel. I've been looking into hygral fatigue and considering my hair care, i feel like i have a super high chance of hygral fatigue.. just need some confirmation/review

Routine!!

• Shampoo and conditioner w/ Garnier Fructis Hyaluronic moisture repair shampoo and conditioner (i rinse out the conditioner)

• I let my hair air dry for a few minutes before decking it in Pantene gold series curl spray and scrunching excessively before getting a nice portions of eco gel and trying to slather it on my hair before scrunching it again (terrible combination actually, ended up with new weird visible residue chunks on my hair)

• then i braided my hair out of frustration of how bad my hair looked for the night and then let it out after I woke up.

•never applied any oils, hair masks, or deep conditions ever.

[prior to this routine I typically put my wet hair in a bun after wash at night and sleep with it in then just let it air dry completely w/ no products in the morning. YES it's crazy but my mental health hasn't been the best so i haven't been able to maintain my hair]

Do i have hygral fatigue?


I had the same haircut for years. Finally decided I wanted more volume up top and shorter hair for the hot weather coming. I have fine curly hair- but just a lot of hair.

Routine:
1. Native curl care shampoo and Odele curl defining conditioner
2. Wash my hair max once a week. Dry with extra large cotton tshirt
3. Divide hair into layers and take small curl chunks at a time to apply a combo of miss Jessie’s multi cultural curls cream and Miss Jessie’s soft curls gel
4. Diffuse high heat, low speed all around to get roots dry. Then dry in clumps

In love with my 6 inch hair chop and new style


Apart from frizz, a lot of my hair looks whispy. I wouldn't say my hair is that thin, and the cut isn't bad, but I have a lot of stray pieces that just won't bundle up (?) with other chunks. Idk if it's just the length weighing it or having Irish curls.
I wash every 1.5-2 weeks with cold water (I don't produce much oil) curl-safe shampoo. Only brushing when wet, eco gel & ouidad leave-in condish.
I let it air dry + silk bonnet.
Only some pieces tend to curl together. There's just random wavy, almost straight, strands hanging around. It causes a lot of matting too. ;_; I need product recommendations or advice because I plan on continuing my hair growth.

How to create uniform curls


Ok so like without scruntching or anything whenever it gets wet it forms like into wavy chunks and dries frizzy sorry im not very good at words
The pic is of my hair wet, it dries sorta kinky and very frizzy. Saw a vid on tiktok saying it might be secret curls so thats why im asking
Obviously i dont have no 4c curls (which omg so pretty I wish) but im just wondering if my hair is straight or wavy or slight curls

How do I tell if my hair is curly (ik this sounds stupid)


Routine:
Garnier leave in conditioner
Taft strong hold mousse
+ diffusing

My hair only end up in two big ringlets/chunks, don't like it at all and even though I seperate them they still end up clumped together.

My hair is currently cut just straight and with even lengths. Would a layer cut make my hair curl up differently? Please help!

Why does my hair do this? help


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straight chunks of hair in the front curly everywhere else what do i do pls help


Hi,
I have wavy hair and like to use a leave in conditioner after showers. Every time I buy a conditioner in a spray bottle, it starts out normally, misting out as it is supposed to and covering a good chunk of my hair. Then after a few uses the mister portion gets clogged and it sprays out in uneven thick chunks that does not cover my hair evenly and gets all over my clothes/room. I’ve tried washing the spray bottle out with hot water but the problem persists. Doesn’t matter what brand, currently using Miele and before I tried it’s a 10 and shea moisture. If the leave in conditioner is at all “heavy”, the mister gets clogged! Is there anything I can do or a brand that makes better bottles that don’t do this?

How to fix leave in conditioner spray bottles