So I love my silk bonnet, it's great, but I am pre-menopausal and have a new Rx soon to help with overheating and night sweats. Until that new Rx arrives and my body adjusts, the bonnet is a no go, even with a colder room, white noise, dogs asleep on the floor (bed for cuddles only), and a hubby who is understanding, despite his teasing.

I have 3ft long, thin, low porosity, 2A virgin hair with silk pillowcases and a bed with a headboard.

A scrunchie bun falls out since I flip a lot in my sleep, and I've been doing the same low loose braid nearly every night for almost 2 years now, and I wonder if the braid could cause damage since I braid it the same way each time - low braid or low rope braid. I sleep on all sides, so clips hurt and wake me up, and I even bought those 90s seen on tv things called "EZ Combs Stretchable Double Combs" but then one broke and the beads when all over, so I'm scared of using a French pin / something sharp (if you do, please describe! how?) or have small pieces.

Any suggestions for someone who sleeps so hot that her bedtime nickname is "kiln"?

Non-bonnet sleeping protective hairstyles suggestions please


Hi, long time lurker but first time poster here. Let me know if I did anything wrong with the post.

Basically i have hair about halfway to my butt now, after more than 5 years and a half of growing out with sparse trims in-between; and i find myself at an impasse.

In the past months i've been subconsciously avoiding doing protective buns with my ends tucked in because of the pain and headaches i would get after a few hours. This means that my ends now are a mess of split ends due to damage and friction from keeping my hair down, even in a braid.

For context my hair is straight, quite fine and prone to tangles, some frizz and quite fragile if not properly protected. Also my scalp is extremely sensitive to pain and i feel like dying even if one single hair gets pulled. As for keeping it in a braid, as mentioned before my hair splits right where the tie sits (a fabric tie with no metal or other damaging pieces) and right at the bottom where it creates friction with my clothes. I thought about getting silk scrunchies but sadly I also have fewer hairs at the bottom after a bout of hair loss i'm recovering from, and a normal size scrunchie looks ridiculous, creates kinks i do not appreciate or is simply too big (also usually has some metal or plastic pieces that kinda defeat the purpose).

In the picture I have my usual hairstyle, I alternate it with a simple braid that is formed in a bun and everything is kept secure with two barebones hair forks.

I honestly enjoy having my hair up and out of the way, but the headaches are getting too annoying. Does anyone have some recommendations maybe about different styles of buns that redistribute the tension, or maybe something else?

Thank you so much for any help you might give me, and i apologise if i sound confusing, english isnt my first language.

Help with headaches due to protective buns


Hello darlings, given it's now been 27 years since my last haircut and 2 years since my fairy ends reaching floor length, I thought it was high time for a progress picture!

In the last two years I seem to have sprouted another six inches of growth. My fairy ends now flow up to **181** cm (just shy of 6 ft). At this point they'll curl and trail on the floor if not contained. Well chuffed that my hair's kept going and I'm curious where it'll go next!

Let me know if you've any questions and best of luck on your own hair journeys! <3

Current routine:

* **Shampoo:** once a week with sulphate-free shea butter shampoo (currently using Love Beauty and Planet).
* **Conditioner:** once a week with sulphate-free conditioner (currently using Elvive Dream Lengths).
* **Drying:** gentle towel-drying and air-drying.
* **Comb/brush:** wide-toothed comb as needed, with finger detangling daily.
* **Detangler:** up to three times a week on dry hair (currently using Gliss Kur Oil Nutritive spray).
* **Snips:** search-and-destroy instead of trims/cuts.
* **Other measures:** no dyes, tight hairstyles or heat treatments.
* **Protective hairstyle:** a good old braid loosely rolled up and held together with a scrunchie, then covered with silk scarves to avoid friction. Oh, and I keep my fairy ends rolled up and tucked away in the thicker hair higher up in the braid.

Floor-length and still going


Obvs I have some skills to learn but I’m happy with how they turned out. This was just a test run to see if I could even do it. The ends of my hair got tangled in the scrunchie but otherwise it went smoothly and worked perfectly!

First time trying headless curls!


For example if you are doing a ponytail for a job interview. Should it be black or something more matching to your hair color? Is it better to have a thin hair tie or thicker scrunchie?

What is the most professional style of scrunchie/hair tie?


I gave myself a "trim" and cut 2 inches or so off using the ponytail under chin method and I think I messed up because my hair was damp.

It's naturally wavy and I rarely heat style, it's usually down or half up in a claw clip or scrunchie. I just straightened it to see how bad the cut is lol.

Does it look really obviously uneven? Should I cut it more? I'd rather not take any more length off unless it looks terrible 😬

Thank you!

Please help! Did I cut my hair really badly? 😭


My hair was always on the dryer frizzy side especially since I bleached it. I’m one step away from cutting it to a bob since I don’t know what else to do with it so it doesn’t look this dry.

My hair’s history: had a full balayage for three years and my hair was so dry and looked bad and I decided to stop bleaching it . I dyed it dark brown last year in December but I hated it and decided to get some highlights in February to lighten it up and since I haven’t done any colouring to it.  You can see my natural colour on top of my head coming back, also hair is healthier on that area.

My goal is to grow it long down to where my pants start in these pictures. Also I want healthy and shiny hair.

My routine: started following Abbey Yung method for a few washes but my hair still feels dry and ugly.

Breakdown of my routine:
Oil before washing with Ogx miracle coconut oil leave it in my hair overnight

Apply pre shampoo from L’Oreal bond repair (white bottle) every 3rd-4th wash.

Shampoo with either neutrogena t gel for my flaky scalp or with Ogx argan oil shampoo (blue bottle )

Conditioner: I use the conditioner from Ogx the same one in a blue bottle like the shampoo and combine it sometimes (not every wash) with L’Oreal glycolic gloss lamination treatment .

Hair mask: I alternate between Londa tone plex pear blonde mask for the orangeish stuff in my hair OR Ogx rescue fusions argan oil of Morocco + hyaluronic acid mask OR Pantene bond repair intensive treatment. I usually let mask sit in my hair for 15-20 minutes.

I keep my hair in a microfiber hair towel for 15-20 mins and then before blow drying it with Dyson airwrap I add :

Leave in conditioner: Aussie hair insurance spray on damp hair and add a few drops of the Ogx coconut miracle oil or Londa velvet oil.
I sometimes alternate with the color wow extra strength dream coat instead of the Aussie spray.

Overnight : putting my hair in a sock and securing it with a big scrunchie.

What am I doing wrong and why does my hair still look frizzy? I see some improvement since last month (last picture) but I’m still not pleased with my hair 😭 please help me

I also chopped a bit off the dead ends and I know I should’ve cut more but I  don’t want to lose more length. Photo on the left is yesterday and photo on the right is today. I added a photo of my products but some of them are not in the picture. Last pic is my goal.

I’m one step away from cutting a bob


What’s the best accessory to secure hair for hair health? Hair stick that you just through a hair bun, satin scrunchie, rubber tie?


Exactly 2 years of growth between these two pics! I chopped about 14” off in 2023. I’ve been getting trims about 3x a year (I love the feeling & look of thicker ends on me personally) and used to get highlights, but haven’t since this past April to focus on growing out my natural color and keeping it healthy. Goal length is about 4” longer, so getting closer!

Things I love and have worked for me, in case anyone wants to know:
- Using a tangle teezer brush (or any brush without the little balls at the end of the bristles) This made a HUGE difference in my ends preventing breakage.
- Double shampooing. Sounds silly but it changed my hair and just learned to do this in the past few years lol.
- I used to use Ouai shampoo/conditioner for years (which I still love), but wanted to switch it up and am now using Redken Extreme Length line which I’m obsessed with.
- I’ve been using the Pureology 21 Benefits spray post-shower for probably over 10 years now. Still love it.
- Avoid tight ponytails/buns (major culprit for breakage for me personally) and opt for braid/s or a claw clip.
- Sleeping with my hair loosely tied on top of my head with a silk scrunchie
- I mostly air dry but will blow dry once in a while if I’m in a rush to go somewhere. I use heat maybe 1x a week if I’m going out.

I’ve learned so much from this sub and wanted to thank everyone for tips/tricks and inspiration! ♥

Oct. 2025 > Oct. 2023 Progress!


I have 10,000 scrunchies and hair ties. For years I searched for organizing solutions.
I present to you, cat collars from the dollar store!
Easy to pop open.
Easy to get to the one you need.
Cheap.
The glitter ones are best, because they have a slight amount of “grip” that causes friction, so if you drop one end, they don’t all drop to the floor!
They are perfect. Get an extra collar and string them all together to hang off of anything!
You are welcome!

Scrunchie organizer! Cat collars!


I’m a guy with hair past my shoulders. I wear a scrunchie and don’t use hair ties. Any advice?

How do I keep my hair from cracking/split ends?


Hi all,
I work for a manufacturing company and I have just moved roles so I am now working on the shop floor. As I am on the shop floor I can't wear my hair down or in a style where it could get caught in machinery. I was wearing a single braid when I worked in the office. I also can't use any hair pins because if the get in the machines they can damage the machines or the parts being made. I have just been wearing a messy bun that I've done with a satin scrunchie but as I have TBL hair I find that it can be heavy and pulling on my scalp.

Any suggestions of protective styles with no pins would be great. Thank you :-)

Protective hairstyles for work - no hair pins


So, just what the title says...
I'm looking for recommendations for a good hairbrush. Id like to say that money is no object, but it is, so id like some affordable options.
My hair is 30", some wave when air dried...I don't customarily use products, or blow-dry, curl, what have you. But I did recently bleach and then did a peek-a-boo purple.
My hair is washed 2 or 3 times a week - tangles extremely easy - usually braided at night (or at least put up in a scrunchie.) Just need a brush that feels good and does a good job.

Hair brushes


Nothing is working and products that my hair used to love seem to make it worse!!! Super super tangly

Can we please come together and figure out wtf is wrong with my hair 😭😭😭😭

My last trim was 1 month ago so I don't think its damage from length retention.

I first suspected I had moisture overload (it usually makes me matt and mushy) but now thinking I have protein overload. Which never used to happen to me in the past when I used to pile on protein products!!

BUT ALSO clarifying shampoo makes it matt horribly too??????

Currently: asian hair, mid back length, jet black bleached to level 7/8 blonde (for 10+ years no problems before), 1A super straight, fine texture, high porosity (??? This has been true for years but I don't know anymore)

Problems: super unmanagable, matts and tangles easily. IMPORTANTLY conditioners/leave ins/shampoos make it matt worse (I observed its especially the ones with proteins or oils/butters based like shea).

No breakage from the chemical damage directly, but lots of mechanical damage from repeatedly having to detangle everyday.

I've bleached my hair for years but the bleach damage has been more of a breakage/weakness vibe than matting/tangling. This feels completely different and I don't recognise my hair anymore

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Current care/routine:
- fine > I usually avoid too many silicones and heat, clarify once a week
- sleep with loose braid + silk pillowcase + silk scrunchie
- washed everyday + 90% air dry then finished with a Dyson dryer on cold - I have always washed my hair everyday as it is super fine and looks flat unwashed, never caused me problems until now
- detangled carefully by hand and then with a tangle teezer

Shower products I've tried (not all at the same time obvs, and I will rank by how it affects the feel of my hair currently):
- olaplex 0 primer + 3 treatment (GOOD)
- loreal elvive Pro bond repair pre shampoo treatment (OK)
- K18 (BAD)
- loreal elseve color vive purple shampoo (OK)
- noughty detox dynamo clarifying shampoo (BAD)
- sephora hair purify clarifying shampoo (VERY BAD)
- Aphogee 2 min keratin reconstructor (my old holy grail - BAD)
- Garnier Oat Milk Conditioner/Shampoo (old holy grail - OK)
- the entire loreal dream lengths range (BAD)
- sheamoisture superfruit hair masque (old holy grail - BAD)
- loreal elseve hyaluronic acid moisture mask (OK)
- Aphogee keratin & Green tea restructurizer (old holy grail - BAD)

Post shower products:
- Olaplex 7 oil
- Noughty Let's Bond Leave In
- Loreal elvive Pro bond repair serum
- tangle teezer fine and fragile

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if anybody can figure out wtf if happening please let me know what I should do and how I should change my routine!!!

Trying all these new products is putting a strain in my wallet, especially when they don't work

So please can we figure out a routine that can nurse my hair back to somewhat normal????

Everything makes it matt up- final SOS (fine, bleached, 1A)


Hello r/longhair!

Does anyone know of any brands of silk scrunchie that don't have a traditional hair tie or elastic band inside them for elasticity? Would love to find one that has something like a seamless hair tie inside if anyone has any recommendations

Silk Scrunchies


I’ve been trying this Olaplex mask which is supposed to reduce frizz and breakage but my hair is still either super frizzy or greasy, with little in between. It can only look good with heat, which I’m trying to avoid. Along with the humid/cloudy weather (and live on Long Island) and my…cycle, I get very few days when my hair looks good without styling. I don’t color, I just use sunbum to lighten my hair naturally in the summer. I mostly tie it up with a scrunchie or claw clip.
I def need to get some new shampoos and conditioners (I use biolage right now) and get a silk pillowcase and/or bonnet.
Any recommendations? Nothing too expensive please.

I’m still so damn frizzy


My haircare routine is pretty basic!!

I shampoo regularly and skip conditioner since it flattens my hair lol, so I use a leave-in conditioning oil instead. I typically avoid combs and stick to detangling brushes to brush my hair. I dye her blue-black on my own and re-dye every several months (My natural hair is very dark already, so roots and grow outs aren’t obvious at all). I only apply heat to my hair occasionally and keep it up in a lose bun with a scrunchie when I’m at home. Doing so prevents breakage throughout the day and during sleep (pillow friction, yk). Speaking of pillows, I use silk (satin is fine too) rather than cotton because it’s gentle on the hair

Ofc, stay hydrated and maintain a good diet with sufficient vitamin and minerals, since health starts from within\~

My Blue-Black Hair Curled💙🖤


My haircare routine is pretty basic!!

I shampoo regularly and skip conditioner since it flattens my hair too much lol, so I use a leave-in conditioning oil instead. I typically avoid combs and stick to detangling brushes to brush my hair. I dye her blue-black on my own and re-dye every several months (My natural hair is very dark already, so roots and grow outs aren’t obvious at all). I only apply heat to my hair occasionally and keep it up in a lose bun with a scrunchie when I’m at home. Doing so prevents breakage throughout the day and during sleep (pillow friction, yk). Speaking of pillows, I use silk (satin is fine too) rather than cotton because it’s gentle on the hair

Ofc, stay hydrated and maintain a good diet with sufficient vitamin and minerals, since health starts from within 🖤☺

My Curled Blue-Black Hair!! 💙🖤


I destroyed my hair in my 20's. I always wanted the long 'Rapunzel' hair but couldn't stop messing around with it with undercuts, colours, etc. I also had anemia and wasn't treating it properly. Finally in late 2021 I chopped it off to my shoulder blades/armpit to get rid of the last of the damage and with a few 2-3 inch chops in the years since I finally am feeling good and confident about my hair! I love braiding it and trying out heatless curl methods and taking care of it in general! Trying to grow it to classic

Hair Routine:
-Wash 3x a week (Currently using Herbal Essences Rose hips shampoo and conditioner)
-Small (1 inch or less) trims every 3-4 months. I feel like this has been helping me retain length
-Oil the ends with coconut or argan oil 2x a day(Morning and night)
-Deep condition every wash (Aussie Miracle Moist is a lifesaver!)
-Coconut oil soak every other week or when I can remember to
-Rosemary oil treatments (on scalp only) every week or (again) when I can remember to! 🤣 I know I'm bad
-Loose braid with silk scrunchie when sleeping
-Protective styles most days. I work in a daycare and try to keep it out of the way as much as possible (lice, grabby hands, etc)
-S&D when I see splits

My hair density is pretty high but the strands are fine!

So proud of how far it's come! 🥰🎉


Naturally wavy hair. I’ve been rotating periods of bond and protein repair masks or K18 with moisture shampoo and conditioner. Last 6 months or so have been double shampoo with prescription keto and Loreal or Dove with various hair masks. Wash hair every 2-3 days. Serum and oil after. Sleep in braids with satin scrunchie. Genuine silk pillowcase.

I have been doing frequent trims but I am so happy with the density and health improvements. Waist length here I come!

1 year of love and care. October 2024 vs September 2025.


I've been trying to cut my own hair with a few known methods, like the one where you tie your hair in a low pony tail and pull down the scrunchie and the 'beard' method (which is basically the same idea but in front of you).
When I try this my hair always ends up uneven.

And when I try the 'search and distroy' or 'dusting' method I can never tell which hairs are actually damaged and which ones are just shorter than the rest.

How do y'all do it?

How do y'all cut your own hair?


...it's only taken 35 years

(Waist length)

As someone who's had perpetually bushy hair since before they could talk, I'm really pleased with this. Even though my husband says it looks no different to how it always does

**Routine:**

* I only wash it once a week or so (Tresemme 2 in 1)
* Air-dry overnight
* Drench it in Johnson's Kids Curl Defining Leave-In Conditioner and brush it through
* Hair oil on the end afterwards. Doesn't seem to matter what oil - I usually buy Garnier Hair Oil Serum with Coconut oil and Cocoa butter
* My hair tangles *really* easily, so whenever it begins to get knotty I drench it in the Johnson's leave in conditioner again and brush it through again

I've tried loads of curly/wavy hair products but none of them have produced better results than the Johnson's leave-in conditioner. Really wish I'd tried that first, it would have saved me a lot of money.

**Sleeping/styling:**

* I honestly just sleep with it bundled up over my head. I know I should probably get a satin head cover thing, but I suffer from pretty bad migraines so any pressure around my head is a no-go. For that reason, I never tie it up in a hairband or scrunchie, etc.
* I also don't use heat or styling. There's probably a shitload of split ends in there but if I don't look for them, then I can pretend they don't exist.

**Cutting:**

* The last time my husband cut it was in 2020, maybe? The only reason I can see myself asking him to cut it again is if the ends get stringy or if it gets long enough to sit on

**Negative points:**

* It gets *so* many spiders in it, it's ridiculous. Is it just me who has this problem or is it just generally a long-hair thing? I'm not really scared of spiders but I would still prefer they stayed out of my hair.

\[Routine included this time. My bad\]

Finally getting the hang of caring for my hair...


Not much of a tutorial because it's very simple, but my go to is a silk scrunchie low on my head, braid it down and secure with another scrunchie, then twist into a bun and secure with a claw clip. I work as a paramedic and it does a perfect job of keeping my hair out of my way all day, and also keeps patients from being able to grab it! The key here is a good claw clip, there has to be a lot of space between the teeth so it can grip all the hair in between.

I'm very interested to see how other people are dealing with their hair at work, share all your hairstyle ideas here!

Share some of your favorite work hairstyles here!


Back in May–June 2025, my hair started falling out a lot — something that had never happened to me before. To stop it, I began taking hair vitamins. I finished the course in April, and the hair loss stopped almost immediately. But one problem remained — my ends.
My hair used to be really long, over 60 cm. Yesterday, I went to the salon, and my hairdresser instantly noticed how much thinner my ends had become. She didn’t hold back — she cut them way shorter than I expected.
Last night, I went to bed with my hair in a loose braid and a silk scrunchie. Honestly, I’m a bit scared my ends will get damaged again and I’ll have to cut it even shorter. But at the same time, I’m taking this as an opportunity to truly focus on hair care and grow it back — long, but most importantly, healthy.
The funny thing is, I actually love how my hair looks right now. I’d been wanting a change for a while, but if it hadn’t been for the hair loss, I probably never would have had the courage to cut it.
Here’s what I’m wondering:
1.	Did I make the right choice? Or maybe I didn’t need to cut off so much? What would have happened if I had kept my old length?
2.	How can I grow my hair back quickly and in a healthy way? I’ve heard about scalp massages, but I haven’t done them in ages and can’t remember if they worked.
3.	Any tips for keeping hair — especially the ends — healthy?
I’d really love to hear from girls who’ve been through this and managed to get their long, healthy hair back.

P.S. Don’t worry about my current hair care — I’m seeing my stylist at the end of August for a hair botox treatment, and she’s going to recommend the right products for me.

Hair length recovery after hair loss


What are the best and most comfiest ways to sleep with really long thin hair. I have tried loose high bun and low bun with a scrunchie and claw clip and it either comes undone or not comfortable. I also hate when my hair is touching my neck or and I don’t like to leave it down. I’ve tired braid but I don’t want any crimps in my hair and if I do it loose it doesn’t stay. Anyone have any tips or suggestions!!

Comfiest hair for sleeping (thin long hair)


Two seperate questions for all of you.
Thanks in advance for your input.

 1. Is it uneven? Or am I crazy? Or is it just an optical illusion because it was doubled up in a scrunchie for a while?

2. how much do y'all recommend for my next trim?

🥰

Crooked cut? Where to trim?


I’ve been spending a long time trying to grow out my hair. I’ve always been someone who started and then ended up chopping it off, but I’ve spend the past year and a half getting higher end hair cuts, doing research on products, and overall trying to keep it healthy while it grows. It feels like over the past few months I’ve been losing hair like crazy. Large amounts of it (at least it feels this way), when I shower, in my scrunchie if I loosely tie my hair back, when I brush it, etc. it feels thinner as well, although I have no bald spots and still a full head of hair. I’m 27, and I’ve gotten blood work recently to rule out anything in that realm. Is it possible my hair just isn’t compatible with being long? I see posts that on average people lose 50-100 strands a day, but I have so many fly aways on the top of my head from regrowth and part of me is curious if I cut it and tried growing it again, would it give it a fresh start? I haven’t dyed my hair in over a year either, but may look into doing it towards October. Any advise appreciated, I don’t want to just end my long hair journey, but would rather it thicker than super thin and the fly always and the thin feeling is getting to me!

Do I cut my hair….


(Photo taken after massaging my scalp with oil - so the roots will definitely look oily since they are 😂)  on mobile, so apologies if my formatting goes awry

This past year has been terrible for me and my health. I've put on about 30 pounds, exacerbated my auto-immune disease, rosacea, and eczema, ate so poorly I gave myself a histamine reaction, started noticing increased hairfall - I'm probably at half my former thickness, and depression. I thought I was going to have to cut my hair into a bob. Honestly, I probably should cut some length while I take the next steps in getting my total health back on track. But growing up it was a running joke that if my hair was long, a big chop was gonna come soon, and I'm trying to break cycles from my past. And my hair health, especially my scalp health, does seem to be improving.

My routine isn't consistent because of the depression, but some staples include:
*Jason Hair Remedies anti-dandruff scalp care shampoo (1/wk): probably the least heinous smelling Sulphur shampoo I've found
*Nizoral anti-dandruff shampoo (1/wk)
*whatever basic shampoo and conditioner I feel like using - I have to wash/condition my hair more often thanks to the eczema behind ears and at my widow's peak
*Tsubaki hair mask (1/wk)
*some by mi Cica Peptide anti-hair loss scalp tonic
*Nature Philosophy Rosemary multi-use oil on scalp
*Argan oil on mids to ends
*Satin scrunchie
*silk/satin bonnet
*silk/satin pillowcase
*sandalwood or peachwood comb
*scalp massage with hands or a jade comb

I've started braiding it or putting it in a bun instead of trying to deal with it curly, and since it's more fine now, it dries fairly straight with the oil weighing it down. I honestly feel like I don't look like myself anymore.

Not quite classic yet


I cannot fall asleep with the feeling of my hair in a bonnet. Right now, I am braiding it, coiling it, and putting it in a silk scrunchie. It works okay with a silk pillowcase, but I can’t help but feel my baby hairs, roots, and shorter strays are taking the brunt of the damage when doing so.

Anyone have any alternatives they use to keep all hair equally protected?

Bonnet sensory issues- how to protect roots and baby hair?


Hi all :) I've got curly hair (waist length when wet), aiming to grow it out to calf length. I ditched traditional hair ties a while ago. I still own a few scrunchies but don't use them often (like hardly ever tbh 🙃)

I mostly use hair sticks for buns and such, but for the past while my go-to options for tying my hair at the ends of braids and in low ponytails and such have been satin ribbons, or pieces of silk yarn that I weave into the ends of the braid and then tie to keep them from unraveling. I don't think I've noticed any breakage from this, but I wanted to hear other people's thoughts. What do y'all think? Would scrunchies be gentler?

I'd also like to start wearing the occasional high ponytail on days when I'm not doing a protective style, and want to know the gentlest tie to keep it in place (I'm also looking into banana clips and interlocking combs, which both look great, but I also love the look of the circular ponytail "base" you get from a tie or scrunchie or ribbon.

My understanding is that scrunchies are gentler due to the added cushioning of the extra fabric. Should I try adding some stuffing to a ribbon?? Or should it be soft and cushioned enough on its own?

What are y'all's thoughts? Any insight is super appreciated :)

(Edited for clarification)

Thoughts on silk yarn and ribbons for tying hair up?


Help!!
I'm 7 weeks postpartum so my hair lives in a satin scrunchie bun, and I'm sooo sick of it. I can't really wear my hair down because it's close to waist length and 3c curly. Sometimes I put it in a side braid but that's about all I do. Does anyone have any ideas of other hairstyles I can do?? I'm tired of looking like a tired mom 24/7 😮💨.
If anyone has inspo pictures that would be extra helpful!!

Help I'm sick of the Mom Bun


I struggle with finding a correct hair care routine. My hair is always very dry and I really struggle with split ends. Recently I went on a holiday to a tropical country where I spent a lot of time in salt water and now it is completely ruined.

I live in Belgium, so I would love to find my products there, in an affordable price range.

I try to wash it 1-2 times a week. Right now I use a honey I washed my hair shampoo bar (lush) and the glory conditioner (lush). Then I end with a intensive hair mask repair boost (Syoss) which I leave in for a couple of minutes and rinse out.
Twice a week I also apply Syoss Beauty elixir absolute oil on the ends.

I don't apply any heat (maybe a hairdryer once every month/two months). I don't take cold showers. During the day I either have it in a pony tail with a scrunchie or thick hair tie made from some sort of fabric, or I have it loose. At night I put it in a braid.

I never got regular trims, I know that is a big issue. But my hair grows very slow, so if I go every 8 weeks it just goes shorter and shorter.

Right now my hair is in the worst shape ever. I really need a big trim, but I'm not ready for shoulder length hair. I might be able to go to the red line. But even then I have so many short hairs above that line which also have split ends already.
Would it be a solution to just snip of every split end on those shorter hairs I myself?

I really need a better hair care routine. I just love long hair and I get so much dread going to the hairdresser that it sometimes blocks me completely. I need advice and help to get my hair in a better shape.

Advice for hair care routine


I have thick hair that currently go down to halfway down my back. I also love running, biking, and did a triathlon last summer, so my poor hair has dealt with a lot of sweat, chlorine, and friction damage.

It is currently mega swampy where I live, so every time I do cardio, my hair gets drenched in sweat and there's really no avoiding washing it. I wash my hair about 4x per week. Even in the winter, if I'm training for something, I wash it a lot more than I'd like.

I'm listing out here the things I do to keep my hair healthy despite the torture I put it through, and I'm hoping to learn other methods from my fellow cardio freaks. Please share your tips and tricks!

Exercise

* Hair goes in a french braid bun when I run. Basically I braid my hair, then loop it upwards, and capture the looped braid with a thick scrunchie. I pin down the ends on the top of my head, and wear a hat to help hold the ends in place.
* Double french braids when I bike and swim. I always wet my hair before swimming to prevent chlorine damage, and wash it with a swimmer's shampoo right afterwards.
* If I didn't get too sweaty, I don't wash my hair, and instead give it a good brushing to distribute the oils.
* I try to offset my sweaty days so I'm running in the heat on a day when my hair already needed to be washed.

Drying/Styling

* I avoid heat damage as much as possible. Blow drying my hair can take half an hour so I avoid it out of laziness anyway. If I swim or run before work, I blow dry partially, then air dry and braid on the way into the office.
* I put leave-in conditioner and then oil on the bottoms of my hair, dry it in a head towel for a while, then let it hang down and finish air drying for a few hours.
* I do heatless styling as much as possible- braids, twists, sock buns.
* I typically keep my hair in buns and braids during normal days to prevent random damage.
* I sleep with my hair in a bun on the top of my head or a braid. The picture I posted is right after I woke up, with my hair having been in a loose bun overnight.

Athletes- what do you do to protect your hair?? I want to know!

Where are my runners at?


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Just discovered the cutest buckle scrunchie


Other than ties for when I am working out, and only because the claw clips would bang against stuff, I cannot think of a more versatile hair accessory. So quick, fast and comfy to use too, no tugging like ties, and completely reliable in holding up your hair always. Extremely vastly superior for volume/fluff too, at least for my hair type. Some ACTUALLY think I am weird for using them not being a woman and being straight, but I feel like I am just ahead of my time and doing what's smart, I see no reason why men with long hair shouldn't use them. I get tons of hate online for this, but never IRL, then reactions are more like "dayum.. he knows what he is doing" because then they are forced to confront the reality of how smart they are and how good it actually looks. I currently use claw clips near 100% of my awake time and never plan on stopping. I can't believe there was a time before claw clips, feels like it must have been like living in the stone age. Feel sorry for people with long hair that lived then and never had the chance for experiencing the joy and comfort and beauty of using them.

Claw clips can basically do everything ties otherwise do and often more/better, save for rare circumstances when they get in the way. I talked to a female friend about this before and she actually told me I am the reason she uses them exclusively most of the times and at home now.

Thoughts? Do you also LOVE using claw clips? Is there ACTUALLY any good reason to almost ever use anything else, when you think about it? Seriously? Or maybe I got it all wrong and am biased, and it just fits well for certain hair types?

Claw clips - the best long hair accessory on earth?


It's been just under a year since my last cut, it's the longest I've ever had. I never use heat, I wash 2 or 3 times a week with silicone and sulphate products because they work best (I tried natural stuff and it was really bad). I'm a very wash and go type person, I do a loose braid to sleep and only wear claw clips if I put it up.

I  have been stalking here for a while and based on what I've seen here and on Pinterest I think I'm going to go for long layers and face framing pieces below the chin. I see a lot of people say U shaped is best but I really prefer the look of V shaped ends. My hair is very fine and straight. Is V shaped reasonable for what I have? When I booked the haircut I chose "extra long hair haircut" because my hair is about 24", is that right? Why is the "extra long hair haircut" $150!!? Is there a middle ground between Sports Clips-adjacent places and a salon? Can I trust a cheap place to do this?

Longest my hair has ever been, going for a cut soon


I know there are more expensive hairclips around and I came across those from Nordstrom website.

Machete

France LUxe

Ficcare

Alexandre de paris

L.Erickson

Teleties

Do you have experience using them and if so, which hair claw clips were the best regardless of price?

Best hair claw clips?


Hi all, I recently switched from Matrix "Food for soft" to Redken "all soft" and I'm not sure if it's dried my hair or maybe I'm just in need of a cut?

I last trimmed my hair in January. These pics are from today, washed my hair last night and air dried.

My Routine:

Wash 1-2 times a week

\- Double shampoo Redken all soft

\- Conditioner Redken all soft

\- Every 2 weeks I also do the Redken all soft heavy cream treatment

After washing:

\- Microfibre towel wrap

\- Spray with Redken One United all in one treatment

\- Brush hair

\- Leave to air dry

Daily:

\- Olaplex No7 Bonding Oil to the ends although I've been a little slack with this recently.

Hairbrush/Tools:

\- All my hair brushes are "wet brush" branded, they are the best I've found for not tangling

\- I only use soft hair ties and usually silk scrunchies

\- I use claw clips frequently to get my hair out of the way

\- I rarely use hot tools (like maybe 1-2 times a month) and always use heat protection

Would appreciate any advice or tips! Thank you ❤

Ends are tangling 😕 bad routine or need a haircut?


Photos 1, 2, 3, 4: From today. A decent hair day, where I styled my hair with kinky curly knot today leave in. aussie instant freeze gel, and diffused it. Not the BEST hair day I’ve had, but good. Also showing it in the bun that I like to wear.

Photo 5: The other day. Styled my hair, but you can see how dry and wispy it can look.

Photos 6, 7(😛): Hair without products or styling, air dried. VERY soft and fine and loose waves, but the next day without products, it is nearly straight, and very flat and limp, hence why I need to often style with gel.

Photo 8: Another day without products… you can see how thin my ends are. I hate how I can see my back THROUGH my hair!!!

Photo 9: An example styled of how curly my hair can get at this length when styled well, but also the thinness of the ends.

Photos 10, 11, 12: Hair when it was short with choppy layers. I loved the bounce, fullness and curl. I feel it looks healthiest here, ans maybe I could have done more style wise (updos with small claw clips, etc? at the time to scratch the itch I have to put it up lol)

Photo 13: Kind of in between. Grown out from the short hair of the previous photos, but still not even touching my shoulders. Love this length also.

Honestly, I’m just very tired of attempting to grow my hair out and I’m about to give up, book a hair appointment, and get it cut back to a short bob. I LOVED my short bob, anywhere between chin length to just above shoulders, my hair is curly, bouncy and full. I’ve been attempting to grow my hair out for a year or so at this point, with 2-3 small trims in 2025. But as its gotten to collar length, it just gets SO wispy. My hair doesn’t curl like it did, and even good hair days are mainly flocked with rough ones. My ends get thin and wispy no matter what, I hate that I can see through them. My hair grows very slow, and I’m starting to wonder if this is even worth it. Sure, I love the look of long wavy hair, but even if I get there, it won’t be thick and lucsious. I’m already getting frustrated with the increased need for product, upkeep, how dry it gets, and the main things tethering me to keep on trying is the idea that I just need to “push through” the wispiness at this length so the fuller hair can catch up, AND that I love that I can put it in a messy updo finally… but again, is it worth it if I end up crying at how thin it looks most days? My hair has looked visually very much similar over the last year despite growth, you can go back and check my post from a bunch of months ago.

I guess I’m just asking, does this even seem worth it for me? I was happier with short hair, but I also yearn for long hair, but frankly, I KNOW its a huge time commitment, energy commitment, etc etc that maybe I just don’t have. I dont even know what I’d do if it did get long - I don’t know how to braid, I know I won’t want to learn elaborate hairstyles or oil anyway. I just feel conflicted bc I keep getting pulled in by yayy messy bun!! Urghh i dont know what to do, I wish my hair wasn’t so fine and wispy and fragile!!😭

My CURRENT hair routine:

\- Wash and condition with herbal essence grapefruit shampoo and chamomile conditioner

\- Glaze and scrunch in kinky curly knot today leave in conditioner in shower

\- Out of shower, I lightly scrunch out excess water and glaze and scrunch in big quarter sized globs of aussie instant freeze gel

\- Scrunch hair and plop with microfiber headwrap

\- Remove wrap after I get dressed, add two more dime sized amounts of gel

\- Hover Diffuse on high heat high speed till cast forms, then low heat high speed diffuse by cupping my hair into sections

\- Scrunch out crunch and fluff. My routine has been very similar with random experimentations throughout the years, but it usually always comes back to this.

Posted a few months ago, but I’m really about to give up!!


Hi! Does anyone have any advice on what kinds of hair clips work best for tailbone length fine straight hair. It’s very slippery and smooth so I have a lot of trouble keeping it up with a claw clip. It ends up slipping out so I’m constantly fixing my hair and putting it back up in the clip. And also my head ends up hurting from the pulling on my scalp. Are there specific sizes or brands that work best for you if you have similar hair to me? Or are there other ways you keep your hair up with minimal effort that work all day? Please help!

Hair clip Help


OK, I had long hair in high school and I cut it off-22 inches at the end of my senior year and it was the best thing I’ve ever done.

Fast forward, I’d had a hair stylist for 20+ years who I loved but she retired because of Covid.

I’ve been looking for a new hairdresser at pretty much any price point and they all seem unable to get the longer in the front, shorter in the back requirement which seems stupid easy to me, but what do I know?

I’m growing my hair out. Many things have changed from the 80s, including the fact that I have I work rather than I babysit money so if I want something, I go buy it.

What I really need are good quality pins, clips, rubber bands that can hold very heavy hair. I have a lot of hair, even when it was short, I had to adjust my bicycle helmet as it got longer and then tighten it up after a cut—this was over the course of 16-20 weeks an my hair was basically always above my ears, so lots of hair.

I also need links to all the non-weird, exploit my daughters, YouTube videos on how to do braids and buns. One of the reasons I liked short hair, not only because it looked fabulous on me, but because the hair was off my face and neck. So my hair maybe long, but it will never be down, drives me crazy.

So please, send me all the links, things to buy or not buy, techniques that were unknown in those days but ties and clips and all of that. I’ve got these stupid clear rubber bands that some said were good and they won’t hold a ponytail for more than 20 minutes which makes the useless.

Thank you!

First Time Having Long Hair Since the 80s


Exactly 1 year ago, I went in for a “trim and layers” that resulted in the stylist chopping 6 inches off my hair. You can see my panic in my post history, and a lot of your comments were helpful/ made me feel seen & heard.

I’ve been doing my best to grow it out. I’m not at the length I once was, but I’m on my way. I just wanted to share my progress - June 26 2024 to June 30 2025.

I will admit that I went super hard on buying products initially, but realized I just need to take better care of my hair in general. I sleep with a silk pillowcase and only use claw clips or soft scrunchies. Here’s my current routine:

Topical:
Briogeo scalp scrub
Either biotin or tresemme shampoo
EvaNYC deep conditioning hair mask (leave in & detangle)
Innersense leave-in conditioner
Redken hydrating curl cream
+/- argan oil ends

Supplements (oral):
Hair, skin, & nails
Omega 3 fatty acids
Zinc
Iron
Collagen

One year of growth


Since everyone is asking for the routine and products from my last post, here’s an in depth step by step of what I do weekly and a list of products I recommend!

I’m always still testing more products but here’s the full routine I did before taking this pic (the pic is of day 3 hair btw, unbrushed after I just woke up and took it out of my bonnet) :

Step 1: Prep Camilla oil on mids and ends, topped with Fino hair mask mixed with 1/3 parts &honey EX Deep Moisture oil, topped with Cer-100 hair mask for protein (the rest all helps with hydration since it’s so dry naturally)

Step 2: Wash Wash mask out in shower and I first use ion Clarifying Shampoo (only once a month, I did for this wash in the pic, it’s the best clarifying shampoo I’ve used and gets rid of build up really easily) then I do a second shampoo with Garnier Whole Blends Honey Treasures Shampoo and I use the HASK Curl Care Conditioner on both shampoos (this isn’t the best conditioner I’ve ever used but it gets the job done, just trying to use up what I have left)

Step 3: Blowout Blowouts really help seal the cuticle more than a normal blowdry so this has been the main thing that has really helped my frizz. I used the Kerastase Nutritive Nectar Thermique as a blowout cream from roots to ends and I add Lucido-L Argan Rich Oil for additional hydration and heat protection and to help with frizz from roots to ends as well and Pantene Defining Mousse mostly focused on my roots (again, also not the best product ever but just trying to use it up). I use a Dyson Airwrap to do my blowout and this tool has honestly single handedly really helped with my hair health. I only use it on cooler heat setting, using the flyaway attachment on my roots to smooth the hair, then using the big round brush attachment to seal the cuticles on the length before going in with the large barrel and pinning each curl for about 20 minutes.

Night: I put a hair oil on the mids and ends. It changes depending on what my hair needs that night but this night in the pic I put the &honey oil mentioned earlier. Then I twist all of my hair and kind of put it in sort of a bun shape but don’t use any ties or clips and put a satin bonnet over it (also another item that has really drastically helped my hair health)

Products and items I recommend from this routine that have most changed my hair, in order of most drastically changed it to least:

Dyson Airwrap - expensive but it was VERY worth it for my hair journey, it’s definitely an investment

Satin bonnet - mine is just one I got off Temu for $1 and it does the job well so you really don’t need anything fancy

Cer-100 - whenever my hair is frizzy I use this and it cures it

Fino hair mask - if you have high porosity hair you need to mix it with 1/3 parts hair oil, doesn’t really matter what kind but it’s not moisturizing enough on its own for me. Amazing when mixed though

Lucido-L Argan Rich Oil Frizz - I started using this when I was living in Japan because it was the only heat protectant I could find and it’s really great for hydration when styling your hair and also helps with frizz

Kerastase Nutritive Nectar Thermique - I am still testing this one, I’ve only used it a couple times so far but I definitely have noticed more volume and shine in my hair with using this. Haven’t decided if it’s worth buying a full bottle yet since it’s expensive but it did make my hair very silky so I would recommend it if you’re lost on a good blowout cream and can afford it

&honey EX Deep Moisture Oil - this specific one out of their hair oils is the thickest so it does wonders for my hair when it’s a little dry, especially on day 2 or 3 before bed, letting it soak in the bonnet

The Garnier Whole Blends Honey Treasures Shampoo and ion clarifying shampoo are just really safe for me, I’ve been using them for years and my hair likes them but idk if they’re life altering or if others will like it. My hair is quite picky about shampoo I’ve noticed. Just don’t overdo it with the clarifying shampoo if you get the ion one. It’s VERY good at clarifying so it can easily be stripping if overused. I always recommend it to people with low porosity hair

One shampoo and conditioner that changed my life that I can no longer get as easily is another one I discovered while living in Japan called Ululis Kirameki Shiny Shampoo and Conditioner. This made my hair GLASS when I first used it. It was shiny and silky and I could run my fingers through it for the first time in my life. If you can get your hands on it and don’t mind paying a bunch for shipping I would definitely recommend that hidden gem, I’m just broke college student so I can’t afford it at the moment

Year 8 of 0 Trims: Routine


I have fine-textured waist-length hair. It is wavy, I think 2a or 2b. In the last few years I have been focused on hair care for the first time really. I didn't take good care of my hair for years. I didn't damage it with heat or chemicals or anything like that, I just didn't really protect it or look after it well. My hair tends to get dry and I have some split ends.

I still don't use chemicals, and I use heat tools very rarely (like twice a year) I think the biggest source of damage right now is friction and maybe sun. I have tried to wear a bonnet at night but I am such a rough sleeper that it is either completely off or wrapped over my face when I wake up. I tried to secure it with clips and pins, but that was ouchy and still didn't work. When I wear braids there's a zillion fly aways all over them because they get rubbed out of the braids.

\-What are the best hairstyles for friction protection?
\-What are alternative accessories can protect my hair? (suggestions for nighttime and/or daytime please)
\-What routine might improve my hair health? Currently washing with shampoo and conditioner once a week at most. Using leave in conditioner. Sometimes using oil or serum from the middle to the ends. Combing it or brushing it 0-2 times per day.

Trimming or cutting is not an option.

TIA!!!

ISO ways to protect hair from friction damage, and need hair care advice


Hello I'm at the start of my hair growth journey and I'm trying to protect my wavy, brittle hair in the best ways possible, and know very little about the subject.
I've heard claw clips are great for protecting your hair during the day, and I use them often. I tried to google about sleeping w them in and the results say it's damaging? I don't really get why there would be a difference. What do you think?

(I use a satin pillowcase, but that's about it. I'll gladly take other tips on protecting hair during sleep)

Will sleeping with a clawclip in cause damage?


I need hair clips that can hold all my hair but aren't long. I can't seem to find a clip that is wider instead of longer. The 4.3 inch clips fit my head best, but they aren't quite wide enough. The 5 inch clips are too long for my head. Anyone have any suggestions for a brand of clips that is still in the 4 inch length range but has a wider clip part?

Hair Clip for Thick Hair


First photo with long hair was 7/6, second photo is after my haircut last night 7/18. I asked for 2, maybe 3 inches to help my hair be healthier. She cut off around 5 on one side and about 8 on the other, then had to cut the other side to match. I held in the tears until I was at home. I know she felt bad because she started tearing up and kept apologizing. She gave me a discount before I paid. Now I feel so ugly without my long hair, and I'm crushed because that was just over 12 months of growth. It was nearly down to my waist, only half an inch away, which was my hair goal. But I know my ends were CRISPY in that last inch or 2.

I'm trying to stay positive and thought that doing my best to grow it out and keep it even healthier would be a good place to start. So here is my current routine, please give whatever advice you think I should consider!

I wash my hair once every 5 to 7 days. The night before washing, I use HoliRoots scalp oil from Fable and Mane, then I put a good amount of MoroccanOil hair oil on my mids to ends and braid it. I Shampoo twice, once with Ouai detox then with MoroccanOil (Hydrating shampoo). I use a hair mask, I switch between a few but lately have been using Oribe Gold Lust, let it sit for 5 min then rinse and use MoroccanOil Hydrating conditioner.

After washing, I pat and lightly squeeze my hair with a microfiber hair towel. I use Olaplex no 7 hair oil and MoroccanOil hair oil, leave in conditioner, and a small amount of styling cream (all MoroccanOil brand). I do use a detangler spray but I plan to discontinue and find a different one. I do not brush my hair when wet, altho sometimes I gently detangle the ends with my hair pick (starting from the very tips and only going up about an inch or 2). I let the length of my hair air dry and I only blow dry my bangs (I use heat protectant from Not Your Mother's as well as some hair oil and styling cream).

I switched to mostly MoroccanOil products in the last 2 months and have not gone back to Ouai since. Started using the shampoo and conditioner back in November. I do still have some of the leave in conditioner and the detox shampoo, but I'm only using the shampoo from them right now.

As for during the week, I brush my hair once in the morning and once before bed, (after applying both hair oils to my mids and ends) starting from the very tips and slowly going upwards. I use one of those detangler brushes with flexible bristles. I switch between that and a boar bristle brush when my hair gets more oily near the scalp. I have been trying to phase out dry shampoo since it causes me to get dander.

Overnight, I braid it sometimes but I mostly sleep with it losely twisted and then lay it above my head on my pillow. I use silk pillowcases.

Rarely do I wear my hair in a ponytail or any updo other than 1/3rd back, and I use claw clips for that. I plan to get back into braiding it again now that it is back to being mostly one length (previous haircut gave me more layers than I wanted).

Any and all advice/support is greatly appreciated!!

Stylist cut off 8 inches when I asked for only 2 off, how do I keep my cool and grow it back even better?


Tidying my house and finally using this clearance hair clip and am wondering if it’s too much? Is it too dated? Too high? It’s an iridescent baby blue clip.

I Love how it hold up my heavy hair.
My head feels best jn  clips rather than hair ties.hair ties  give me headaches.

I also work in healthcare if that matters.

Hair clip? Too much?


Hellooo all,

**1. What is everyones morning/ night time hair care routine?**
**2. What's a non-negotiable when it comes to your hair?**

I've come to realize that I have hair down to my bum, and have no idea how to take care of it. I've noticed it's gone from naturally so thick and bouncy/ could leave it in a bun to air dry and have the best curls for days, to straight, thin and scraggly. I know some of this may be natural from getting older (I'm 30), hormonal, nutritional, etc. But I'd like to know how I can do my part to take care of it every day and get it/ keep it healthy again.

\*I use natural sulphate free products from a local maker, no heat, silk pillowcase, claw clips.

*Bonus if anyone:*

\- Has experienced major hairloss at the temples & has some suggestions/ advice.

\- Knows why your hair goes from having volume to flat and straight, and if it will ever go back.

*Start a thread of your morning and night time hair routine*


Can any recommend a decent claw clip that will actually hold up long hair? My hair isn't even crazy long (barely to my belly button) and it's pretty thin too but for the life of me I can't find a claw clip that will keep it all up on my head.

The best one I've been able to find used to work great but lately (I'm assuming my hairs gotten a bit longer) it keeps falling out and it's so sore when that happens, it pulls my hair out. I've tried looking online, searching for extra large claw clips but any I buy arrive and are smaller than the one I'm currently using.

I've also tried using hair pins and forks but I can't seem to figure out how to keep it secure. It's getting to the point where I just braid it and I'm getting bored of that. I have days where I get so frustrated that I'm tempted just to cut my hair shorter but I don't really want to do that. So any recommendations would be very welcomed, thank you!

Claw Clip Recommendations


I live in NYC and the only alligator clips I can find are Diane, the knockoff brand that uses poor-quality plastics. Some of them break on first use. I think I already had 3, bought another pack of 6, and now I only have 2 after a month of use. Some of them broke on first use or before even putting them in my hair.

I've seen a lot of different names for what I'm talking about so in case there's any confusion, [this is what I mean](https://i5.walmartimages.com/seo/24-Pack-Alligator-Hair-Clips-Styling-Sectioning-Larger-Salon-Pro-Barber-Coloring-Cutting-Big-Gator-Cutting_e116fac3-0eb8-4112-990a-3472e9fc36c4.5e8f952e33e67475e8155d0e7505c4f0.jpeg?odnHeight=768&odnWidth=768&odnBg=FFFFFF).

I have big hair so I need something strong enough to hold it, and alligator clips have always worked best for me but I have no idea which ones will last a while. I'd love some brand recommendations!

Looking for Quality Alligator/Crocodile Clips


I decided at one point that I wanted to see how long my hair would get on its own, and at first it was very casual but now I really love having long hair.

Current hair routine:

I shower every other day, sometimes I go three days but my hair gets REALLY oily. Even after 2 days the roots can start to look bad.

In the shower I shampoo (only roots), use a hair mask (only ends), and condition (only ends). I use leave-in conditioner and a wet brush, and then I let my hair air dry without putting it up.

During the day I tend to leave it down a lot, sometimes I wear braids or claw clips but it’s really thick and I hate when it pulls (so no buns most of the time). I use regular hair ties but I know that’s not always the best thing.

I have argan oil but I don’t really know how to use it. Sometimes I’ll put it on the ends before bed. I sleep in one-two braids and have a silk pillowcase (I’ve tried using the bonnets but I have sensory processing issues and can’t tolerate it)

Any advice is appreciated!

What should I be doing for my hair?


My hair is past my butt length, the claw clips I’m using right now are holding on to dear life.
Most of the ones I get, either easily break or don’t hold all my hair for too long. I swear I’m not even wearing it to bed. I work in healthcare so I have to have my hair up at work, so I’m desperate for a sturdy claw clip.

The only one I found to be best from Instagram is a brand called Tonirose but it’s in Canada and the shipping cost is so high, I’d have to pay £20+ just for one clip.

Please suggest a really good, strong, affordable claw clip that holds all my hair in a bun
And scrunchies as well because satin makes my bun loose after a while.

Please be kind, don’t tell me to cut my hair to solve this problem… I’m not ready just yet.

Really strong xxl claw clip suggestions? (UK)


Looking for protective style recommendations for wavy/straight hair.
I have a very manual labour job, thick hair, and am averse to EVERYTHING, ALWAYS. Buns tend to leave me with breakage or get in my way, and can be heavy. Ponytails tend to leave me with breakage and get badly knotted in 2 or 3 hours. Claw clips are nice when I’m upright but if I have to get under a truck or in a small space they will snag.
Braids seem to work best for me overall but is there a way I can make it… like… better? I’ve figured out starting further up on my scalp w/ the top layer of hair makes it more secure and less likely to come apart at the top. I need something tight, secure, and not likely to get caught or knotted!!

Protective (Genuinely) Styles for Straight or Wavy Hair that AREN’T a single braid


i would really like to use forks/sticks, but they tend to pull on my hair and i notice more hair fall than usual. i had the same issue with claw clips. what’s the best type for me? i have thin and fine hair that’s about five inches past my armpits. are hair forks or hair sticks a better choice?

issues with hair forks/sticks


For personal reasons I do not wear my hair down in public. Not even in braids or a ponytail. It is currently mid-back length, (is that the right term?) VERY thick, and a mixture of 2C and 3A curl pattern. It’s gotten so heavy that it’s really very uncomfortable to use any kind of hairtie to secure it in a bun. It pulls me scalp and gives me horrible headaches and it takes 2-3 hairties to even secure it. I have been rocking the currently trendy claw clip french twist pretty much every single day for awhile and I love it. It’s easy to do, looks cute even if it’s messy, and it doesn’t pull my hair at the scalp or hurt at the end of the day. However, I’m starting to struggle to find claw clips big enough to hold all of my hair because it’s just so thick. I see the magic on this thread of those of you with 3x as much hair as me securing it with a single hair stick and I’m in awe. Is that truly my best option going forward? Does it stay all day without falling out? What options do you all recommend? Thanks in advance :)

How do you all secure your hair??


Hi all. Came to a realization recently. I had a microfiber towel I was using for a few years but accidentally washed it with something colorful that turned the white towel into a dirty-looking yellow towel. I hopped online to look for a new hair towel.

A few months later I noticed all 3 of my hairbrushes were always dirty, especially with lint. At first I thought I wasn't keeping my house clean enough as I have 3 pets and my HVAC ducts need some repairs. I deep-cleaned the brushes and upped my cleaning schedule, but still my brushes were always dirty.

So I started keeping them in clear protective bags when not in use thinking that the hole in my HVAC is kicking up so much dust that I can't fight it until we get it fixed. Still, my brushes were so dirty despite regular cleanings and I even had to replace one.

It dawned on me that they weren't dusty - they were full of grey lint. Guess what color my new hair towel is.

For those of us with long-hair, using the right towel on your hair can make a **huge** difference in how long it takes to dry your hair, how clean your hair stays between washes, how often you have to deep-clean your brushes, and I have the feeling that lint in your hair can contribute to tangles and maybe dryness (anyone have an article about this? I can't find one but I have a hunch.)

You don't have to buy anything special, but the towel in your regular set probably isn't the best choice. A plain cotton T-shirt from a dollar store can work just fine if you're on a budget. If you're shopping on the information superhighway, look very carefully at the product and the reviews. Unfortunately the grey linty towel I bought actually had decent reviews, so that's not always a great indicator, so be careful when you're shopping.

The more time you spend drying your hair because of poor towel absorption, or if you have to wash and detangle your hair earlier because of lint build-up and dirty brushes, or you try new expensive products because you think your hair is tangly, or you spend a lot of time cleaning brushes or money buying clean brushes... these things can lead to *increasing hair damage*, and *decreasing the time and money you can spend on other things*, like fancy hair clips.

Hope you're having a good hair day!

PSA: Your hair towel makes a big difference


My hair is bellybutton-length, medium/fine, and slippery.

I usually wear it down but when I want to get it out of my way the only updo I find comfortable is twisted, piled on top of my head, and secured with [a claw clip like this](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81FUwD2pSqL._SL1500_.jpg).

Nothing else works. I hate ponytails, braids, and other "unsecured" styles that swing about and itch. Mid-scalp dos are awful, hate the pulling sensation and weight of hair attached at that position. Anything involving twisting and sticks/forks/etc. unravels. Even that popular Nautilus bun is not for me.

So, back to claw clips: I only like that plastic style because I can't feel the clip (which you do if it's too long or oddly shaped or a heavy material). But they're only sold in two sizes: big enough to hold all my hair but heavy and can feel the claws, OR, just a bit too small. Even in the best case scenario it eventually gets heavy and causes my scalp to hurt. And most of them break easily.

Wondering if anyone else here has or had similar problems and if you've found some holy grail clip?

Also: shedding is so annoying and scary. Normal human hair loss is 50-100 strands per day and when you have long hair that looks like A LOT more than it is. A few strands come out every time I run my hand through my hair -- even if I've done everything right: brushed it, slept in braid, took my vitamins. And the cleaning! Ugh. I'm seriously considering a Roomba.

My husband likes to joke about #longhairdontcare and how it's definitely not the case. Much care involved.

Long hair problems: 1. I only like claw clips but they hurt after a while 2. It's EVERYwhere.


Hello, Reddit! My first post ever, and I am wondering if anyone else shares my pain. Growing up, I had never been overly feminine. If anything I considered myself tomboyish, so naturally makeup, hair, and clothes didn't interest me as much as other girls at the time. Now twenty-one, I'm finally coming around and it's only around a year ago that I braided my hair for the first time ever.

(Which I failed the first time. I ended up braiding my hair together under my chin. Oof. Happens to the best of us right?) Now I find myself wanting to style my hair and experiment! Except my hair doesn't make that an easy task for me. It's thick, tangles super easily, and is naturally wavy. Frankly my hairstyles are either up or down, and now that I've braided, that one is included, too. Outside of using a curling iron or a straightener, there's seemingly nothing I can do with my hair. I either wear it down, braid it, or I tie it up. The end.

I've never been able to do buns either. The only bun I've been able to do isn't really a bun, it's like a weird giant fluffy bang that hangs over my face...Sort of like Tinkerbell but with more hair. I've never dabbled with bobby pins, or hair clips. I'm basically a hair-styling virgin. At least that's what it feels like.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Any tips? I've tried Googling, going on Reddit, and searching for YouTube videos but nothing has helped thus far.

Also, whenever I braid, I can't braid my hair between my fingers. I take sections and pin them under my arm pits and braid with my arms/body....If that makes any sense at all. It just seems like my fingers won't cooperate and do braids if I just use my hands. My hair's too thick to get into clean sections. It's like math to me, I can't wrap my brain around it.

If anyone has any hairstyle ideas, I'm all ears.

Confused and eager,

Blondie.

Styling Super Long Hair. (Rear/Thigh Length)


I have hip-length hair. I would love to use hair pins and sticks, but they don’t seem to be able to hold all my hair together. My hair slides off, or there is a long “tail” that doesn’t fit. It feels that having a longer pin would fix these problems.

Is there a brand that makes these  kind of accessories for very long hair?

French pins, forks, and stick for very long hair?


Hi!

So, my situation:

Buttlength, abundant but individual strands are thin (still, hairdressers always want to thin it out), sorta wavy hair (it waves when wet, dries down frizzy and semi-wavy, holds a soft wave well), in a sort of bronze color that turns into rich liquid gold in the sun. vague description of features: I am narrow-boned bodywise, long neck, small oval narrow-jawed face with great cheekbones and a stronger nose. Eyes kinda hooded, low brow ridge, average white person lips.

While it isn't quite perfect and damage free like some hairinfluencers, I am pretty close to princess hair. I love it, and I love the ability to do nice crown braids, some GOT like stuff, and so on. I would NOT want to get rid of my length of thickness at all, having long hair just feels right.

But it's very easy for it to look quite... traditionalist and conservative. As a queer woman in the liberal arts who doesn't vibe with all the way vintage style cottagecore either, it often feels a bit disjointed. Especially on days when my outfit also lacks some edge (also happens too easily). My everyday quick semi-french braid (or double ones) \*can\* look fine, but when I do a small detail wrong, yeah... The only hairstyle that is pretty consistently good is a messy crown braid, but I don't want to wear that all the time either (it doesn't work with hats etc) I don't feel 100%. So now I've been looking for an idea on what to do with my actual hair, so that un-or barely styled (the 5 minute braid) it also looks more like I am a creative. Something that doesn't impact most of my hair color or length wise, and I can still braid with it's thickness and length, but that just gives that little bit extra. But I am quite frankly at a loss. I don't know the name of things/what to type in for picture examples, or the examples have very different hair textures, faces etc.

TL;DR: ideas in terms of cut/ a bit of color to make buttlength hair more creative and "gay" looking

I am also looking into hair accessories, but I want it to be visible in the front (I like decoration near my face), and I get headaches from "hard" accessories very quickly, so solid headbands etc are tricky.

hairstyle ideas - want to keep long hair, but "edgier"


I've ran out of hair accessories, and ended up putting my hair up with a 6.5in pencil for an entire month. I'm super impressed but overwhelmed by all the choices out there.

This cheap and generic ones have a nice style, but I'd like a good quality one.

Please recommend a hairpin


I added little snowflakes!!! I am loving the new hair accessories lol

Elsa Braid


My friend went to Japan and brought me back many trinkets and hair accessories including a NEW CINNAMOROLL BOW!! As I love Sanrio, I am very excited

Ft. A very nicely done simple braid

New Bow!!


How do you store your hair ties and hair accessories?
I would love to hear your ideas (:

Inspiration


Also if anyone knows of any European based sellers (maybe on etsy) who sells Christmas hair accessories, do tell XD <3

Finally get to wear this clip I was gifted, so cute<3


I love beautiful hair accessories, but not spending every few minutes making adjustments. I see some people with slippery hair that stays intact throughout and thus wonder what techniques or types of hair accessories they use. I love to add hair jewelry to my hair, though this depends on occasion, event, or mood. Is there something I can add under the cuff? Or which designs are better? Does material or weight matter? Which hacks, products, or styles can help prevent hair accessories from slipping?

How do you stop hair jewelry from slipping on silky hair?


Hey! | (22 F) have 2B hair that annoys me when it gets long. I got a chin length bob 3 months ago which has now grown out. It was comfortable and off my neck for like a month before it started getting annoying again, and that’s why I’m debating going shorter. I have had long hair growing up mid back length all my life and I mainly wore it in a ponytail growing up due to feeling irradiated by my hair- this did feel so heavy though. I have been gradually cutting my hair shorter and shorter these last two years.

I cut it because I got frustrated with having to detangle, brush it, and because I  the way hair feels on my neck and back, especially when it's wet. It also gets heavy, I get overheated from it in and buns/ ponytails/ hair accessories feel not great!! I loved my hair when I first cut it three months ago so much easier, faster, and I slept so good every night not having hair in my way. I was so much happier and comfortable.  However I wanted to grow it out cause I’m graduating college next semester and want to have long hair for photos.

It has now grown to my shoulders from my chin and ughhh I feel it constantly on my neck and it’s just so annoying. I am now tempted to atleast cut my hair back to chin length if not shorter (maybe a bixie). I am afraid I’ll regret not growing it out for my college graduation.  Anyways debating cutting it back to my chin, or shorter, or growing it out till my chest. Should I cut my hair shorter, back to chin, or grow it?

Long or short hair?


Hey there,

I have really long, thick, and very heavy hair. I’ve been trying out French pins and hair combs for updos, like French twist combs, but I’m getting pretty frustrated because most of the stuff from Amazon just doesn’t hold my hair. Do you think this is more of a technique thing, or do I need different products?

I’m not a native speaker and honestly have no clue about this stuff, just trying to get some advice. :)

Styling accessories for long, thick, and very heavy hair


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Hi everyone! For those of you who use hair forks, hair sticks, or any other type of accessory like Ficcares or Flexis, which maker do you own the most accessories from? I thought it would be nice to share our favorites and also maybe pick up recommendations from others.

For me personally, in the hair fork category I think I have the most from BaerreisCollection, and in the hair stick category I believe I own the most from WoodEverIImagine. I like the design of the Baerreis forks and the selection of woods available, and for WEII I love the fact that her sticks are acrylic so you can wear them into the shower if you want.

I’ve posted pictures of my collections of each. Feel free to share your pictures as well so we can admire each others’ stuff.

Hair stick/fork maker you own the most accessories from?


Halloween is coming up! What are your ideas/plans for costumes that utilize your long hair?

My last two years:
Mermaid - just a braid and ocean beads/accessories
Giraffe - my hair became the giraffe’s ossicles

Halloween ideas for long hair?


I thought I wanted elbow length hair. I’m now about an inch off and I’m tired of it. The washing, the drying, the working out with it, the products, the accessories. Just wondering if I’ll deeply regret it if I chop it off…. Any thoughts appreciated!!

Tempted to chop it off


I like to put my hair in a bun but it always becomes loose so fast even if I tie it tightly. Are there other tools/accessories to put my long hair up? I heard of banana clips but I don't know if they're secure.

How can I put my hair up the whole day without it falling?


I have done screwed up.

I had hair down to my lower back at the start of the year, but decided to get a haircut when I went back to work in late March. One of my colleagues at work is an aspiring hair stylist, so I thought I'd let her practice on me and get a nice haircut out of it. It does look nice, to be fair, with layers and stuff, but I regret it a lot because it's just not... Me anymore.

I any case, regrets aside, those we can only wait for time to pass, I work in the cruise ship industry, and at work, we always have to have our hair in a bun.

Previously, this was no issue, I would use a Nautilus bun, but now I just. Can't. Do anything with it. My hair has always been very slippery, and now with the layers it just keeps falling apart. Either I have to do it super tight with a comb clip (which isn't great because then I'm really damaging my hair), or if I try to use one of those roll up bun makers, it always feels really lose and slippery.

I'm losing my mind over here. I'm already super regretful of cutting my hair, because I can't do a braid properly without it falling apart, and I don't know what to do to make sure my hair grows nicely, especially as I start getting older, I've been taking vitamins and stuff, but I never know if that does anything, but now I can't even do my hair properly for work without feeling like I'm damaging it even further!

Does anyone have any solutions for protective bun styles without visible accessories with bra strap length layered hair?

First picture is of the low bun with the bun wrapper I tried that fell apart in three seconds, second picture is of my hair as I usually do it, very tight but also probably damaging seeing as I already broke one hair comb clip tooth.

Looking for a protective bun style for layered hair


As my hair gets longer, I’m finding my current grays are mostly in the front. It looks like on purpose highlights, a cousin asked if I had the highlights added. Anyway, I’m looking to pull the sides back to display my “highlights.” Are there any tight barrettes that aren’t too damaging. My hair is fine and slippy. Any suggestions?

Safe Hair Accessories


I am devastated. I am a 35F. Never had good hair I could be proud of. I decided to finally grow it long. 3 years ago I started taking very good care of it. I never ever applied heat or styling products anyway. Stopped using harmful accessories. Read stupid advice of washing only once a week and sticked to it. Started using rosemary oil weekly and saw great results. I got so happy that I became crazy and impatient. So started applying it 2-3 times a week and washing hair 2-3 times a week. In addition, started doing "inversion method". Daily massage with wooden brush.

I dnt know what happened but my hair completely stopped growing. It got stuck on mid-back length and not changing. I got a haircut (long bob) hoping it would making a difference, last September (2024). It hasn't grown an inch since.

What can I do now? Leave it alone? I went back to washing once a week btw. Quit all care recently. Will it ever grow again?

I ruined my hair with too much care


I've wanted long hair since I was a small boy. I never fully understood why, and don't fully understand it now, but I've discovered some truths about being a long-haired male.

\- You are memorable - You will stick out in others' minds as "that long-haired guy" or "that guy with the ponytail". This may be good or bad depending on what you are looking for.

\- It is sensuous - I had heard this before, but wasn't ready for the reality. Tossing a ponytail over your shoulder or running your hands through your hair just feels really good! It may even give you tingles!

\- You are a role model to little girls - You probably know quite a bit on hair care, hair products, hair accessories, and various styles.  If there are any little girls in your life (e.g. daughters, nieces, granddaughters, little sisters), you can probably bun or ponytail them better than 95% of other men and be seen as a caring, nurturing male role model.

\- You are a role model to little boys - You, as a mature adult, can be the inspiration for that boy who wants to grow his hair out but is afraid to do so for fear of what others will think. You portray to them that they can make their own choices and need not be bound to gender stereotypes.

\- You actually save money - I certainly buy more hair products now than I did before growing it out, but I'm not taking monthly trips to the barber to have my hair cut from falling in front of my eyes. I generally get by with a bottle of shampoo, a bottle of hair gel, and a pack of hair ties, both of which last me months. When my hair gets uneven or damaged, I just grab a pair of scissors and cut the ends. Pretty easy! The downside is it takes a lot of brushing, but that's not too hard.

Things I didn't know until I became a long-haired man.


1. Two metal hairstick connected by two chains, feel super secure and very light weight. Pearls are fake but I don’t mind  😉
2. a simple metal french pin
3. A wriggly wooden hairstick, keeps in place very well thanks to the shape
4. Another french pin but this time acrylic, very lightweight and feels super secure thanks to the wrigly shape
5. My first french comb, need some practice but absolutely love how it looks!

All hairstyles were done with just the accessory. No extra bobby-pins needed for now. If anyone has any recommendations for tutorials on french combs I’d love to hear!

Got some new hair accessories and I adore them


I wanna hear all your favs for long, thick hair. Hair clips that hold and don’t slide out.
Headbands that stay put and don’t pull on the scalp. I get the worst sore scalp when I tie up my hair. I want tips, I want your go to’s.

Let’s talk hair accessories


I like wearing my hair down but it gets stuck EVERYWHERE, so sometimes I need to put it up so it doesn’t get in the way. I want an alternative to claw clips.
I tried banana clips, and my hair looked fine, but it broke on the second use (probably a quality issue, but still).
What’s something I can use that’s easy, keeps my hair secure, and still makes it look good? What do you all prefer?
Also, do you all have any beginner-friendly braid tutorials for someone with layers?

What Type of Hair Clips/Accessories Do You All Use?


Just wanted to share/ brag on my husband. He beaded this hair pin and I thought you all would appreciate ☺

Hair accessories


I'm getting spinal surgery soon (positive and necessary, please clap!), and I'm not keen to cut my hip-length, very fine, very prodigious hair for a combination of pragmatic and vanity reasons. The procedure itself is mid-back, so it's not necessary to cut my hair for surgical reasons, as long as it's up and out of the way. However, I will be in the hospital for 2-5 days following the surgery, and unable to sit up at all for the first 24 hours, so whatever hairstyle I go into the hospital with is probably the one I need to have for the entire duration. The only person I will have to help me is my mom, and she will be so incredibly bad at this, like, I cannot convey how much I do not want her helping me with my hair. I'm also very likely to have a CSF leak and/or a horrific migraine for part or all of my hospital adventure, so my scalp will probably be very painful and sensitive.

I think my best bet for hairstyles is probably two tight dutch braids, wrapped around my head and pinned in place, which I think will hold up well enough for a few days without falling out or getting too matted like a top knot would. However, I don't know how to pin the braids up in a way that won't pull on my scalp or inadvertently stab me with a bobby pin. Does anyone have advice on what kinds of pins to use for this, or another method of styling that would be immovable for five days without having to put a bunch of pins in my hair?

I'm also willing to trim my hair up to probably collarbone height at the absolute shortest; I need to still be able to pull my hair into an easy top knot because I have to wear a cervical collar in parts of my day to day life, and it's generally a non-starter to have my hair down when I have a neck brace on.

I have a few weeks to acquire hair accessories and practice different styles, so please give me all your suggestions!

Least painful hairstyle for inpatient surgery?


Could someone please tell me what this hair accessory is called. I have been trying to find it but just can’t 😆

Hair accessories


Hey guys! Just doing a quick survey. What hair accessories do you use to spice up your look? I’ve seen a lot of people mention scrunchies, claw clips, and hair sticks, but I’m curious to know what your go-to’s are. Any favorites you can't live without?

What Are Your Favorite Hair Accessories?


Looking to jazz up my hair a bit and am looking for pretty and sustainable hair combs (or other accessories - barrettes, hair forks, hair pins etc) to put my hair up with. I'd like something that can be worn every day while still looking nice.

I'm in the UK if that helps, but overseas companies should be fine too, although shipping may be a bit too expensive.

Any recs?

Thanks!

Oh and my hair is currently shoulder-blade length if that makes a difference too.

Where to buy pretty and small-business-made hair combs?


Does anyone else get asked "your hair is so long! Why do you always wear it up!?"
My only response is I've spent too much money on hair accessories and haven't been able to use then for 4 years 🤣
But I also want Princess hair! 🥰

Does anyone else get asked this?


Right now mine are in several makeup bags but I find this causes me to not wear many items because they are not easily accessed.

For those who have a lot of hair accessories: how do you store them?


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January: trim damaged ends. photograph current length. Invest in silk pillowcases and bonnet. Purge all/most damaging accessories/hair ties.

Long hair challenge: January


What hair accessories cause damage? How do you spot if an accessory is causing damage?


Hey all! So, the top layer of my hair is always frizzy. I assume it is damage, but I don't do that much to my hair. I'm 39, I use natural shampoo bars, and natural conditioner, and I wash my hair 1-2 times a week. I try to stay away from silicones. Last time I used dye was maybe 4 years ago. No bleach; occasional sun in during the summer when at the lake. I used heat accessories maybe once a week.

Is there any recommendations to smooth the top layer? It tends to run curls when it is fizzy. Thank you in advance!

Frizz


How much do you spend per month on hair care and accessories?


body.

How do you guys wear your hair on the daily? What accessories or styles do you wear most often?


How many and what types?

What are your favorites and every day go-tos?

How many hair accessories do you own?


Basically I have butt length hair, quite thick, with a slight wave to it. I‘ve been looking for protective hairstyles or hair accessories that prevent breakage and also don’t pull on my scalp. I’m looking for both daytime and sleeping hairstyles.

However, I will admit, I am awful at doing hair. I’m pretty incompetent when it comes to styling. I can do a basic braid but anything beyond that is a mystery to me. Ive been trying to practice a variety of styles but I feel like I just end up doing more damage in the long run.

Does anyone have any recommendations for hairstyles or hair accessories that offer protection but are reasonably easy to do?

Protective Hairstyles or accessories for people who are bad at hairstyling


Wearing the Lillarose Charming Rays of Sunshine flexi clip 🌞 in a size XXL. This is one of those hair accessories I use a lot during summer because I know I'll for sure not be wearing during the winter season.

Lillarose Sunshine 🌞 Flexi Clip


I have about waist length hair and when wearing it down (no pins or accessories in it or anything) I have twice set off metal detectors at airports/ courts. Has anyone else experienced this or know how this happens?

long hair setting off metal detectors?


One of my favorite hair accessories is definitely, hands down ficcare Hair clips, this one is the Victorian in size Large.

Ficcare Hair Clip


I have straight, fine and thinning hair down to my hips. Because it's quite thin I prefer to wear it up. Does anyone have recommendations for accessories that aren't made of plastic for updos? I'm thinking metal clips or wooden pins for nautilus buns etc. Also does anyone has alternatives to hair elastics that work? When I braid my hair the elastic at the end always seems to fall off.

Zero waste/ eco friendly hair accessories


Hi everyone. I am getting married in about a year and starting to look for vendors including a hair stylist for the wedding.

My hair is butt length and I plan to continue growing it out over the next year for the wedding. I know I’d like a half up style so my hair is long in the back, and I don’t plan on wearing a veil as I really want to feature my hair. I’m looking for inspiration for half-up wedding-appropriate styles to show the hair stylist.

I am open to any suggestions! Pinterest boards/examples? Accessories?

TIA!

Wedding hair ideas…?


So, I've had long hair for all my life, but mostly just wore it in ponytails and wasn't very skilled with updos. Recently though, I really invested in learning to make various buns and acquiring quality hair forks/sticks/other accessories, and it was a life changer. I found some very comfortable and nice-looking buns and was pretty happy about it for a few months.

Then I decided that if I'm all serious about my hair now, I should also go trim my overgrown ends because my mom always called them ugly and "rat ends", and they indeed got too long and a trim is overdue. So, my hair was somewhere in the middle between tailbone and knee length, then I trimmed it to waist length (in a soft blunt U-cut). Like, it's still pretty long anyway? Lots of hair left, the majority of volume preserved and the ends were thin anyway (though they weren't really damaged, just very tapered). It should be easier to manage waist-length hair into hairdos! It's a bit awkward when your hair is longer than your arms.

Yeah, no. A mistake, that was. And now I'm full of regret and annoyance. Turns out, your "ratty" and "ugly" fairytale ends give you +100 bun sturdiness. They're the secret ingredient of bun success. They coil around nicely and stay where you put them. They taper, so you have no problem with tucking them all at once in tight spaces. They hold on to themselves even without pins. And the blunt and firm same-length ends just spring out of everything. They're not to be contained in a bun, it's impossible to tuck them in for long, no matter how hard you try. And once they started poking out, the construction itself starts unraveling (and it looks chaotically ugly while doing it). They even scratch and poke my scalp when tucked in the wrong direction! Aaaaaargh. Now I understand why some people complain about buns always falling apart. I mean, some hair is just generally tough and rebellious, but even my soft, pliable hair is a bun nightmare with the freshly cut ends. So if people trim their ends regularly, their hair is just permanently like this, no wonder their buns fall apart. Kinda eye-opening. Though trimmed ends look nice in ponytails or worn down, so it's a matter of priorities.

Thankfully, my hair grows pretty fast and I hope it'll be back to manageable in a few months, and I'm not gonna trim it ~~ever again~~ until it's tapered again and only slightly after that. But I wanted to ask for some advice dealing with rebellious ends until then. I can't be the only one falling into this? How do you tame your ends, fellow sufferers? Are there ways aside of using three million pins and a hair spray at once? Maybe some buns hold ends better than others? Maybe hair combs instead of forks? Teach me your ways, please!

Be careful about trimming your fairytale ends! Also, advice needed


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hair sticks or other hair accessories for men?


Hello, my name is Sam. I am a student of NewSchool of Architecture and Design in San Diego CA. I am surveying people who would be interested in improving their hair health, in order to develop a new type of hair tie that will be less abrasive on hair and easier to use. All participants will remain anonymous. This survey is 14 questions long and will take approximately 3 mins or less.

Qualifying Questions:

Are you at least 18 years of age?

Do you or have you ever had long hair?

Have you ever noticed your hair getting damaged from tying it up?

Do you seek healthier hair?

Please follow the link below to complete the short survey. Thank you for your time and help with my research.

[https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSekVF-Uw1Q2gGTYOJt72mv5M1FgWs9EPOkMPkTikZmNG9QqMQ/viewform?usp=sf\_link](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSekVF-Uw1Q2gGTYOJt72mv5M1FgWs9EPOkMPkTikZmNG9QqMQ/viewform?usp=sf_link)

Hair Damage Caused by Poorly Designed Hair Accessories


Has anyone tried the velcro hair rollers from Luxy?

[https://www.luxyhair.com/collections/luxy-hair-extensions-accessories/products/velcro-roller-set](https://www.luxyhair.com/collections/luxy-hair-extensions-accessories/products/velcro-roller-set)

[https://www.luxyhair.com/collections/luxy-hair-extensions-accessories/products/pink-hair-roller-set](https://www.luxyhair.com/collections/luxy-hair-extensions-accessories/products/pink-hair-roller-set)

I've seen some reviews on blogs / websites but not here. They come at a premium compared to Amazon, but I do like the idea of purchasing something sustainably made. I also have hair down to my waist and I want to minimize damage/

Luxy Hair Rollers - Worth the premium?


Are there any accessories I can use in a style like this in place of just plain elastics? I like wearing my hair like this because it doesn't cut as much length as a braid does, and it doesn't frizz as much.


So do you guys just use hair ties and scrunchies, or do any of you use clips and sticks and such.

Hair accessories


I have had very long hair my whole adult life and I really liked it. It was a pain in the butt though and I usually couldn't maintain it very well and it would look stringy. I would shed hairs all over and it was super embarrassing. But still I loved it. It was ME.

I've been going through some major changes in my life and wanted to get a haircut to sort of represent me changing. I actually wanted to donate my hair, but my husband talked me out of it since it would have been too short. He even showed me on my hair where they should cut it, still below the shoulder just a little shorter.

I went to a salon with a picture of someone with below shoulder length hair and sideswept bangs. She barely looked at the picture and started cutting. I was shocked at how short it was! So much shorter than I wanted and no bangs either. I was completely deflated, but I tried to stay positive because I did want a change after all.

My husband is the sweetest, nicest man in the world, but he basically said he liked it better longer (me too!). I'm already incredibly self conscious about my appearance and this is a huge blow for me. I feel so hideous, unattractive. A previous boyfriend got very angry at me once when I cut my long hair so I think I am internally still dealing with that. I feel like my hair is such a major part of me, I feel completely lost without it. I hate feeling the shortness in my hands. I close my eyes when I pass a mirror. I hate how I look, way more than I used to. I feel like garbage about myself.

I bought a bunch of hair accessories to help feel somewhat better about it. Does anyone have any tips on growing hair back fast? I'm so depressed. Help!

Loss of identity with short haircut


My hairs about classic length now and too long for the claw clips ive been previously using. So im making a new shopping list. So far I've got giant claw clips, new hair sticks, silk scrunchies and a very good paddle brush. What do you all use?

What are your "must have" hair accessories for extremely long hair?


My hair’s long enough now that I like wearing it down and natural. It’s about waist length, fine, stick straight, silky.

I prefer it all pushed behind my shoulders. But I *am* a living, moving person. Within a few moments, my hair ends up climbing forward over my shoulders, covering my chest, in my business, attacking my life.

Who’s got the hacks? How do I keep it in check? Do I just never not be hair flipping?

Ideally there wouldn’t be *visible* styling accessories like clips, pins, combs. And, in the name of our lord and savior Cher, please don’t say “headband”.

Hair down, but behind my shoulders. Anyone have a hack on keeping it from sneaking up front?


Curious to see if there are any more of me out there haha. Aside from being able to trim it I largely kept my hair the same and I’m hopeful to grow it out even longer. And now I’m having fun with hairstyles and accessories that weren’t allowed before :)

(Btw no negativity if you’re currently in the church. Everyone is free to practice their beliefs as they choose. It just didn’t work out for me)

Ps I didn’t know what flair to pick and it made me choose one so sorry about that

Did anyone else leave Pentecostalism but kept their long hair?


I've always wanted long hair. I'll grow it out, it will get past my shoulders and then I get bored with it, cut it off (this usually happens riiiight after I buy a bunch of accessories that I can only use with long hair haha), love my short hair for a few months, then start missing my long hair and begin the multi-year process of growing it out all over again.

A few years ago, I decided that I was just going to push through the boredom and grow it out no matter what. My goal is to get it waist length. Currently, it is just about to the bottom of my boobs and I hate it. I hate it so much. My hair is thin, fine and straight but it isn't sleek? It tends to get kind of puffy/frizzy unless I use a flat iron -- which is terrible and damages my hair.

I think my problem is that I don't really know how to care for my long hair. I basically just shampoo and condition it every few days, wrap it in a microfiber wrap for a bit and then let it air dry. But the ends feel soooo dry and it all feels so straggly to me.

Do you have recommendations on products to use? Oils, hair masks, shampoo, conditioner, etc. Pretend that I am very dumb about hair (because I am) and talk to me like I am a simpleton.

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How do I take care of my hair so I don't get frustrated and just cut it all off?


Hey everyone, I donated my basket of metal hair sticks to a local thrift store a few years ago and now I'm kicking myself after growing my hair back out. They are long gone and hopefully making someone else very happy haha.

Where can I find hair sticks around 5-6 inches long? My old ones were 4.5 inches, I still have one left, and my hair just eats the whole stick when I use it.

Any other hair accessories or solutions are also welcome! I'm current using 3 large claw clips to keep my bun up and would love a change.

Where to buy/find hair sticks and forks?


My hair even with no metal accessories in it sets off the metal detector, does anyone else have this problem? Why is this happening to me?

Airport metal detectors


I personally avoid hair elastics with a metal clasp because they tend to rip out my hair. I also avoid metal clips because they tend to slide out of place unless they have a secondary locking mechanism, such as a French barrette. I also no longer keep any large headbands because I don't have a good place to store them at the moment.

What accessories do you avoid any why?

What hair accessories do you AVOID and why?


been trying to grow my hair out for so long, but since it's so curly it is of course taking forever! it looks so blah right now... do you think I should keep trying to grow it out or cut it to sort of a bob length with curly bangs? or any other recommendations? also, my hair gets less curly when it's short fyi! ALSO! my curly routine is co-wash with one protein mask and one hydrating mask per week. then I use the emi jay heavenly hair milk and either diffuse or air dry.

grow out or curly bob with bangs??


Emi Jay fired her whole warehouse employees